Lovelorn2016 Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 It all started off while we were working together. We'd talk, and joke around and slowly over the course of a couple years, began to be interestrd in each other. She was the one who came to me originally and expressed her interest in me. I didn't get back to her right away about how i felt, but finally I did express I felt the same way. Then we were real close for a few weeks, talking, doing things outside of work, etc. Then suddenly, she got cold for the first time. I couldn't understand it, and it stung.. But, I still continued initiating coneverstations at night, sending funny pictures, etc. Some days we'd have a good conversation, other days she was cold. At work though, we still talked and joked around like always. Slowly, we started to get close again, hanging out again, and she quickly mixed it in one day saying that she liked me, and I could sense that. So then, a few days after doing something one night, and after me asking her about doing something else in the near future, she became cold again, never got back to me about the plans, and just started completely blowing off my texts, etc, even questions.. That stung again, I tried my best to bottle it up, but without even saying anything about it, i think i made it obvious. This time though, I decided to just leave her alone and give her space, and hope she comes back on her own. We had been in contact every day in some form for over four months, and that ended during this time. During this, she was even cold at work, preferring to talk to others, whom she'd often complain about during some of our conversations. Finally about a month ago, I decided to finally give up that job, since it's only a part time second job. We still weren't really talking much at that point, and i didn't tell her when I put my notice in, she had to hear it from someone else. She was a little upset that i didnt say anything, and after we talked it about, everything was good, and she started to come back around again. This is when this current hot/cold cycle started. For a couple days it is like we are best friends, texting a good conversation, snapchating back and forth, or just hanging out and having a good visit and talk. Then, for like the next three/four days, she suddenly becomes cold, stops replying to messages or snapchats. When she stops replying I just wait till she replies again, weather it was hours or days, unlike before where I was always searching for a reason to initiate a conversation with her. A couple days after my last day at work, I sent her a quick message saying it was good working with her, and I'd miss her. Then I said I still felt that certain kind of way about her, but hoped we could still be good friends. She replied later that we'd always be good friends. Not sure if that was really a good idea, but at the time it seemed like the thing to do. I told myself I'll leave her alone after this, and my guesstimate was that I wouldn't really hear from her much anymore after this, since we wouldn't be working together anymore. I thought I was starting to let her go and move on. I was surprised that she actually was still coming around. She started finding reasons or excuses for me to stop by the old job, and of course i would. I'd stay for a bit and talk and visit, and we even did something outside of the workplace again. But mixed in with these events are the hot and cold cycles. We'll be having these good conversations for a couple days, the kind of good conversations we were having back when we were getting close months ago. And then all of the sudden she stops replying, and i won't hear back from her for 3-4 days. I said I thought I was starting to let go and move on, but I still get this rush of excitement when we're conversing well, then feel a sting when she goes silent. Maybe I'm probably overthinking, but I'm kinda like that. I maybe just getting crumbs, but i think i view them as a loaf, its challenging to pull away from this way of thinking. I tell myself just relax and just let nature take its course, but it's easier said than done. I'm not sure what this all translates into. I mean, if she didn't want anything to do with me, she would have cut me off after I left the job. We've never argued or fought or anything like that. She stopped replying yesterday morning before work. Last night she has a Facebook post of a picture with a quote that said "never get attached to anyone because they leave eventually". Of course, I naturally think it's about me, maybe it is maybe it isn't I don't know. Link to comment
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