doyathink Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 When you are having sex/making love with you bf/SO who are you fantasizing about? Your SO, someone you have seen on the street, An actor/actress? Who is it that you visualize? Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted May 19, 2006 Share Posted May 19, 2006 I would be concentrating only on my boyfriend /partner/husband. Thoughts of others never entered my mind before. Link to comment
ehm doubleyou Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I get the impression that this question has more to it than meets the eye....Are you trying to figure whether there is a chance that your SO is thinking about someone else when he makes love to you?....Cause thats what I get from reading your post. Do YOU fanatasize about being with someone else while making love to YOUR SO? With my ex, I did occasionally ( and when I mean occasionally I mean a couple of times) think of being with someone else...So is that considered cheating in your book?...or is that a healthy fantasy? With my new g/f... there is no reason to think of someone else cause she F's my brains out the way I my body desires it. Link to comment
monkey1 Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I have yet to think about anyone else other than my boyfriend during sex. I'm just concentrating on the him and my ability to orgasm. I don't have enough left over to think about anyone else. Link to comment
xprincessbugx Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 during sex i am deft. thinking about my boyfriend... he's the one that im concentrating and no one else. Link to comment
GettingOverIt Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I am interested in the 'real' meaning behind this post, too... What is the true question being asked?? Are you asking because YOU think about others, and your BF doesn't maybe?? Did you guys have a fight about it? For the record, I tried thinking about someone else once, but my mind quickly returned to the woman I was making love with... I was way too busy enjoying her to think of anyone else... Link to comment
Backstroke03 Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 If the sex is happening in reality, what's the need to fantasize? I'm thinking about my significant other in real time and what attraction I have to them. Link to comment
doyathink Posted May 20, 2006 Author Share Posted May 20, 2006 No, there is nothing more to it, just a thought I had!! My mind has 'wondered' a few times but as Monkey1 put it, I'm usually trying to focus on the pleasure part of it and no one in particular. One poster made the comment that her husband would think of his girl friend while making love to her and just use her for her body. I wondered how many people really do that? Link to comment
monkey1 Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 No, there is nothing more to it, just a thought I had!! My mind has 'wondered' a few times but as Monkey1 put it, I'm usually trying to focus on the pleasure part of it and no one in particular. One poster made the comment that her husband would think of his girl friend while making love to her and just use her for her body. I wondered how many people really do that? Word. Yeah, I'm just trying to make the most of the whole pleasure part of it. I want to it to be good as possible and for me, it takes a lot of focus to be "in the moment" As for thinking about an ex, if my boyfriend did that, I'd be like don't even tell me that or I'd be kinda upset. Stuff like that, I'd rather he just keep it to himself ... that is unless he screams her name out during sex! Link to comment
doyathink Posted May 20, 2006 Author Share Posted May 20, 2006 Word. Yeah, I'm just trying to make the most of the whole pleasure part of it. I want to it to be good as possible and for me, it takes a lot of focus to be "in the moment" As for thinking about an ex, if my boyfriend did that, I'd be like don't even tell me that or I'd be kinda upset. Stuff like that, I'd rather he just keep it to himself ... that is unless he screams her name out during sex! Word!! LOL ....I thought that I was the only one who had to really focus when it comes to that..My SO told that I'm a hard one HA HA At that point I don't think of anything else except " come on, cooommmmee onnn" HA HA HA. I would never want to be told he is thinking of someone other than me. The poster that made the comment that her husband was thinking of the g/f was really hurt and felt used, ohhhh man! Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I concentrate only on my partner, listeniing to moans, sighs, coo'ing etc. for what gets the most response and feelng the body shifts and how to make it better for them. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I don't fantasize during sex unless it is a mutual, talking fantasy with my partner. To get each other super riled up. Before sex and during the day, I have my fantasies. Sometimes during sex a random ridiculous thought or image will pop up. That's different though. I don't run with it. I like focusing on the now of what is happening best. Link to comment
Cynder Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 No, there is nothing more to it, just a thought I had!! My mind has 'wondered' a few times but as Monkey1 put it, I'm usually trying to focus on the pleasure part of it and no one in particular. One poster made the comment that her husband would think of his girl friend while making love to her and just use her for her body. I wondered how many people really do that? Mine used to do that. He was thinking about a girl he met on the net. But he doesn't do it anymore. HAsn't for a while now. As to the question, when I fantacize, I usually think about scenerios more then spacific people. Like everyone has seen some movie with a really good sex scene that turned you on... That is the stuff I think about. Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 I could not fantasize, I'd be impo. I enjoy her feelings, to make her feel better and my senses. Link to comment
JonathanJonathan Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 When I kiss my girl, I always think about her. Everything on my mind disappears, and it's just her. Just last week, I was spending some time with her and forgot I had to be home nearly three hours ago. The farthest thing I've thought about from her while we kiss would probably be of my/her hands exploring her/my body. Link to comment
bigredvick Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 I focus on her the whole time. She is usually too loud and right before she climaxes shell get way too loud and end up getting me in trouble. Link to comment
MagicToilet Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 Sometimes It can take a really long time for me to cum, and sometimes when it gets ridicules and we pass and hour and a half. I sometimes close my eyes and think of someone else and stuff that would turn me on.. But thats the only time I would fee lthe need to do it, and its not really helping when I do it anyway Link to comment
Baby Carrot Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 HEY DOYA...! When you are having sex/making love with you bf/SO who are you fantasizing about? Your SO, someone you have seen on the street, An actor/actress? Who is it that you visualize? I was with this guy for nearly 5 years. At the beginning of the relationship, all I could think of was him. Heck, even in my day dream fantasies. But at the time passed, I started slowly to fantasize about other people as well (celebrities, actors). By year 4 and 5 (when things began going to hell) I definitely just closed my eyes and thought I was riding someone else (Goran Visnjic or however the hell you spell it -for example-, he plays Dr. Luka Kovac from ER , he's hot). I think my mind works as it follows: if I'm completely and crazy in love or at least infatuated, all I can think of, is the person I'm with. But as the initial rush passes and reality kicks in, I get cynical and start getting aroused in my mind with other people. Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted October 1, 2006 Share Posted October 1, 2006 I've tried fantasizing when i'm having sex with my gf before, frankly it turns me off pretty efficiently. I just like living in the moment i suppose. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted October 1, 2006 Share Posted October 1, 2006 haha, i remember this thread. i still ain't sayin'. mainly because I STILL DON"T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! Link to comment
kb109 Posted October 1, 2006 Share Posted October 1, 2006 I honestly can't think of anyone else besides who I'm with. Which right now would be my wonderful boyfriend Link to comment
BrokenWingedFaery Posted October 1, 2006 Share Posted October 1, 2006 I'm a virgin, but I know that while I'm with my grrrlfriend, the only thing I'll be thinking about is her. Fantasies are, imo, for masturbating to. Sex is for being with someone who you want to please and who wants to please you. Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2006 Author Share Posted October 1, 2006 Baby carrot, you go girl....a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted October 1, 2006 Share Posted October 1, 2006 i could never fantasize about a celeb while i'm exersizing my prerogative. i despise them all too much. i think the last one was Pia Zadora, to give you a bit of a time frame... Link to comment
Baby Carrot Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Baby carrot, you go girl....a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! Oh I know! Specially if you can do Goran! LOL Link to comment
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