Haksaw2018 Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Hello, I am 26 years old and my (Ex) Girlfriend is 24 years old. We have been dating for 8 months and seriously everything has been practically perfect with the exception of some personal issues and insecurities that she has to work on (her words not mine) but she clearly does have insecurities. I have never been in a relationship so strong and where both of us knew we wanted to work towards a family and life together. And I have never felt anything like this for anyone before. She has been in very abusive, both emotional and physical, relationships and taken advantage of many times due to her insecurities. To top it off her Mom has always been both physically and emotionally abusive as well. Prior to me asking her out she had literally just decided she never wanted to be with anyone and that she would maybe adopt if she wanted kids. She took a leap of faith with me cause she didn't want to miss a great relationship because it wasn't "a good time for her". She was so grateful for everything about me and she has never been in a relationship where she felt the way she did about me. She finally went back to school 2 months ago to finish what she started and things have gone downhill ever since. She is more stressed than anyone I've ever seen, especially since she has to try so hard for school and doesn't know what she wants to go for yet. I've noticed her getting more and more depressed until she finally got an idea of what she wants to do and she dropped a class that wasn't necessary for her new career. She had a day of completely relieve and no stress. The next day her Mom got in a huge fight and basically disowned her. She was strong and willing to get her mom out of her life and try to save her sisters from emotional abuse as well. Anyway that has sent her right back into a depression. So here we are now, yesterday she told me that she needs to find herself, that she no longer knows what she wants in life, and that she still doesn't love herself and that she can't love someone else when she doesn't love herself. She claimed that nothing has changed and she hasn't made any progress on opening up to me, which is untrue cause I'm the only person she has ever told about her past with her mom and a lot of other hard parts of her life. She just has never been able to open up to me with problems and always tried to hide away by herself to deal with them alone, which she has always done cause she doesn't talk and open up to anyone. Not even her sisters. She has asked me to respect her decision and I see how hard this is on her. She says she knows it's selfish but she doesn't feel right being anyone's girlfriend when she doesn't even like herself. Our goodbyes were so heartfelt and it was the most emotion I've seen from her for a while. I was always able to make her laugh and she could usually enjoy her day by the end of it thanks to my company. She told me not to wait for her cause she doesn't know how long it will take her and she can't promise me anything. She was having an extremely hard time leaving my side when we were saying goodbye. I love her madly and neither of us have felt this way about another person ever. It's a long story but there are so many other things about us that just fell into place by chance. It's not like this is either of our first relationships and I know I have never felt this way about a woman my entire life. We love the exact same things to a T it's something I've never seen personally in another couple I've known. She hasn't changed her profile picture of us or made herself "single" on social media either. Thanks for the long read. I'm just looking for any advice, to me they are the same words and excuses like so many women, but she has always been brutally honest so I think this is different and I feel like all of this is a result of her depression. I don't know if I should give her a week and if I don't hear from her call her and check in, make her laugh and schedule a meet up? Again any advice would be helpful. Thanks, Haksaw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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