AloneNoMore Posted June 23, 2017 Author Share Posted June 23, 2017 We will see so far it has been completely quiet from her side granted it has only been a day. It was weird though she reactivated her dating profile on the place we met and I only know that because she showed up this morning in my list of matches and online. Maybe her reactivating it and talking and meeting other guys will allow her to move on. I have a date tonight with another woman and a couple more lined up over the next couple days with a few more. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 23, 2017 Author Share Posted June 23, 2017 I'll bet $10 she contacts you in less than a week. Want to take the bet?I might take that bet she left Weds night hasn't contacted me Thursday or Today. So only 5 more days. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 26, 2017 Author Share Posted June 26, 2017 Spoke waaaaay too soon. So Saturday I ended up at an event in her town that she ended up also going to ( I had no clue ) well one thing led to another we ended up hooking up back at her place and talking for 4 hours. She asked me to unblock her number since she saw I wasn't answering text or calls. I did to see where this was going. Fast forward to last night she called and we talked for a little over 5 hours about everything. She agreed to goto a counsoler among other things and wanted to schedule a date for this week. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 26, 2017 Author Share Posted June 26, 2017 We have a date planned for her birthday and also one now planned for mine. Link to comment
ladyj123 Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 She sounds like a crazy lady. You need to drop that quick lol Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 26, 2017 Author Share Posted June 26, 2017 My only hangup will be her being still on dating sites she does still sign on to them quite frequently. That is something I need to figure out how to handle we not together officially and technically just trying the redating so nothing is exclusive. I also did go out there and hookup with other people during our break while she hasn't even been on a first date. She did tell me her being on the site still is the not something I should be worried about at this point. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 She will be gone as soon as she finds a shiny new object on that dating site, OP. This is not a woman who's going to commit in the way you hoped. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 Where's my $10??? Seriously, no surprise. You'll stay on this hamster wheel until she finds someone else. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 27, 2017 Author Share Posted June 27, 2017 She's the one who initated possibly trying to get back together it's still unknown if any of these plans will even happen but she did say "I'm going to end up being your worst nightmare again if we go through with this. " Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 27, 2017 Author Share Posted June 27, 2017 I know you all , friends, and my parents all say I need to just shut the door on her face and never ever open it again on her. I'll see if any of the plans we have this week go through and if they don't I really need to close the door on her. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 I know you all , friends, and my parents all say I need to just shut the door on her face and never ever open it again on her. I'll see if any of the plans we have this week go through and if they don't I really need to close the door on her. The trouble is, will you? Going by this thread, you will continue on the hamster wheel. One can almost say it looks like you thrive on drama, no? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 She's the one who initated possibly trying to get back together it's still unknown if any of these plans will even happen but she did say "I'm going to end up being your worst nightmare again if we go through with this. " OP, if she were serious about that, she wouldn't be looking for other options. You are her place-holder and easy source of affection and attention until she finds your replacement. If I may be blunt, why are you desperate that are you willing to be treated like a toy? Have you not dated much before? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted June 27, 2017 Share Posted June 27, 2017 I know you all , friends, and my parents all say I need to just shut the door on her face and never ever open it again on her. I'll see if any of the plans we have this week go through and if they don't I really need to close the door on her. You said that last time. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 27, 2017 Author Share Posted June 27, 2017 OP, if she were serious about that, she wouldn't be looking for other options. You are her place-holder and easy source of affection and attention until she finds your replacement. If I may be blunt, why are you desperate that are you willing to be treated like a toy? Have you not dated much before?Honestly neither of us have Her ex husband before me she was with since like 15 and she got the daughter out of it. I had a 10+ year relationship with 2 kids and a 5-6 month relationship before this one. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 28, 2017 Author Share Posted June 28, 2017 Well I canceled our plans for her birthday tonight and instead going to spend the night with the girl I met and hooked up with the night before I first hooked up with the ex. I can't keep going back and forth hooking up with two people. The other person does show a lot of interest in wanting something serious and has shown it but I agree I kept going back to the ex. I let the ex know I was going to instead spend the time with this new girl and see where things go. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 28, 2017 Share Posted June 28, 2017 I let the ex know I was going to instead spend the time with this new girl and see where things go. Did your ex give her approval? ](*,) Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 28, 2017 Author Share Posted June 28, 2017 Did your ex give her approval? ](*,)I don't think she really cares to be honest. I mean she knew I slept with this girl and that same night the ex wanted me to go over her house which I told her I wouldn't and instead went over the night after. The ex and I hooked up 2 more times after that and she never once asked me to not see the other girl. The only thing the ex said was she didn't want me to be upset if she did start dating. It's been since Mothers day and she hasn't even been on a single date yet. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 28, 2017 Author Share Posted June 28, 2017 She did get mad at first when she found out I hooked up with this other girl and said "I can't believe you hooked up with someone when I haven't even done anything with anyone or even been on a date" but then followed that with "I want you to come over now" Link to comment
boltnrun Posted June 28, 2017 Share Posted June 28, 2017 Are you attempting to make her jealous? Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted June 28, 2017 Author Share Posted June 28, 2017 Are you attempting to make her jealous?Nope she asked me if I hooked up with her and we have both been always up front honest with each other. No matter what during that year each one of us asked each other we were pretty brutally honest with each other. Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 I ended up canceling it with the new girl I just can't bring the new girl into where obviously I'm not fully ready Yeah I need to figure out did I actually get with this new girl to get back at the X or to try to move on or feel something I don't think that I'm really ready that quick to move right into something else Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 I just don't want the new girl to end up being rebound where I'm not able to emotionally commit to her Or as some form of coping mechanism and also me in the ax haven't talked in what 3 or 4 days Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 I think that the way it ended between me and the ex Where I moved out and then she kept hanging on and bringing me back into it and then both of us trying to move away from each-other week being codependent even after the break-up Link to comment
AloneNoMore Posted July 2, 2017 Author Share Posted July 2, 2017 For me I needed someone that was able to command and I think for the 11 months we were together she tried but I think at the end of the day I don't think she was ever really ready for commitment and I don't think she was fully over her last relationship but she is out there actively really trying to enter a new one and I honestly saw that now that is not a healthy way to go the jump right in to something right after Link to comment
LondonMan33 Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 Urgg . I couldnt read most of this thread, You will be "alone some more" if you don't stop this crazy ramblings . what,s going on inside your mind. give your head a shake and get over whatever it is to get over . Crikey you would give an aspirin a headache . Link to comment
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