Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 hi everyone, I havent posted in a long time but im in a sticky situation. OK, my bf tried to have sex with me the other day, i mean like he pulled down my pants and tried enerting me from behind. He apologised and siad he went out of control. I broke up with him. He is really depressed and keeps calling me, i told him to leave me alone but he wont, he gets his lil brother to call and tell me that me n his brother belong together. Its annyoing me, I feel so disgusted at him, i hate him, i dont want to talk to him. what on earth do i do?? Link to comment
Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 I also forgot to mention, his parnets are invouled too, Like they want me to get back with him. Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well he did the wrong thing by just surprising you like that and if I was in your situation I would probably be doing the same thing. If I was you I would use NC on not just him but his little brother, even though it isn't his brothers fault. Stay strong and PM me if you need to talk. Sappho... Link to comment
Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 thanxs, im really scared though, when his brother called me he said 'i'l stab you if you dont get abck with him' Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Ok, that's a threat and you can go to the police and ask for a restraining order. Your boyfriend has commited attempted rape and his younger brother has threatened you, which has you fearing for your safety. No matter how much you like this guy, go to the police. They can help. Has your relationship with him been ok in the past? Has anything like this ever happened before? Sappho... Link to comment
Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Nothing like this has ever happened...well i mean it hasnt gone this far, my bf, well x now used to try and get in my pants but thats it. It wasnt bad as this. Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well forcing himself on you isn't a normal thing in any relationship. If you fear for your safety then going to the police is the best bet. How old are you both? Sappho... Link to comment
Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 its not rude, im 19 and he is 20 my parnets didnt know about him, if i go to the police then they'l never trust me and i'l get in heaps of trouble. Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Right now getting into trouble from your parents is probably the least of your worries sweetheart. If you don't go to the police the situation could possibly become quite bad. Which is worse? Grovelling to your parents? Or ending up in trouble with your now ex? Please get some help from the authorities Sappho... Link to comment
Fantasy_ Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 thanxs, i think i will. Thank you sapphos_goddess for all your help, i really appricate your time. Link to comment
Twinkle_ Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I wouldn't let a stranger grope me, and I certainly wouldn't stand my bloke attempting to rape me. No way. He's sorry now, that's only because of the way you reacted. if you'd gone along with it he would have probably done it again. I'm the same age as you, and I'll tell you, nothing scares me more than the thought of being raped. Most rape victims are raped by someone they know. I think I'd probably consider reporting him to the police, what if this isn't the first time he's done that? No contact with any of his family, or him. Cut him out of your life honey, you don't need that kind of person around you. Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 You're very welcome Fantasy and I'm glad that you're going to get some help from the police. Good luck, and if you ever need to talk you can PM me or chat to me on MSN Messenger or Yahoo! Messenger. Sappho... Link to comment
pizzachick13 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Very well said Twinkle. I agree whole heartedly. Sappho... Link to comment
PocoDiablo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 thanxs, im really scared though, when his brother called me he said 'i'l stab you if you dont get abck with him' Wow! Here in Virginia this is a Class One Misdemeanor. It's a year in jail. How do I know? Because some nut job sent me a threat last week. I filed a police report. The cop was very cool. It is VERY important that you file a report. If you don't, and something does happen, YOU will be to blame for not reporting it. Tell your parents right now. Yes, you're going to get in trouble, but point out that he tried to rape you and they need to be on YOUR side - even if it's just for once. Take any punishment they give you with pride - know that you did the right thing. You need to be an adult because this is an adult situation. I would strongly recommend saying NOTHING to the BF or his brother. Hang up if they call. Say nothing - not one single word - if you see them in person. If they harass you that is also illegal. Laws are made for a reason - it is so evil people cannot get away with harming nice, gentle, understanding people. But if you let evil people take advantage of your understanding, then you are no better than them. -------- I've hired a lawyer and am also filing charges where this guy lives and with his service provider to get him shut off because of the harassment. It's scary, but it's a fight that I have told myself I am going to win at all costs. He started it, I'm going to end it. You can too. Stand up straight and start fighting back. Make him sorry for treating you like a piece of meat. Do everything legally that you can to punish him. Link to comment
Twinkle_ Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Exactly. Why on earth should he get away with it? You have done nothing wrong, and nothing to deserve this. Link to comment
snowgirl Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Why would YOU get into trouble? YOU didn't do anything WRONG. Link to comment
darkblue Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Contact the authorities. You do not have to put up with this and you have done nothing wrong. Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 His parents are aware of the situation...are yours? Link to comment
Gracelove Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 Maybe you should consider a restraining order. I know what it's like to be harassed, maybe he needs a figure of authority instructing him to leave you alone. Link to comment
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