Hopeful333 Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 Heyy so I hope this is the right forum, but to summarize as best as I can. There is this guy I've been hanging out with who I really like. Anyway I ended up leaving an expensive earring my mom gifted to me at his place (unintentionally I swear). Anyways I really really need it back (like urgent) since my mom is coming to visit and she will 100% notice if they're gone. I can't think of a lie to say pertaining to why I am not wearing them. I have asked for them back but he is being really like weird about it. In the sense that he doesn't understand how badly I need them and won't make time to give it to me. What should I say? I've explained the situation already but he's kind of just like "damn" Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 My bet is he doesn’t have it and junked it because he didn’t know it was worth anything. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 lol Seraphim. I hope not! Why can't you go over and pick it up? Are you underaged? Can you not take transit/bus? Just ask him if you can pick it up. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 I think though if she explained it and all he has said is “ dayum “ he doesn’t have it . And he doesn’t know how to tell you he doesn’t have it . Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 Maybe.. I don't think it's safe to assume because it's a valuable item. I'd say it's worth picking up and taking more initiatve. He could've been high when he texted back for all we know. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 I’m not saying don’t try to pick it up I’m saying pretty realistically he probably doesn’t have it . If somebody had it and you explained the situation don’t you think they would say Gee yeah come on right over and pick it up ? He’s stalling. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 To be honest with you, I wouldn't assume someone would do that at all. I wouldn't assume anything. If I know it's there, just pick it up or at least it's worth having a look. I don't see what the point is of assuming (not worth the time). All of that could have been spent just coordinating a couple of texts to get it. If he doesn't have it after the OP's looked, for instance, well, 'fess up and tell your mum the truth if she asks (that you lost it and you are sorry). Link to comment
Hopeful333 Posted April 11, 2019 Author Share Posted April 11, 2019 So I don't have a car, and he lives rather far from me. He deff still has it because the next day he told me he has it and I told him to please hold on to it because of how important it was and he said he will. It just seems like he is being a douche bag to me rn and I can't figure out what to do. Link to comment
Hopeful333 Posted April 11, 2019 Author Share Posted April 11, 2019 Also I should add there is no way besides a car to travel around here lol. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 So just be honest with your mum that you've left it at a friend's house by accident. I can't see a mother being so upset that an earring was left at a friend's house. I wouldn't worry so much about it. Get the earring back and don't waste your energy getting annoyed. It's not worth it. All in due time. Link to comment
j.man Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 What do you mean "really weird" about it? He either has it or he doesn't. Has he told you that you can't pick it up? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 Or have your mom drive you out to pick it up if they mean that much to her. Link to comment
j.man Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 So I don't have a car, and he lives rather far from me. He deff still has it because the next day he told me he has it and I told him to please hold on to it because of how important it was and he said he will. It just seems like he is being a douche bag to me rn and I can't figure out what to do.Sorry, didn't see this response before I posted. You asked him to hold onto it. He said OK. That's not him being "really weird" about it. He shouldn't have to go out of his way to give you something you left behind. Offer to buy a friend lunch in exchange for a lift to the guy's place to pick it up or wait until he'll be in your neck of the woods. If your mom happens to come by and for some reason notice it, suck it up and let her chew you out. What's the worst she'll do? Guilt trip you? You'll be fine. ETA: Great suggestion above if it really it for her to raise a stink and if she's not willing to accept your assurances you know where the ring is and will get it back on your own. Link to comment
RayofLighten Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 You don't really have many options here OP. You don't have a car so get someone to drive you. If that's not possible then he will have to bring it to you. There are no other options. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 Tell him you will pay him to have it shipped to you and you will insure the package. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 11, 2019 Share Posted April 11, 2019 Good idea. Tell him you will pay him to have it shipped to you and you will insure the package. Link to comment
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