gigicarmx Posted August 7, 2018 Author Share Posted August 7, 2018 I dunno if he’ll ever speak to me again Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted August 7, 2018 Share Posted August 7, 2018 I dunno if he’ll ever speak to me again from what I gathered this is a positive Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 8, 2018 Author Share Posted August 8, 2018 As always. After 4 days he has messaged me on an old Facebook account asking if he can please use it to sell stuff. I’m not replying. Just don’t get why it’s on a 4 day regular Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 8, 2018 Share Posted August 8, 2018 He probably doesn't even notice he does it every 4 days, OP. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 8, 2018 Author Share Posted August 8, 2018 I just don’t understand it. How can he use me when I haven’t give him anything in ages Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 Because he thinks you still have feelings for him, want him back and would jump at the chance to "try again". Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 I just don’t understand it. How can he use me when I haven’t give him anything in ages Because he knows you well enough to know that you want him to come back. He is trying to use that to his advantage. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 10, 2018 Author Share Posted August 10, 2018 I went out last night got drunk and cried. Hearing how perfect my friends lives are didn’t help. Sigh. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I went out last night got drunk and cried. Hearing how perfect my friends lives are didn’t help. Sigh. What you're feeling is normal, OP. It's okay to cry it out. Most of us have felt what you're feeling now, at some point in our lives. But don't fool yourself - nobody's life is perfect. Nobody's relationship is perfect. You have no clue what happens behind closed doors, even if everything looks wonderful on the outside. I'm speaking from personal experience on that. But let's say things are going very well for all your friends; use that as motivation to drop the dead weight (your ex) You will never reach that level of happiness with him, and the longer you hang on to false hope, the longer you delay you own chance of actually healing and meeting someone who can offer you the type of relationship you want. In the meantime, don't indulge in the alcohol. It's so often the gateway to horrible emotional crashes when the buzz wears off. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 10, 2018 Author Share Posted August 10, 2018 Every day is just a struggle idk what hold he has on me I miss him so so much Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 Every day is just a struggle idk what hold he has on me I miss him so so much You have to understand this is normal after a break-up, even when you know your ex is tool. It is going to take time to feel better. Link to comment
HealingLight Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 Oh, god. This guy is just using you for money. I don't think he ever wanted anything other than that. Wants access to your paypal, wants money, wants you to order him a cab, wants to sell stuff using your info? No, just no. This guy is toxic as hell. You deserve someone that will love you and give to you reciprocally. Not someone just looking to see what they can get from you if they deliver the right lines. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 11, 2018 Author Share Posted August 11, 2018 Just the worst feeling. He has me addicted. I wish he would change Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 I relate to what your feeling. Even day 23 or 24 in for me there are moments I just want to text her. Hang in there, it does get better Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 11, 2018 Author Share Posted August 11, 2018 Has your ex tried to contact you? Hang in there too, we’ll get through it Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Just the worst feeling. He has me addicted. I wish he would change He isn't the problem anymore. You are. Yes, really. I don't mean that unkindly, but the bigger problem is that your self-worth has become so low that you keep yourself stuck by hoping this mooch will change. He won't. I can't count the number of times you have repeated in this thread that you want him to change. This type of narrative has to stop if you ever really want to move past this, girl. What are you going to do to help yourself now? What steps are you going to take to repair your self-esteem so that you are not afraid to weed out the bad apples in the future? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Why don't you change? "He" doesn't have you addicted, you can't let go. Why keep writing as if you are a puppet on strings that he's controlling, when it's all about your actions/feelings? He has me addicted. I wish he would change Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 11, 2018 Author Share Posted August 11, 2018 Had to break NC as he used my bank card. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Had to break NC as he used my bank card. Why does he have your bank card? He's been using you for money all along, hasn't he? No need to contact him. Cancel the card and be done with it. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 11, 2018 Author Share Posted August 11, 2018 Cancelled it earlier. He said he’s sorry he was stranded, and what am I up to Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Cancelled it earlier. He said he’s sorry he was stranded, and what am I up to Why again won't you block him? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 So you are using strings to keep him around?Had to break NC as he used my bank card. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Cancelled it earlier. He said he’s sorry he was stranded, and what am I up to How much longer are you going to allow yourself to be used? Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted August 11, 2018 Author Share Posted August 11, 2018 I dunno why I’m like this Link to comment
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