charity Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 I am a single parent with two children. I live in a great neighbourhood and have good neighbours, most of them older couples. The people in the house across the road from me are the same age as me- a great family and our kids play together. They've been married 10 years and seem a great couple. I am friendly with both of them- not overly friendly, but in a nice neighbourly way. The husband works days and the wife works nights so I would only see them together at weekends. During the week I may chat to the wife occasionally during the days and likewise in the evenings I may chat to the husband occasionally. These chats simply take place outside in the street. So one time the husband mentioned to me that its hard that he doesn't get to see his wife more during the weekdays. He said that she even said one time ...you get to speak more to (my name) then me!. I was a bit weirded out by this (obviously its not true, we chat maybe once a week)...I suppose an alarm bell went off but I ignored it. This week we had lots of snow. In my country this never happens so it was super exciting for us! Schools closed and everyone was off work!. Both the husband and wife were at home but he was out throwing snowballs with kids (mine and his kids). He rang my doorbell...saying you know' hey isn't this amazing etc etc. We chatted for a few mins and the wife waved out the window. So a day later I'm outside throwing snowballs with kids and the couple come out and we're all having a lovely time. I'm having a nice chat with the wife and suddenly she brings up in a seemingly lighthearted way......''ha ha I could be worried about my husband and you haha''. I'm like huh? She says 'oh you know yesterday when he called to you and was chatting at your door, well I was on the phone to my mother and I told her can you believe he is chatting with our female neighbour....and my mum said Oh how old is she? and I said same age as us and my mum says oH you have to be careful...she is single etc etc.''. Now through all this she is laughing like its a joke s I'm laughing alongside her but feeling that maybe I need to let her know that I am the last person she needs to be wary of. But since then I've thought about it more and I'm wondering....was this a warning? Is she threatened or upset by my friendship with her husband? Now, I know I am not doing anything wrong but I can't help feeling a bit annoyed. Like seriously, just because I'm a single mum doesn't mean I'm out to grab your hubby you know!! It's made me question how I interact with them. Like I said they are a cool friendship and we get on really well as neighbours, when they went on holidays they gave me a key so I could check their house, turn on heating etc and they would do the same for me. I'm interested to hear what you guys think. Link to comment
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