MissCanuck Posted July 28, 2018 Share Posted July 28, 2018 No I do not. I just helped him out. To him I’m nothing but a mealticket Ugh, what a creep. Let this bet yet another indication that he is not someone you want in your life anymore. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 28, 2018 Author Share Posted July 28, 2018 Part of me wants him to message me, as he’s never seen me be anything other than soft and weak. I want him to see a tougher side. I want him to want me back purely so I can be proud of moving on. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 28, 2018 Share Posted July 28, 2018 Try not to revolve your thoughts around him. Do things for your own self respect and self confidence.Part of me wants him to message me, as he’s never seen me be anything other than soft and weak. I want him to see a tougher side. I want him to want me back purely so I can be proud of moving on. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 28, 2018 Author Share Posted July 28, 2018 I want to be better. For me. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 29, 2018 Author Share Posted July 29, 2018 I know one day he’ll realise what he’s lost and be sorry. I just hope I’m with someone else and happy. He knows he messed up with me and he’s said to me several times he treats me bad and should let me be happy. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 I know one day he’ll realise what he’s lost and be sorry. I just hope I’m with someone else and happy. He knows he messed up with me and he’s said to me several times he treats me bad and should let me be happy. You need to listen to what he's saying: he knows he can't and won't be the boyfriend you deserve, and he wants you to move on. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 Your life and thoughts should be about you. Stop putting him on a pedestal when you have acknowledged that he uses you for money and chronically mistreats and disrespects you. This obsession with him is unhealthy and you realize this on some level. That means you have insight and would benefit greatly from getting support and help through therapy to improve your happiness and self respect. It could help you understand these masochistic tendencies and the need to be a victim/martyr so you could move forward and feel better.I know one day he’ll realise what he’s lost and be sorry. He knows he messed up with me and he’s said to me several times he treats me bad and should let me be happy. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 29, 2018 Author Share Posted July 29, 2018 I’m just stupid. I struggle with low self esteem and I did stuff for him to keep him. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 I’m just stupid. I struggle with low self esteem and I did stuff for him to keep him. Then that is where you should concentrate now. Work on you. Not to show him what he's lost, not to prove anything to him. Do it for you so you can have a healthier relationship in the future with a guy who respects you. Wishing and hoping he someday realizes he made a mistake is futile, also because he doesn't sound like a great guy who you should want to have back. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 29, 2018 Author Share Posted July 29, 2018 I’m hoping once I get back working out and feeling good about me I’ll be able to just forget him Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 29, 2018 Author Share Posted July 29, 2018 I’m just so torn. I dunno what I want. I’m sad I miss him but I’m angry at him. I keep thinking of how things were. Link to comment
giraffeprint Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 This!!! I know this feeling too well and I understand where you’re coming from. When ppl show you who they are you have to just accept it even if it’s unbelievable. Especially when he tells you outright that you deserve better. It’s really just a constant heartbreak for you that you can easily avoid by staying away from this guy. Take better care of yourself and stop entertaining him. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 He hasn’t messaged since Friday n that was for money anyway. Idk. I just hope he changes Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 The only person you can change is you.He hasn’t messaged since Friday n that was for money anyway. Idk. I just hope he changes Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 He hasn’t messaged since Friday n that was for money anyway. Idk. I just hope he changes He probably won't. You need to let go of who you want him to be. He's isn't that person anymore. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 I know. I just miss him. Do you think there’s any chance at all for a second chance? He hugged me when I picked my stuff up my stuff, said see you later maybe, that he loved me. So confused. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 I know. I just miss him. Do you think there’s any chance at all for a second chance? He hugged me when I picked my stuff up my stuff, said see you later maybe, that he loved me. So confused. If you are willing to flush your standards right down the toilet, then maybe. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 Day 3 of NC so hopefully this will go away soon Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 Day 3 of NC so hopefully this will go away soon It will take a while, to be honest. But you can do it. You need to start working on your self-perception; set some goals just for you for the next couple weeks. They can be little ones, anything that is achievable and will give you a boost. Make sure they are unrelated to him. When you start valuing yourself more, you will see that this guy doesn't measure up. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 Do you think NC will work though? Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 Do you think NC will work though? It works in that you either heal/move on or they come back and reconcile....usually they try to come back after you have moved on :) Link to comment
giraffeprint Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 Do you think NC will work though? Of course it will. Seems like you’re addicted to chasing him, which makes sense we always want what we can’t have. Soon you will see him for exactly who he is and understand that you deserve much better. You know that already and he has told you that directly. Don’t continue to feed his ego by responding to him Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 Do you think NC will work though? Work in what sense? To get him back? No, as that's not what No Contact is about. To help you move on? Yes, absolutely. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 Day 3 of NC almost over. Dunno how I feel. Link to comment
gigicarmx Posted July 31, 2018 Author Share Posted July 31, 2018 If he texts me, and it’s not asking for stuff, do I still ignore it? Link to comment
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