avywells Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 i recently just ask my ex to have sex with me , of course he said yes, but he replies LOL , i just wanna know for guys out there what do u feel after having sex with an ex, i know he still have strong feelings for me, after the sex he txtd me and i txtd bck after 5 hours cause i was busy he told me bout he’s day and i just didn’t reply after , i wanted to date him again but he doesn’t want to yet so i guess ill just hook up with him, i just wanted to give him space , and after a day of not txtng him he sent me a vid in insta about someone at work who made him flowers like he’s trying to make me jealous, i need a guy point of view for this one Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 You can't get an ex back with sex. Link to comment
j.man Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 I'd say stop having sex with him if you're not comfortable with the high possibility (really, reality) that nothing will ever come of it. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 He doesn't have strong feelings for you.....if he did he would date you again. It's kinda obvious he wants to have his cake and eat it too, he just likes the sex, that's it. I hope you are dating other guys. Link to comment
bluecastle Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 Sex will not get him back. When I was in my 20s, an ex came to me two months after breaking up and suggested we just have NSA sex. Sounded great to me, was ultimately devastating to her, as she semi-consciously hoped it would change my core feelings. Nope. We're good friends now—this was all a decade ago—but that blurred period certainly didn't bring us closer. It was, in the end, just a blurred period. And a very sad one interrupted my moments of pleasure. When I was in my mid 30s I was on the other end. I continued having occasional sex with an ex I wasn't remotely over, hoping she would "come around" and "see the light." Nope. It was just sex. Being older I could deal with it okay, though that blurred period made it impossible to fully commit to my next relationship, which did not end well. Hard lessons learned the hardest of ways. Moral of the story: sex is sex is sex, only sex. Healthy relationships don't happen because of good sex; they happen because two people want to be in a healthy relationship. If sex is all you want, continue; if it's something more, stop having sex with your ex so you can make the needed room to find it elsewhere. Link to comment
Giblesp Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 You want to date him, he doesn't so you are compromising yourself by settling for less than you want. Going by your picture your an attractive young woman, there are many men who would like to date you. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 If he had strong feelings for you, then he would actually date you. You've been demoted from gf to fwb. Just add me to the chorus of sex is just sex and sleeping with the ex will not get them back....in fact you are making sure they don't even miss you at all. Link to comment
avywells Posted April 17, 2018 Author Share Posted April 17, 2018 i recently just ask my ex to have sex with me , of course he said yes, but he replies LOL , i just wanna know for guys out there what do u feel after having sex with an ex, i know he still have strong feelings for me, after the sex he txtd me and i txtd bck after 5 hours cause i was busy he told me bout he’s day and i just didn’t reply after , i wanted to date him again but he doesn’t want to yet so i guess ill just hook up with him, i just wanted to give him space , and after a day of not txtng him he sent me a vid in insta about someone at work who made him flowers like he’s trying to make me jealous, i need a guy point of view for this one im not trying to get him back with sex actually it didn’t make me feel any diff , im just asking in guys perspective how do u feel after having sex with an ex that u still have feelings for, also he is more emotional than me ,and right now my thing is just to have sex with him,he wanted to see where thing goes before we both decided to date each kther Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 If he wanted you back, he would be with you. I suggest complete NC. Stop giving him the benefit of a relationship, without one. This includes texts, calls and hanging out. having sex with an ex that I had feeling for, was hurtful. The more it happened, the more devalued I felt. He was telling me he still loved me, but deep down I knew we would not get back together. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 The two of you were not compatible, according to your earlier thread. Emotions mean nothing, actions are the only thing that matters. You are wasting your time. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 im not trying to get him back with sex actually it didn’t make me feel any diff , im just asking in guys perspective how do u feel after having sex with an ex that u still have feelings for, also he is more emotional than me ,and right now my thing is just to have sex with him,he wanted to see where thing goes before we both decided to date each kther So you broke his trust? Link to comment
avywells Posted April 17, 2018 Author Share Posted April 17, 2018 So you broke his trust? we both did stupid things , Link to comment
DancingFool Posted April 17, 2018 Share Posted April 17, 2018 Consider that sometimes there is just too much water under the bridge to continue and seek better for yourself going forward. On again/off again, fighting, bad things, broken trust - it's just not working and is not going to. Link to comment
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