Oceanbreeze Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 We broke up last September on amicable terms after one year. I'm 26 and he's 23. While age shouldn't matter, I wonder if it is in this case. We were simply not compatible, no love, no future, no interest in reconciliation (at least I don't). Sure, breakups hurt, but it seems that it hurts me more because it seems like to me he's rubbing it in my face all the time, now he has a new girlfriend. While I did care a lot about him, it just never came to love. So don't understand why this whole break up is just so hard for me, even after almost 6 months. It's ridiculous. My problem is, I'm still stuck with him because we're in the same friends group. We have a group chat where we message each other goofy things. I unfollowed him on FB and never look at his other social media endeavors. So our only connection is the Whatsapp group and sometimes meeting up with friends. I never directly talk to him in either occasions. I'm not the kind of person to intentionally hint stuff based on my own love life to make him jealous or piss him off, because I respect our past relationship and well... It's the mature way to handle things. I just want to be respected as an ex, as a friend as we used to. However, he keeps telling our group his "adventures" through obvious memes. Dropping obvious hints to indicate he has a valentine's date. Sending half naked pictures of his upper body to show off his muscles and how girls are all over him. Talking "big" about his stance on dating (that's a lot of bs coming out of his mouth), while no one actually asked him about it (so random, even during a discussion about Chinese New Year). In my heart I thank my friends for giving him no attention when he does that. However, it's been so long. I can honestly say that I want to feel happy for him, that he found happiness with another, hopefully more compatible, person. It's just that I don't want to explicitly hear his dating stuff in a group thing, as it still stings a bit. Now I'm just freaking myself out that I might be a bit paranoid, because I just read too much into it. I feel... Hurt. Not because he has a new gf, not because he's "over" it. I feel hurt that he doesn't honour my final request to him to "please find a way to be mindful to each other as exes... To be able to give each other time and space" to actually be sincere friends. Now I just see it as him going after me indirectly to just make me feel jealous or something. My close friend even said that he's kinda being a douche bag to me to message these kinds of stuff in a group. It really gets the best of me now Is this immature of me? I don't even know why I'm so frustrated with him, since I am absolutely sure that I don't want him. Link to comment
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