pippy longstocking Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Ya you are right it is not cheating..but what is making him feel the pain is visualizing me with the other man.. But he dumped you darling ...he can't be in that much pain to dump you , tell you he * might* come back for you and then go off and enjoy his life . Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Ya you are right it is not cheating..but what is making him feel the pain is visualizing me with the other man.. That is his issue. He dumped you. Do you not understand what that means? He made the conscious choice to choose himself being alone than with you. If he picks that he would rather be alone than with you how does he even have a right to decide what you do after he is done with you? He choose to be DONE with you. I now am wondering what your issues are that you have so little respect for yourself... Link to comment
Ruka Posted October 28, 2017 Author Share Posted October 28, 2017 it is not that i don't have respect for myself..but this guy is so special for me..we've planned our lives together Link to comment
Ruka Posted October 28, 2017 Author Share Posted October 28, 2017 Ya i really want help please..it is not a relationship that i can get over and move on Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 Ya i really want help please..it is not a relationship that i can get over and move on Ruka for crying out loud , this is why people are targeting you ..I had to report a flippin spell caster on here the other day .... you need to get a grip of all this now , enough is enough . Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Yes. And, he pissed it all away by breaking with you to date others. You will survive. We all have. Your attitude is scary. Please seek professional help. Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Ya i really want help please..it is not a relationship that i can get over and move on If this isn't a relationship you can get over then you are going to have a very miserable life. You are extremely codependant and need professional help. Look into free therapy that your school might provide. it is not that i don't have respect for myself..but this guy is so special for me..we've planned our lives together If only you were as special to him, but your not. That is why he broke up with you. Did your plan for your future involve him breaking up with you? If it didn't those plans are broken, so it doesn't really matter what you planned. Life doesn't really let you make all the choices. Just couldn't resist... Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Oh mannn, like NO ONE else has ever had a relationship where they've planned their lives together and moved on...? Your relationship isn't that special, and it's all in your head. Your ex guy is a jack@$$, and you need to move on. Link to comment
No1 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Ruka... He is lying to you and he is playing with your emotions. I have done exactly what he is doing and he is having fun with you. He wants you to control you, then give you a little bit of hope, maybe have sex with you and keep you around and tell you that you being with another guy hurts him. (I know because I have done exactly what he has done) He keeps you under his control by saying I miss you and I would of come back, but I cant trust you, and things like that. To counter that, you tel him that you know his game and you shut him down. Say good bye to him. Link to comment
Ruka Posted October 30, 2017 Author Share Posted October 30, 2017 But why would someone do this? Why did you do it? Link to comment
No1 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I dont know if there is a reason i could give you that would make you understand. Why do people steal, why do people cheat, why do some people hurt others? Bad people do bad things and they dont need a reason why. I think in his case he does it because he enjoys playing with your emotions and he enjoys having you like/love him. It gives him a boost or makes him feel good. He loves the control he has over your and its quite empowering to know that you can manipulate someone. The counter to that is not play. The more you apologize or question or do things for him to prove your love or devotion, the more he feeds off of it and the harder it will be for you. Its a very simple game actually. And all you have to do is tell him, I know what you are doing, You are no longer part of my life. Go away. Of course, he will hate to lose you so he will say something to get you back. But remember, all they are is words. He knows your buttons, your weaknesses and he is enjoying playing with you. Best thing for you is to realize he is not the one for you. There is a guy out there that is better for you because you dont want someone like him. Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I think people do things like that because they are trying to compensate for some internal lacking, whether it is confidence or self esteem or whatever. Link to comment
Ruka Posted October 30, 2017 Author Share Posted October 30, 2017 He won't even say anything to get me back...thank you for the advice i need it now Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 He won't even say anything to get me back...thank you for the advice i need it now Damn girl. Buck up and move on! I can't stop watching your thread though but it is just because I want to come back on and eventually yell something loud enough that it gets through to you. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 He won't even say anything to get me back...thank you for the advice i need it now You're making him your entire world and he isn't even trying...that should tell you everything you need to know. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 He won't even say anything to get me back...thank you for the advice i need it now I so badly wish I could hypnotize you through the screen and erase all your memories of him. Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I so badly wish I could hypnotize you through the screen and erase all your memories of him. Ahem. Maybe... Obliviate! Link to comment
thealchemist Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 I wish i could The only problem with erasing your memories of him is that you wouldn't ever learn from this unhealthy behavior. So you would be doomed to very likely repeat it. Maybe the pain from letting someone get such unhealthy control over you is enough that you won't succumb to this again. Link to comment
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