Do most woman have "toys?"

[need2bme]

Yes I have one... call it "BOB" battery operated boyfriend and NO.. its not the same not at all.

 

Now I know who/what "Bob" is. Um, I have to go make a quick phone call.

 

and you known you can get a "personal massager" that is NOT shaped so much in a phallic symbol and apply it to your genitals... the jewels... I'm told it feels awesome.

 

Um, the "jewels"? It sounds kinda painful, but may be one of the funniest things I have heard in a while.

[Shadows Light]

Um, the "jewels"? It sounds kinda painful, but may be one of the funniest things I have heard in a while.

 

Aye...or sometimes they are referred to as the "family jewels"...lol.

 

Not painful... we're talking about a teensy vibrator... not a rotary whisk

 

[RayKay]

Just from personal experience but the men I have known really liked the vibrator (on their "jewels") during sex or oral sex.....

[sddeaston]

just be (or learn how to be) good in bed...nothing can give your ego a boost like a woman who is in ecstasy, screaming, or breathing super hard, or biting/scratching you because of what you have done...NOTHING.

[treefrogkate]

I echo the "Don't worry about it" sentiment. Seriously, toys are fun and all, but is *nothing like* sex with a living, breathing human (especially one you care about).

 

Why not ask your girlfriend if she's got one? You might enjoy using it on her, or watching her use it herself.

 

I have never, ever heard any woman (including myself) say "Man, is good, but my Rabbit is so much better!" Never.

[herewegoagain]

Well, i found out yesterday that she has one, and she was joking about how she had to get a new one because her old one is worn out.

 

This concerns me because we only get to see each other once during the week, and on the weekends.

 

BUT, we are only intimate about once in the weekend and that's it!!!

 

We are never intimate when we see each other on the weeknight - never.

 

This is not normal to me. Usually, when a couple is together for the first 5 months as we are, we should be "doing it" a lot more.

 

In fact, she indirectly mentioned how she was in the bath for about a half hour last night, and that she was using the toy. And I told her I would like to watch her do that and be a part of her toy experience, but she just kind of laughed. But I told her I was serious, and still she just shrugged it off.

 

Here's the problem - I will see her tomorrow night - and I know she will not be interested in getting intimate.

 

That's why I'm concerned about this "toy" thing.

[MissyM]

MissyM - Of course I do, but it isn't with an object.

 

 

It's just that you can orgasm a lot quicker with a toy, not the fact that it's better than having sex. it's just better than using your hand. There's nowt wrong with it, nowt to be worried about sunshine x

[Helen67]

While you're getting intimate and she's feeling really turned on, then ask her to get her BOB out.

 

I guarentee you the reason she is dubious about sharing with you, is b/c obviously her masturbating is a private solo session, she may be embarrased of showing you that very private side of her.

 

You mustn't take offence by this, just b/c you two are very intimate physically, does not always mean you should know every single sexual thought/fantasy/ behaviour your partner has.

 

But the next time you two get *hot* together, make sure she is, not just you. And ask/beg in a sexual way to get BOB out. She will I hope oblige you, and then you get to play too. Do not assume though if you ask her to use it on herself (ie masturbation), as she may feel you are pushing into her privacy.

Maybe she will in the heat of the moment do it herself, then you will have made a breakthrough.

 

I don't know why she doesn't get intimate during the week, maybe she's just tired, and would prefer to put her whole head and heart into the sex at the weekend. Even so, I don't think you should concern yourself that BOB is taking your place, as you have read, the real thing can never win, hands down.

 

By the way, I have a box set of toys, which I made my partner go out and buy me as a pressie, I am fine either with either solo play or partner play with them, but they aren't a substitute for my man!!

[MissyM]

I was with my fella for a long time before I'd let him see me do that, so don't be surprised or hurt if she turns you down.

[Helen67]

I was with my fella for a long time before I'd let him see me do that, so don't be surprised or hurt if she turns you down.

 

Exactly my point, even though I can do it now in the heat of the moment with my man, I think I still prefer a private session!

[MissyM]

Exactly my point, even though I can do it now in the heat of the moment with my man, I think I still prefer a private session!

 

 

Yeah me too, I'd be mortified if he caught me at it too.

 

Am I the only girl in the world that likes Porn too? No One ever admits to it usually.

[jengh]

No, you're definitely not... I like porn a lot too... I also have a ridiculously high sex drive though

[Helen67]

I love porn too !!!!

[Sugar-Rush]

Hey sorry for the late reply Jen but yes, i sell to loads of 5o's+ women, that said our main customer base are 28-35.

Sugar xxx

[Serpent Queen]

The Answer Is: yes!

[nnjlon2]

relationships are not suppose to be based on sex and sex only. to me it seems that all you are worried about is sex. your gf is using a vibe not some other person. yes i agree with your situation, but maybe you need to start masturbating more yourself to relieve your pressures and enjoy the time with your gf and make memories than worrying about am i going to get it tonite.

 

(i am only speaking from experience)

[lizziebee]

I enjoy my toys....and don't laugh but I put a rubber on my dildo only because who knows what kind of material it is made of!??! LOL...In conjunction with my vibrator it is the perfect stress reliever.

[Deviant_Kate]

Well I'm curious. For example, if my girlfriend had one (i'm not sure if she does), is the "toy" better than a guy's real thing? Now I'm kind of worried, lol.

 

I wouldn't worry. I think just about anybody would prefer the real thing to a toy.

 

I'm not sure if most women have toys, but most women I know do, or wish they did. I've actually given a vibrator as a Christmas gift, and I received one for my birthday this year. That brings the tally to 5, although we've never used one of them. I might eventually have to retire the toy drawer in favor of a toy chest.

[Spugly Fuglet]

Look in any womans bed room and most will have a small thing hidden away to help them.

[GalaxyC]

My friend bought me a rampant rabbit a few years ago and I've used it about three or four times. I feel like an idiot using it. It's too noisy, it's luminous pink and I've never been able to orgasm from it (or anything else for that matter).

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Most relaxed and satisfied women have at least one! they are a good way to have a quick orgasm when your man is not around, or for both of you to use together for a bit of fun. some women also have a hard time having an orgasm just from regular sex, it's an anatomy thing, not a preference...

 

men should never be threatened by them, because there is no substitute for the real thing! even women who have to use a vibrator to have an orgasm still want real sex, then finish off with the vibrator..

 

if a woman prefers a vibrator to a man, it usually means the woman has some issues with the man or men (i.e., is turned off emotionally by him, or has relationship problems)...

[Xx7shadesRedxX]

haha... i know i do! as for toys being better than the real thing... depends on who you're going to be with & what you're using while you're there.

[z237]

Personally I think it's hot that my girl gets off on her own. As long as it doesn't adversely affect your sex life, I think it can only do good.

[skyblue1]

Well lol i'm a single girl that uses toys. I guess if i was with someone things will be very different.