wonderinggirl87 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Here it is : - going out for 3 1/2 yrs - bf cheated once because too drunk at college - he doesn't remember anything but knows for sure it happened - love him very much - he confessed right away - this is totally not like him - he feels really guilty - I told him I was ready to give him a second chance (last one) because I love him so much. Can we ever be like we were before? Can our relationship last and be healthy? Please just give me your general opinion on this Link to comment
NJRon Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 It depends on whether you are able to get past it or not. Broken trust takes a long time to heal. Link to comment
kellbell Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Hey there, Couple CAN overcome infidelity but it takes a lot of work from BOTH persons. He needs to work as hard as you. His side is regaining your trust and showing he is committed to you and you, letting go, forgiving and allowing him the chance to prove to you he is wants to be with you. Good luck and take care. Link to comment
DN Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 How long ago did the cheating happen? Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 It depends on what type of cheating it was (how far did it go). Was it something to put you at risk of STD's (involving sex)?? Also just like DN posted, depends on how long it happened?? Link to comment
candy604 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 yeah i hope he doesnt' ever get drunk again. Link to comment
wonderinggirl87 Posted September 12, 2006 Author Share Posted September 12, 2006 He did it last week. He had sex with the other girl and got tested for STDs at my demand. Thanks everybody, I just needed to know there was hope. Things are better between us than I thought they would be although they are a little weird. Link to comment
Azual Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 If you want my honest opinion... if he's blaming the drinking... tell him he needs to stop drinking. I don't think drinking really has anything to do with it, but that's just my opinion Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Then no more drinks for him ever again. Damn, how can some people be that forgetful and not know their body tolerance for drinks?? Link to comment
Rm0812 Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Then no more drinks for him ever again. Damn, how can some people be that forgetful and not know their body tolerance for drinks?? not knowing and not caring are 2 different things, some people drink just to get drunk, and they know very well what their tolerances are Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Yea, looks like he doesn't really care about the commitment. I would know very well that if I were to exceed more than 4 drinks, then that's enough to start feeling the effects, that's when I would stop. Often having a good time chilling is confuse with getting to the point of being wasted, now that's just pure stupidity. It's ok to drink once in a while, but not to get wasted on purpose, then blaming your actions b/c of the drinks. Link to comment
doyathink Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 He did it last week. He had sex with the other girl and got tested for STDs at my demand. Thanks everybody, I just needed to know there was hope. Things are better between us than I thought they would be although they are a little weird. But...i have heard that they can't test men for the HPV! How will you know if he has this? Link to comment
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