Do you think our EX"S miss us?

[SeaBisquit]

i still think about my ex, even tho he was a jerk and sometimes i wonder if he thinks about me. or if he just moved on without a care. i have heard that guys move on alot quicker. i often wonder if that is true also.

[AzureSkyes69]

I think it depends on the person and sometime how long you were together and also remember some people just don't care no matter how long you were with them..they just go on with their life without you in it without a care in the world.

[Dako]

Breakups are hard on guys, too. Trust me.

[blackberry]

i have heard that guys move on alot quicker. i often wonder if that is true also.

not true at all...it's all dependent on the situation...

[dogheadma]

I only have one ex that I will never speak to again and that's because she was abusive to me and had a drinking problem. The others I am still friendly with. When you don't speak to someone again it's because you want to move on without them. It's best to just let it go.

[amtjrtcet]

I left my ex 8 months ago. I know I made the right decision, but I think about him everyday. I miss him all the time. I miss the memories we shared, his family, and those little things that use to drive me nuts. We were together for 6 yrs, he was the only b/f I'd ever had. I'll never forget him. But I miss our friendship, not our relationship.

[desertnomad]

Yeah I am a guy and breakups are hell on me. Never stayed with someone I didnt truly care about and its hard to get over them especially the latest one which happened 3 months ago. It really sux. sometimes wish I was an android with no feelings at all...will change my name to Data

[ImThatGirl]

I think most people will miss their ex's. It doesn't matter whether male or female. I guess what does matter is how well they block things out of their mind.

[coollady1957]

I don't think that guys necessarily move on quicker. I really thinks it is all individual and sometimes the reasons behind breakups make it easier or harder to move on .

 

For me it was quite easy for me to move on and forget him after I broke up with my now EX. It was based on the fact that he lied and cheated on me and hid some other important info from me about himself. I heard that he moved on pretty quickly in a matter of days on to the other woman /women ,that he was seeing behind my back.

 

Obviously he didn't love me anyway and had no problem running to another woman. In my case I honestly don't think he has given me a second thought since the day I broke up with him and don't care either. The only time I think of him is during posting like this, where I refer to him to make my point.

 

There are quite a few men and women I have known of that had difficulty moving on after a break up and some that moved on quite nicely. So I really think it's a case by case basis and not a male or female thing on whether or not someone can easily move on.

[beebee]

yes... of course they miss you... for a time anyway... then, just like us, they move on... but i dont think they forget... ever...

[finewhine]

I have been struggling with this question myself. I am dating again and thought I was completely over my breakup, but yesterday I ran accross a picture of my ex on the internet with his new girlfriend. I got sad for a solid hour. Seriously. I don't want him back, I don't know if I miss him, but I wonder if he ever thinks about me. Maybe I'm being narcissistic!

[sparkle1]

Personally speaking - i think men do tend to move on quicker then us ladies...we tend to ponder more.

 

I think they do miss us sometimes, and i am sure that like us there are certain things that trigger a memory. I also think it is dependent on how you broke up xx

[LONESOUL]

I wonder this everyday, and then I push it out of my head because it doesn't

really matter that much. We can't go back anymore~and that will one day very soon be a good thing.

[joyce1412]

I don't want him back, I don't know if I miss him, but I wonder if he ever thinks about me. Maybe I'm being narcissistic!

 

i don't think that's narcissistic. everyone likes to think that they will be remembered and missed when they are not around. it's just a desire to mean something to the world, to the people you've touched.

 

I wonder this everyday, and then I push it out of my head because it doesn't

really matter that much. We can't go back anymore~and that will one day very soon be a good thing.

 

i agree. plus, when i look at the facts of how he has behaved, i don't feel that he misses me much. and he certainly doesn't miss me as much as i miss him, and knowing that isn't a great feeling either.

 

I don't know why but it helps me stay strong to think "He's completely over me so why should I miss him?!" This might be a spiteful (and rather childish) way to think but I don't know, it's working for me right now and I have to do all that I can bc I really can't regress again!

 

not spiteful. i think that will help you move on faster. on the one hand it's almost like you're making a competition out of geting over each other, but if it gets you to move on faster than you would otherwise, i totally support that!

 

also, the romantics who like to imagine that their exes miss them will probably spend longer dwelling in the memories of the relationship. a more cut-and-dry approach (i.e. "he doesn't miss me because we've over, we are a thing of the past") is a good kick in the butt to help you move on.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

All you have to do is look at the many many posts by men on this forum and you will realize that men don't necessarily move on quicker than women. Missing an ex and moving on from an ex depends on a person's personality rather than on their gender.

[g44]

if u are fortunate and things didn't end on a bad note, and u live in the same city, etc. i think if its possible to still be friends - then u should and then you wouldn't miss them. u might miss the relationship but u would still be friends. and i think 'moving on' is really an individual thing. i know i miss my ex and we broke up a long time ago. its ok to miss someone - that just means u and her/him had a good relationship and enjoyed each others company.

[DAVE PENN]

hi everyone im new here and would just like to say my ex decided to leave me 4 another man back in february2006!!

even though she said i was the only guy who has ever treated her nice and the only one who has ever really cared for her. but when she decided to get rid of me she did it in a very hurtful way, i even written her a letter saying how much i really care 4 her and that she means a hell of a lot to me and that i would never ever treat her bad and she had the decency to show my letter to that creep she left me for and probably all her friends to have a good laugh about me..

i GUESS ACTIONS REALLY DO SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!! and that she just used me.

SHE WAS MY FIRST LOVE

its been over 8 months and ivE never heard from her since and im still really hurting but im slowly learning to let go.

WHETHER SHE THINKS ABOUT ME OR NOT ILL NEVER KNOW UNLESS SHE DECIDES TO MAKE CONTACT WITH ME.

BUT HEY GUYS HANG IN THERE AND KEEP FIGHTING.

AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS THERE LOSS.

THANX FOR HEARING ME OUT EVERYONE.ALL THE BEST TO YOU ALL.XXX

[Dako]

My ex says she misses talking to me, and we have fun when we get together. We have similar styles of humor and I guess we both miss each other. Whatever.

[jdheinold]

i have heard that guys move on alot quicker.

 

in my limited experience...a year later, i'm still trying to deal with the fact that my first love so quickly fell out of love with me and left. i have also found out she already has a new guy.

 

so i guess this time the woman had the easier time

[Riggz41510]

I've been doing the break up, make up game with my ex for the past 2 years. It doesn't make it any easier..

 

I think of her often.. I remember all the good memories we shared, all the laughs, and the things that made ,me fall in love with her..

 

When I think of the feeling that I felt during our first break up , it makes me never want to fall in love again.. Just thinking of it right now made me cry..

 

I have a eternal love for that woman in my heart and it won't go away.. Its like a flame that's still burning.. And she treated me like crap!!

[MyTeddyBear]

I believe mine does. not because it makes me feel better, but because I know him, like no one else...

I know he's going through the same pain ( maybe worse than me, since it was his decision). He loves me and I haunt his mind . This I know without a doubt.

[Captain34]

Does my ex miss me?? To be honest I came to the conclusion that she was indifferent, so I finally decided that NC was the way to go. Today marks 5 weeks, didn't think I'd be able to make it that long back in the day.

 

THing is once I started NC things shifted abruptly. First, 3 weeks in my ex's close friends makes a comment about refusing all contact...something that was never in any way communicated to me by the ex before NC, but then is done so by her friend 3 weeks into NC!? Very perplexing, makes me think she wants to feel like it was her decision to start NC, not mine.

 

Since then, all of my ex's friends are very, perhaps overly firnedly when they see me, especially when I am out on the town. My ex's very close friend and roommate in particular (one I mentioned above) has now begun to question me like a detective everytime I run into her. I know these encounters are being reported back to my ex, so I am pretty darn sure she is wondering what the hell has been up with me.

 

Question that I would like to know the answer to is why she is so curious if she has seemingly moved on? My gut says a big part of her is still caught up one me...