Jayar Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 How old were you when you found your love/soulmate? I'm turning 24 in a few weeks. I thought I had found my soulmate until 2 months ago and now, after he left me hurt and broken, I have started thinking about the inevitable and necessary life after the ex... Thanks! Link to comment
Scotcha Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I was just 16 when I met my soulmate. And 18 when I learned that a "soulmate" is really just a romantic opinion. I was left hurt and broken for a long time but I came out of it with my heart once again in one piece. Soulmates.. I don't buy it. A relationship is what you make of it. If it doesn't work out do your best to make a new one that does. Link to comment
vandgsmom Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 25 years, 301 days, 22 hours, 31 minutes......... Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Soulmate, idea of, is merely idealistic. Although if you feel you HAVE your "soulmate", I guess there's no harm in believing it . . . unless they leave you! Link to comment
Scotcha Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Soulmate, idea of, is merely idealistic. Although if you feel you HAVE your "soulmate", I guess there's no harm in believing it . . . unless they leave you! Oh, I so agree with you! Link to comment
chai714 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Soulmate, idea of, is merely idealistic. Although if you feel you HAVE your "soulmate", I guess there's no harm in believing it . . . unless they leave you! Bullseye. AntiLove nailed this one. I agree with her completely. Link to comment
Jayar Posted September 8, 2006 Author Share Posted September 8, 2006 I guess my question was more about the AGE than the idea of a soulmate.... Love, soulmate, life partner, whatever you want to call it.... How old were you? Because at 24 I wonder if I'm late. It just seems like with so many people in this world, finding the one meant for me is less likely than winning the lottery! Link to comment
Donster Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Maybe i am just an idealistic romantic, or maybe I am deluded, or maybe I have not fully accepted the reality of my breakup, but I do believe in the idea of a soulmate. I was 18 years, 10 months when I met the man who would become my ex 14 years later. And through much of this time I thought he was my soul mate. And I still think we will be somehow connnected to each other as we each move on to the next phases of our lives...but in this intervening period as we transition from being lovers to friends, we just need to stay away from each other in order to lessen the hurt. So in short, I think it all depends on how you define soulmate. Can a friend be a soulmate? A kindred spirit? Someone you just click with on a different level, even if you are not romatically involved? Link to comment
princess81 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Donster I am so feeling what you are saying and I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak hugs. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 The concept of a "soulmate" or "the ONE" is something that causes more pressure, unrealistic expectations and misery than is necessary, IMO. I think it also causes a good number of people to stay in situations that are harmful and unhealthy...as in, "I can't leave him/her even if s/hes cheating/abusive/a deadbeat/or other undesirable trait! S/He's my soulmate!" I believe at any given time, there are a number of people you could be compatible with, attracted to AND who would feel the same way about you. Each relationship we enter into is an opportunity to learn and grow. Sometimes you grow apart over time, sometimes you grow together. Sometimes the lessons you were supposed to learn from that particular relationship get completed and you go your separate ways. I was involved in 3 long-term (meaning 2 or more years in duration) non-marriage relationships in my adult life before I met the guy I married. I met him when I was 37, and we got married a few weeks after my 38th birthday. My marriage is by far the sanest, happiest and healthiest relationship I have been part of. However, had I not been involved in ALL the other relationships I'd had prior to meeting my husband, there is NO WAY I could be in the relationship we have now. While I have a very hard time imagining my life without my husband in it, I also know if that situation ever arose, I would be just fine without him, too. If you absolutely feel the need to believe in a soulmate, I'd suggest you could find your soulmate by looking in a mirror....for that is truly the one person who will always be with you for the duration of your life. 1 Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted September 9, 2006 Share Posted September 9, 2006 "If you absolutely feel the need to believe in a soulmate, I'd suggest you could find your soulmate by looking in a mirror....for that is truly the one person who will always be with you for the duration of your life." One of the best things I've ever read on here. Frickin' dead on. Link to comment
skyjuice Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 Hi I am 24, yet I feel like very old already. My emotions just like the lyrics describe in Robbie William "Better Man" Link to comment
Managor Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 I thought I found my soulmate a few times, took me a while to realise that my 'soulmate' was really not much more than neurochemicals... Link to comment
PrincessJOA Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 I thought I did when I was 14, but nah... thats just bull. I'm 18 now, and Im sure I am yet to find it probably 10-20 years time..or 30 Link to comment
onewithbooks Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 I was 13. I cant explain it, but I fell in love. It didnt work, but to this day I will always be there for him. I am 27 now and still looking for the next one. Link to comment
mivra Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 33. I only met him this year. Our relationship is hard for others to understand, but it gives us more happiness than we ever thought possible. We have truly revolutionised each others' worlds. We are improving each other, even though we are afraid of the intensity of our feelings. We only realised recently that we handled domesticity really well, that it wasn't just a "Heathcliff and Catherine" thing. Of course, amid all the intensity, we just have an awesome awesome time, no matter what we are doing. And I didn't really believe in the concept of soulmates until I met him. As for being with them or not being with them, I don't think it matters with soulmates, as long as you maintain the connection. Because when you love someone that much, their happiness is more important to you than yours. At least for me. I've always been self-centred so generosity is the lesson that I need to learn. It'll happen. And I still think there is more than one soulmate for every person, although I hope that there's just MY ONE for me. Link to comment
New_Horizons Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 I turn 22 this week and am still looking...looking...looking. Link to comment
need2bme Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Soulmates are like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. JK, but I am still waiting. I did have a soulmate once. It just turned out that she was someone else's... Link to comment
need2bme Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Oh, and Soulmates are also like Claymates. We all believe they exist, but noone actually will admit seeing one. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted September 27, 2006 Share Posted September 27, 2006 Oh, and Soulmates are also like Claymates. We all believe they exist, but noone actually will admit seeing one. Aaarrrrgggghhhh! Don't remind me of that whole Claymate thing. I was programming a radio station when he was on AI and those people drove me nuts! I'm going to cower under my bed in fear now. Thanks. Link to comment
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