Couldnt get erect

[Allthelonely]

I recently had the pleasure of spending the night with my new girlfriend and we decided we were both ready to have oral, we are both 17 (legal in the uk) so it was both our first sexual encounter and although I satisfied her I could not get erect no matter what she did. It isn’t that I’m not attracted to her because I definitely am in both a romantic and sexual way it’s just whatever we did it wouldn’t get hard! She was very understanding and told me not to be embarrassed but I really don’t want it to happen again but am now scared I will. We did it in the early hours of the morning (2am ish) and I thought maybe it was tiredness but we tried again in the morning and it still didn’t work. Normally I have no problem with this stuff and hadn’t masturbated in a few days I just don’t know what to do. Sorry if that made no sense

[thealchemist]

Well for a first time I wouldn't worry too much. That is what causes it a lot of time anyways (worry).

 

If it does become an issue there are medical avenues to try too.

 

Also counseling can help depending on the causality.

 

But for now I really wouldn't worry about it on your first sexual encounter

[Wiseman2]

Nerves. Relax and take things slowly. If her or your folks were in the house that can add to this.

[reinventmyself]

Almost typical first time performance anxiety.

[DanZee]

Give it time. Girls are very understanding about this sort of thing. You can ask her if she wants to try again.

[Giblesp]

Happens, dont worry about it. Do other stuff first, build up to the main thing. Use condoms.

[Betterwithout]

It's all in your head. (no pun intended)

 

Worry and "trying" to make it erect compound the problem.

Work on finding a way to relax to take the stress and pressure off the situation.