sleepingsick Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 Hi there. Maybe I'll explain a little about me so you can get sort of an idea of where I'm at in life. I'm 23, I have my bachelor's degree, and I currently work full time. I still live at home with my dad, and saving to possibly purchase a place to live instead of rent. Here comes the issue. Basically my whole life I have done what others have told me to do. I got my first job at 14 because that is what my parents wanted. I went to university because that's what my parents wanted. It isn't as though I didn't enjoy it; however, I wish I could have taken some time to work in between to try to figure out what I really wanted, rather than taking a subject that I was good at. Even today, I still do various things because my parents want me to do them, not because I want to. I am consistently being bugged about going back for my masters from my mom. She constantly says "you need to do it for me" or "you will be better off" without even so much as to listening about what my proposed career plans are. Lately, all this has made me realize is how my whole life I have just done what they wanted me to do, and I wish I could have done at least something out of the box rather than just following the cookie cutter pattern that has been drawn out for me. More and more, I would like to move somewhere else and do something completely different but for some strange reason I always catch myself thinking of the negatives of doing something rather than the positives. If I move somewhere completely different and change my career, what if I fail? What if I'm not good enough? What if my parents won't support me because I am not doing what they want me to do? As well, I know it is also a horrible thing to compare your life to someone else's but I look at my friends and 3 of my best friends are engaged and have recently purchased homes of their own. And for some reason I am scared that if I go off and do something else for a while, but then fail and have to come back, that I will be so far behind in life. Yes, I know it is irrational because everyone does move at different speeds and not every person is the same. I hope this post makes sense. I just do not know how to shake these negative thoughts from my mind and go out on a limb in my life for once and do something completely different. I am tired of living in my hometown and doing the same thing every day, and following what others want of me.. Is there anyone that can give me advise on how to shake these negative thoughts from my life and move forward? Thank you. Link to comment
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