Koala2018 Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 Hi everyone I've been with my boyfriend since summer last year and we mostly had a great time. There had been 2 underlying issues that had been bothering me for a while which were that he seemed to often prioritise other things over our relationship to the point where we hadn't spent a weekend together in 6 weeks. The other was my desire to move 200 miles away to be near my family. This had been my aim before I met him, and I'd been upfront about it, but there just hadn't been any job opportunities. We hadn't seen each other for the last 2 weeks but he knew the prioritisation issue had been bothering me so we agreed to speak by phone. We were meant to meet in person but that didn't happen for reasons I won't go into. On the phone call we hashed out the time issue, but then I brought up the relocation thing. I told him that I was likely to move soon due to an Occupational Health recommendation, to which he said "well that's that then. There's no work for me there". There is work (he freelances for a start) but he just obviously isn't that bothered. It cut me how matter-of-fact and cold he was about it. This is a guy who has told me he loves me and asked me to move in with him not long ago (I said no because we haven't spent enough time together yet). The conversation finished with me telling him I'm pregnant (I'd found out the day before) and was going to have an abortion. Please don't judge me on that, it was unplanned and it's mainly health reasons. I wasn't going to tell him at all but my friend convinced me I should. He offered to emotionally support me with the abortion but I told him I'd prefer to cut ties (abortion is free in my country). I don't want someone who has just discarded me so abruptly to be with me during that. He messaged me twice again today offering more help/support (not just with the abortion but more generally) which I know means in theory he's saying all the right things. The more I think about it all, the more upset and angry I am. I'm so upset that our relationship is suddenly over and so coldly as I haven't felt this way about someone for a long time, and also that I'm left with this situation now. I know he's offered to support me but I'd rather be alone with it than "supported" by someone who suddenly doesn't want me anymore. That would feel like fake/pity support. Any advice? x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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