Men and desire

[speak]

I've always known that men like to feel needed or need to be needed but what about desired? Does it turn you on or off when a lady lets it be known that she desires you... Was thinking and thought it be a good topic to discuss.

[Wiseman2]

It's sorta the sine qua non of dating/relationships. Would the opposite be friendzone?

what about desired?

[Hollyj]

Don't you want to feel desired? Men are just like us.

[BlarneyStone]

I'd like to hear how this topic of thought originated. What happened, OP?

[Capricorn3]

I think it's human nature to want to be desired, needed and loved etc. I don't think this is gender specific.

[rayfutz]

You would have to specify what the difference between need and desire is to you. For some people they are the same thing. For others, not so. Everyone wants to feel wanted. If my gf said something like "I need you in my life" I would take that the same as her saying "I desire you and nobody else"

 

If it comes down to just a woman letting her man know she is really into him, then what guy does not want that? That's desire. But maybe you should explain a bit more, and like another poster said, explain why this topic came about more importantly

[j.man]

I'd much rather feel desired than needed.

[jonny15]

I'd much rather feel desired than needed.

 

I agree. Who wouldn't want to feel desired?

[Sportster2005]

I've always known that men like to feel needed or need to be needed but what about desired? Does it turn you on or off when a lady lets it be known that she desires you... Was thinking and thought it be a good topic to discuss.

 

Depends if I desire her. If I don't, then it's just kind of awkward. If I do, then yes.

 

Being needed and desired are not mutually exclusive. We need human relationships and contact. There's a fine line between needy and needed.

[John John]

Depends if I desire her. If I don't, then it's just kind of awkward. If I do, then yes.

 

Being needed and desired are not mutually exclusive. We need human relationships and contact. There's a fine line between needy and needed.

 

Agree with this 100%. Our society attempts to ingrain in our heads that we don't need anyone, but that's not true. I feel like people are afraid to admit it because they're afraid of looking weak or vulnerable, but I definitely think that people need people (and this relates to both platonic friendships and romantic relationships).