maaraishuk Posted February 11, 2017 Share Posted February 11, 2017 I feel like we play tug of war with each other and we both are losing. he wants to have lots of time with his family. i work weekends, and if i don't work we can't afford to feed a lavish lifestyle of private education, luxury holidays etc. he alone earns very well, but we would live modestly on his income. so i chip in to work hard to help achieve a common goal, of private education for our kids, bigger house, my own expenses etc. the children are his responsibility on the weekends. but i feel he can be so childish sometimes. for example, his parents returning from holiday. our child is unwell, but i had to beg him to take her to the Docs this morning instead of doing the airport run. he sent his brother, and told me to go to work, and he would take care of them. but i felt so guilty doing this. like almost as if i did something wrong. our child has been sick for 10 days, temp last night, vomited this morning while i was getting them ready before i went to work. of course i panicked. either i cancel to take her and he does his airport run. or he mans up to responsibility and takes her. he took her, but since has the hump with me and im getting the silent treatment. truth be told, he knows i wasnt happy about him going when i feel his responsibility lies with the kids, rather than the kids getting dropped off somewhere. he has siblings who are free on the weekends, with partners to look after their children, so they can easily go. we however, have a different arrangement. i work all weekend, so he sees to the kids. i during the week, want to see my mum but i put the children first. he at any opportunity of me not being home, drops everything to go see his parents for hours on end. i feel it's childish behaviour. he uses prayers as an excuse to leave the house. but will only attend the place of worship 3 doors down from his parents. not the 10 others he passes on the way getting there. or the closest one to our home. it's a critical case of tug of war. if i dont work, 'u dont work, so u cant expect a lavish lifestyle or private education' when i do work and slog my guts out, 'u cant dictate what the kids do and dont do' it's turning into games. we prior to his parents returning, agreed sundays would be a home-day for our children, as they are out all week at school, and saturdays can be a grandparents day whilst im at work. now i feel to spite me, he will take them there tomorrow. he probably thinks im the worst wife in the world, trying to control his actions. but if he had it his way, we would have a party at our house every night. he's so family orientated. im not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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