candieeeegirl Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Hmmm why do guys play dumb? I've always wondered about this.... For example, a friend of mine recently told a guy that I have a huge crush on him, which made me mad because it's not entirely true....anyway I confronted the guy I supposedly "have a huge crush on" and apologized about what my friend said, and the guy totally played dumb and pretended he didn't know what I was talking about, avoiding the subject.... And another time, I sent a mushy email to the wrong guy by accident, and later when I apologized about it he played dumb and acted like nothing has happened, and still continued to talk to me and showing interest. lol why do guys do this? Link to comment
BlueWolf Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Maybe we don't like putting you on the spot? I dunno. If you have to actually apologize about something, it's natural for us to act like it didn't happen in order not to make it a big deal. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Probably because they're embarrassed for whatever reason and "playing dumb" is easier than acknowledging the weirdness. Link to comment
elyella Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 some guys just hide their feelings. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 BlueWolf has a good point - it can be to make things seem like less of a big deal. Some guys would rather just drop it than to hear a bunch of apologies for a small mistake. Link to comment
Kevin T Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 We're not playing!! lol Link to comment
LotusFlower Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 they think the way we think is weird... women use both sides of their brains when they comunicate and a man only uses one--generaly-- so I've read. They'd rather shut us up quickly and not listen to our long explenations, it is a lazy response, sometimes a lying tactic, and also habitual. Its rather annoying. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Ok, well, imagine that both these guys had responded to your question and not played dumb. You: Hey - sorry, my friend said that I like you, but I really don't. They were just being silly. Guy #1: No problem - I don't like you either. I like this other girl. or Guy #1: Really, you don't like me? That sucks. You: Sorry - I sent the e-mail to you on accident. Guy #2: Oh, that's disappointing, I was hoping I could have sex with you. or Guy #2: Yeah, that e-mail was really lame and sugary. It made me want to throw up. See? Isn't it just easier if the guys just said, "I don't know what you're talking about." Link to comment
candieeeegirl Posted January 31, 2006 Author Share Posted January 31, 2006 lol I just don't understand why guys would avoid the subject at hand since it's already brought up, and since me and him both know it's happened...why not talk about it, even for just a second, instead of playing dumb and dancing around the subject? Anyway, about the first guy....does it seem like he's not interested in me if he avoided the subject? Link to comment
candieeeegirl Posted January 31, 2006 Author Share Posted January 31, 2006 sorry annie, i didn't see your post before i posted. that was a good point. Totally made me understand why they would do this lol. Link to comment
eriko Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 In reaction to the post above: That is almost too much of a generality. Please, people come on this forum for help and advice, not to hear someone belittle the opposite gender. Though I DO understand why someone would think this is true, it is most definetly not. Link to comment
eriko Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 My above reply is in reaction to the post by Lotusflower, NOT the post above it. Link to comment
LotusFlower Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 That was funny Annie... If you like the guy...then you should have led on too adn maybe he wouldn't have acted dumb. If you dont', then he probably felt dumb. But still in general, men do the dumb thing allot and it doesn't always mean that they are not interested in you...it just means they are doign the dumb man thing so that you dont' know how they feel or to shut u up. Link to comment
candieeeegirl Posted January 31, 2006 Author Share Posted January 31, 2006 We're not playing!! lol Haha so you saying you actually ARE dumb...haha Link to comment
LotusFlower Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 eriko...the reply was not to bash the opposit gender... ask any women who has had long term relationships and most will tell you that the dumb thing is a real deal. Ask most men if they think women talk to much about irrevelent things and most will say yes. You tell me then, why so many women have this problem with their husbands and significant others? Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 From another point of view, those guys weren't doing the "dumb" thing so much as they were doing the "polite" thing. In both instances they saw that the OP was embarrassed, and they wanted to diffuse her embarresment by pretending they had no clue what she was talking about. From that point of view, they were thinking quite clearly and wanted to make the situation as easy for the OP, which is a very nice thing to do. Link to comment
Kevin T Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 One thing though, men use both sides of their brain, just as women do when conversing, communicating and so forth. I can't imagine a source that would say that men don't. That seems almost sexist. I was mostly kidding, but it's kind of true that men can be dumb. We can be very stubborn and dense at times. I am also included in this scenario. Link to comment
LotusFlower Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 It was a health magazine ... and it was not degrading to men...it was actualy helping women get their emotional needs from men by learning about the communication barriers... now come on of course there are exceptions...the brain is like a muscle, if you exercise it it works more efficiently. There are scientific differences between men and women...Thank God!!! If you think men and women communicate the same...you are crazy~! Link to comment
Kevin T Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 It has nothing to do with communicating the same way or not. The bottomline is that both sexes use various parts of their brain to integrate information in a meaningful fashion. It is a fact. There are, doubtless, biological differences between sexes. I totally agree with that. I think (I could be wrong on this) that some men or women may use specific regions or pathways in the brain more often than the opposite sex, but of course, both sides of the brain are still involved in the process. Link to comment
Eric f Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 6 ways #1 we don't like confrontation. #2 we are just dumb #3 your not more specific #4 you gotta talk to us like were children sometimes lol #5 we are guys and were complacated that way. #6 self defense"for what ever reason Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Women GENERALLY have better verbal skills than men, whereas men GENERALLY have better spacial skills. Some people are the opposite, some suck at both, some are good at both and there are spaces in between of course. This is definitely not a black and white issue, but there are tendencies. Link to comment
thatshyguy Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 I'm so totally doing that if i have the opportunity.. simply because it would be that far out of left field lol. Link to comment
Kyoshiro Ogari Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Hmmm why do guys play dumb? Who says we're playing? Link to comment
Chisama Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Good thing i read this before I typed the question. Link to comment
candieeeegirl Posted February 1, 2006 Author Share Posted February 1, 2006 ^what was your question? lol Link to comment
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