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  1. I'm not religious but sure I can be all for morals. Morally in the US it's wrong for a 40 year old dude to marry a 13 year old. Some other places it's not. I'm not sure what your point is.
  2. As long as you're fully open with each other it's not a problem. But if one was sneaking around behind the others back and doing it would you be okay with it? And yes I understand all relationships are different and all peoples perspectives are as well. I myself think fantasizing about someone other than your partner isn't really appropriate. You might not be physically cheating but mentally and emotionally you sort of are.
  3. No that's not the issue. I wanted peoples opinions and to see their thoughts on the matter. If porn and sex with your partner are very different then how in a way is it not being unfaithful? Wouldn't you think it's like cheating but without doing the physical act? I don't think fantasizing about someone other than your loved one is okay if you're in a truly monogamous relationship, especially because most times it's hidden and not talked about. I think my biggest problem is most times porn is hidden and I feel like that's as bad as cheating because one partner is not telling the truth and is being sneaky. It may not be physical but mentally and emotionally they're getting from porn what they would if they actually cheated. From my perspective people watch porn because they want something new other than their partner. And if they aren't satisfied with their partner then why be in a relationship? Also from other things I've read, people who watch porn, especially secretly, are more likely to cheat.
  4. I'm not making this a personal post I just want peoples opinions. I myself would feel betrayed especially if they were hiding it. Because how is a guilty conscious good?
  5. I can definitely see both sides but now that I think about it, in my opinion it's not much different than getting nudes from a random
  6. So I'm curious. Why do you watch porn when you have a partner who can send nudes or you even make your own videos?
  7. I don't think all behavior should be excused, don't get me wrong. But I do think that, from my experience men are sexual creatures, and I feel most will watch porn no matter what.
  8. I agree girls are sexual creatures but from my experience men have a higher sex drive.
  9. I feel like people are either okay with it and even watch it together or they think it's cheating. I guess I can see both standpoints. Boys will be boys and are sexual creatures, but then again how is it different if they watched two people having sex (live)? Or even if someone recorded themselves having sex with someone else, for them. What are your guys opinions?
  10. I'll have to look into it as I'm not sure what my insurance can cover. I know that exercise could probably help as well but I never feel motivated to.
  11. I've just recently moved so I don't even have a set doctor in the area yet so I will have to get that set up first before anything and see what they say and see what my insurance can cover.
  12. I've never thought to be on medication. I didn't know I had that large of an issue. Plus I'm not sure what medication I need.
  13. I'm not sure where this stemmed from. My mom was in the army when I was younger. She was a single mom until I was about 8. And many times I was with a babysitter while she was gone.
  14. I_.like_ spikes (this was with the swiping. I was actually trying to type I like apples) I'm not sure what samsung you have. We both have 7s. I'm not sure if my anxiety is from my relationship and "deep down" knowing it's wrong. As when he worked late at the old warehouse and he first started I would wake up in the middle of the night and my anxieties made me fear the worst like he had gotten into an accident on the way home and I would hyperventilate. That happened basically until I got used to his work schedule. I've only felt these anxieties about him when I felt he was being suspicious. Can I ask what happened in your relationship that made you anxious? And honestly I've always had anxiety. Even when I wasn't in a relationship. When I was younger I couldn't let my mom leave my sight like if we were at a grocery store because I would have a panic attack thinking she left me. Before I drove and had to be picked up everywhere (not in a relationship) I would almost have a panic attack if I felt they were taking far longer than I thought it would take to get there. If my parents went in trips I had panic attacks worrying about if they would make it back. So I think whats stemming my issues is definitely anxieties and until I can get them under control I shouldn't accuse or assume unless I have full evidence because even the smallest thing will make me worry. With anxieties do you think it's possible to trust someone completely? Even if they have never proven themself to be untrustworthy?
  15. We both have Samsung's. They pop up with another word you use often, based on what you already typed, or you can use the swiping method by just swiping across the screen, which is what's possible what could have made the sentence that was said to be a butt text.
  16. We went "tiny" and are living in a 5th wheel. He keeps his phone on top of the shower to listen to music. I agree I need to get a hold of my anxiety. I need to find a therapist my insurance will cover. I don't want to push him away as some have said I could, but id also like to know why he feels the need to always have his phone on him.
  17. But again there was nothing before or after the text. I'm just looking for opinions and what people think about THIS situation. I've hashed that situation out and gave him the benefit of the doubt because there was no other evidence.
  18. Getting engaged was sort of a joint effort. We figured we live together so why not make it more official. We don't have a date set because we will do it when we have the money. He gets pretty upset if I forget to put my ring back on after I shower or wash my hands. So no I don't believe he felt pressured to put a ring on my finger.
  19. I agree. Therapy could help. It's just finding a therapist that my insurance would cover.
  20. That's not exactly what the text said. It said "as is your sexy". Not sure how much sense that makes. There were no texts before that or after it. And it was supposedly to an older coworker of his. And again I don't know what happened. I talked to my mom about it after it happened and she said it's/possible/ it was a mistake. And I don't know for sure. So I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Because other than my suspicions, he's a great guy. And that's all they could be, just suspicions, because as I said, I worry a lot. I've received butt texts before and he has typed out whole names with jumbled letters. And how smart phones work, it comes up with what is texted the most. If I text in I on my phone, the next thing that pops up is love you, because it's often texted.
  21. I'm not going to accuse unless I know. Why would I set myself to think he's cheating if he's not? And that's not exactly what the text said. It wasn't that clear. And as I said I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I'm just asking for opinions and what people think. I'm not looking for people to force me to do something. I listened to what people said. I just didn't act on them because at the end of the day the only person who knows is him. So I'm just here looking for advice. Not to be told what I HAVE to do.
  22. I gave him the benefit of the doubt since I truly didn't know. It's not an issue in our relationship now so why bring it up?
  23. I can't agree with this. If you want to cheat then leave. If someone thinks their wife misunderstands them and feels the need to find love elsewhere then why stay? I am in no means, mean. Jealous and anxious sure. I've never ever told him he can't talk to women. But if I'm going to casually message a dude I would tell him. Just because I think he deserves to know.
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