Sploosh79 Posted March 2, 2018 Share Posted March 2, 2018 I have really awful anxiety so please don't bag on me. I've read through some posts and some people can be so mean. First off, I've always had awful anxiety and not exactly trust issues but when something comes up I overthink. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years. There have been a few things in the past that were probably very small but I worried about them way too much and made sort of a deal about them. And if my fiance is true to what he says, he's a saint for putting up with my anxiety, but he knows how much I worry about everything. So he's always taken his phone everywhere with him and is kind of secretive about it and reluctant for me to use it if I need to, like his phone has data, mine doesn't. Whenever he's on his phone and on something like messenger or Snapchat and I walk up he normally exits out of it. But scrolling on Facebook and ifunny he stays on it. I asked to use his data on his phone the other day and he was really reluctant to give it to me and said it was in his pocket and we were in the car (him driving) but he's never had an issue getting it out of his pocket for himself. We were working on our new flooring and he went to cut a few pieces of wood and left his phone to cut some. Pandora was playing on his phone and it stopped so I went to look at it and saw he had missed Facebook messages from a girl named Madison (also my name). I was curious and read a little bit. She said something about how since he's not in receiving anymore she can't be there to annoy him. And he sent some pictures of our dog. I got off when I saw him walking up and decided to try and weed the answer out of him rather than being upfront. Normally he tells me about all of his coworkers, and I tell him about mine. Because we don't really have that interesting of lives other than working all the time. We were looking for someone else to hangout with so play cards with and I asked if he had any close friends. (I looked this girl up and she's 20 minutes from us from her profile) and he said no. He does have another female friend that he has talked openly about. But not this girl. And I do consider after being at work for 3 days (he just started) and already following this girl on Facebook and Instagram and messaging her I would consider that a friend. I also asked him if he made any new friends at work, he said no, he'd only been there for 3 days. I then asked if his work hires women, not blatantly, we were on the subject. He works in a warehouse and the last warehouse he was in there weren't women except those who drove the trucks. And he said he wasn't sure, there weren't any in his group. Although just the other day he was talking to this girl from his work. So it kept eating at me and I confronted him. He got upset. Is that usual for someone who is innocent? And he said she's just a co-worker and she's engaged and so are we and be would never do anything to jeapordize our relationship. And I asked why he didn't say anything about her as he gives me the news about basically everything at work, so much news I can't keep up with who is who. And he said he didn't think it mattered and that he didn't think it mattered to talk to her since she is engaged. (That doesn't stop people) I also mentioned how he said he didn't know that women worked where he works but he had been talking to her. He said he guessed he forgot. He said that at work they were talking about her dog so he showed her our dog over messenger. Not only did he get upset of being accused but he also was going to go for a "drive" before I said why waste the gas. I hate to think he's doing anything. He hasn't acted any different really. It freaks me out because when we first started talking that's what we first talked about. What dogs we had. And he mentioned how she's engaged to someone in the military but my brother got cheated on while on duty, so what stops her. Some women are "home wreckers". It also bothers me because she is really pretty. And I'm very self conscious and have gained weight since I've been with him. It doesn't seem to phase him, but still. I don't want to bring it up and beat the dead horse but it's still bothering me and his story doesn't match up. But I feel like if he explained more it would make me feel better. Link to comment
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