No that's not the issue. I wanted peoples opinions and to see their thoughts on the matter.
If porn and sex with your partner are very different then how in a way is it not being unfaithful? Wouldn't you think it's like cheating but without doing the physical act? I don't think fantasizing about someone other than your loved one is okay if you're in a truly monogamous relationship, especially because most times it's hidden and not talked about.
I think my biggest problem is most times porn is hidden and I feel like that's as bad as cheating because one partner is not telling the truth and is being sneaky. It may not be physical but mentally and emotionally they're getting from porn what they would if they actually cheated. From my perspective people watch porn because they want something new other than their partner. And if they aren't satisfied with their partner then why be in a relationship?
Also from other things I've read, people who watch porn, especially secretly, are more likely to cheat.