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  1. You weren't acting silly, you were setting boundaries and he was disrespecting them. You clearly told him what you wanted, couldn't have been any clearer to be honest, and he got mad and "emotional" and worst of all, he made you doubt yourself and your behavior. Yes learn from this, that men you're interested in should respect your needs. And when someone blames you for something you said no to by calling you childish etc, RUN. Manipulative as h*ll. If he texts you again, don't give in,block him now even. He showed some major red flags. I wouldn't believe him on anything he said abo
  2. Oh I'm so sorry you're going through this, but this guy is a, to say the least, ***. You really don't want him back. He's immature and mean. You're probably more in love with the idea of him than him. He's treating you horribly and sounds manipulative. Also, you don't really know him. Well, take a step back and pretend this is a guy a friend of yours is interested in and tell me if she deserves this kind of behavior. I bet you said h*ll no! Or I hope you did. I'm so sorry again, that you're going through this, but please run! Block him and never look back!
  3. Oh dammit. Is there anyone you can talk to? Including a lawyer perhaps? Although I don't see anything you can do legally, but I'm no lawyer. Do you think that he will stop if you pay him back?
  4. Chloe, I get it, you're scared. Do you think he will do something worse out of anger? Are you afraid of him physically attacking you? Do you think blocking him will aggravate him more?
  5. Pink, you've gotten great advice! Our stories are so similar,I'm even benefiting from the advice you got! I agree with Katrina and bluecastle. Acceptance is the key. Accept all your feelings, negative and positive. Feel them and sit with them, don't think, just feel, if that makes sense. I believe you, you will probably always love him, just try not to act on it because, by the facts you have now, he doesn't want to be with you and that itself, makes a relationship not possible by definition. If you think you can handle contacting him now without getting drawn back in and ending up obs
  6. Pink, our stories are so alike, down to the flirting with another girl in front of me. The difference is, my goal is to get over him. I suspect that you haven't gone through all the stages of a break up and instead, you're planning on how to get him back. If you are doing this, no amount of hobbies will help you get over him. If you are mentally trying to get over him, then I do suggest you stop your hobby for a bit, not forever of course. This is exactly what I did with our common hobby. I stopped doing it for a month so I wouldn't bump into him and met our mutual friends elsewhere. I didn
  7. I absolutely LOVE mine! Was working as a waitress, 12 hour shifts with common sandals, once I switched to Birkenstocks, my feet were actually relaxing while working. It was amazing!
  8. Great! Now you know. Now go NC and never look back. You don't owe him the trip, it's just a power play.
  9. Unfortunately, he's not confusing from an outsider's point of view of course. You're confused because you want a reaction that matches your feelings and you're not getting one. Like you said, you're afraid to ask because you basically already know the answer. I've been there, oh so many times. Once I finally found the courage to ask, it seemed so silly that I was afraid to before. What usually empowers me, is thinking that by asking the right questions, I take control of my life. So, take control of your life. Ask him. The worse thing that could happen is you'll lose him forever, but how wo
  10. You've received great advice, multiple times. Apparently, it's not the answer you are looking for. So, go, add her again. I wouldn't advise that, and I haven't, but you might need to actually take this lesson in order to learn it. Add her again and tell us how it went.
  11. I can't agree with DancingFool more. I've been following your thread since the beginning and he reeks manipulation from miles, for an outsider. It's not easy to see when you're in it. His cheating doesn't really bother me, as much as what he said to you. Sometimes people cheat near the end of a relationship and in general, I can understand that people make mistakes and change; a serial cheater in my book, is someone who cheats repeatedly on the same partner. To the point though, what he's doing is basically what DancingFool said, he's lowering your self esteem and self worth; this way
  12. I'm pretty sure most people don't watch porn because they find the people on it attractive, at least I don't. It's just an expansion of masturbation, a tool. And also, women watch porn too. But. Women have been shamed about it for decades and only the younger generations of women are more open about it. I do think that maybe that has played a role in your beliefs about porn. Watching porn could only be a problem if it absorbs most of a person's time. I've been with a guy like that, whenever he wasn't working, he was on a porn site, h*ll, he even had it playing in the background. Now th
  13. And yes, when he's calling because he's down, it's a silly reason. He could be down because of the break up, but that does not mean he wants to get back together. It most likely means he wants you to cheer him up because he's used to it. So what's happening is, he's further down the line of the breaking up process, and is using you (not ill-intentioned) to help him get over the last bits. This usually leads to the dumper ditching your "friendship" completely when a new woman enters the picture. I wouldn't wish that to my worse enemy, please don't let it come to that and go NC
  14. Hey, it's a process, I'm sure most of us checked on our exes social media more than once even if we said we're in NC. What I don't get, is that most people don't tell their exes that they're going NC. Some do it because they listen to the advice the break up people in YouTube, and I get it, again, I'm sure most of us have visited those videos even if we didn't want to get them back. I strongly advise you to tell him that you need space and that you're going NC. That way you are setting boundaries. You're saying "ok, I accept your decision, now this is what I need to move forward, I'll t
  15. Isn't this the guy you broke up with and was aggressive? Why did you take him back?
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