Just received the most traumatic news from my girlfriend

[TheG]

I am writing this in a traumatic state. 

So from my previous post I got in a relationship which has been going really well since we started. We have been spending almost every weekend together since beginning of December last year. And we have been sexually active for a while. 

Today we had sex without protection for the first time and a couple of hours later her mood changed and she got all angry and wanted to go home. Just before she got into the uber she said that shes breaking up with me. When she got to her flat she sent me a message apologizing for her angry behaviour saying she was overwhelmed and frustrated by something. She asked me to come to her place as she needs to tell me something face to face. 

When I got here she was crying and struggling to tell me what the issue is. finally she to me that she is HIV positive and that she spoke to her doctor and I should get PEP medication, ASAP. Of course I had a lot of questions. I was so speechless and about 5 minutes later I told her not to worry and that I will make some calls and deal with it. 

I am still shocked and had to share a bit of what was going through my mind right now. 

[Seraphim]

Wow, I am so very sorry. Get tested and get medication. Also depending on where you are what she did is a chargeable offence. I, personally would never speak to her again that is a betrayal that is beyond the pale . 

[LootieTootie]

I am so sorry and angry for you. Like Seraphim said, there are laws that will criminalize anyone who exposes other to HIV knowing they are HIV positive: https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/policies/law/states/exposure.html

 

So sorry and please dump her. She betrayed you to a whole another f up level.

[boltnrun]

She did this deliberately. She's been putting you at risk since the beginning if you two have been intimate kissing. I can't imagine doing that to someone I claim to love. 

Please contact your doctor ASAP and find out your testing and potential treatment options. It is possible you did not contract the virus from her. But your doctor will have accurate information.

I'm sorry. This has to be quite frightening, but again it may turn out OK. I do recommend you don't see her anymore. Not just because of the virus but because she deceived you in such a big way. I could never trust someone who is capable of doing something so awful. 

[MissCanuck]

Get yourself to a doctor immediately. 

I would never speak to this woman again, either. It was flat-out dangerous (and criminal, in some jurisdictions) to reveal her HIV status after unprotected sex. 

She might have just changed your life forever. 

[JTCW]

What a horrific thing for her to do. She did this deliberately. Lowest of the lows. Get tested immediately. Do not have anything to do with her again and warn anyone she gets into a relationship with.

[Jibralta]

16 hours ago, TheG said:

I should get PEP medication, ASAP

Please do so!

[Lambert]

As others have stated, this is a crime.  Get to the doctor and then press charges.