Being Called A Liar When You Aren't...

[Ccottom]

Why won't you address why you stay in this obviously sick relationship?

 

My only guess is 1)the sex is so great that it's worth the garbage you have to put up with or 2)you love drama.

 

If it's either of those reasons, why complain? Either way you're getting what you want from this horrible woman.

 

I am with her because, i work 200 miles away frok any family or friends, i am mid/early 20's and everybody i work with is old men 40/50+. I live at work 24/7 365 so i do not have the chance to socialise, meet people etc. The only person i ever get to see is this girl because she lives just outside an hour on the train.

Losing her i am reduced into living at work with no friends to see to take my mind off it, nobody that i can go out to meet to move on with, just myself with not even an internet connection, my phone and thats it. I text my friends a lot but there is no other options around to get my head out of here. Plus this place is in the middle of nowhere, so there is no ability to go out or join a club by myself.

[Ms Darcy]

I am with her because, i work 200 miles away frok any family or friends, i am mid/early 20's and everybody i work with is old men 40/50+. I live at work 24/7 365 so i do not have the chance to socialise, meet people etc. The only person i ever get to see is this girl because she lives just outside an hour on the train.

Losing her i am reduced into living at work with no friends to see to take my mind off it, nobody that i can go out to meet to move on with, just myself with not even an internet connection, my phone and thats it. I text my friends a lot but there is no other options around to get my head out of here. Plus this place is in the middle of nowhere, so there is no ability to go out or join a club by myself.

 

In other words, I'm with her because I refuse to explore other options.

[Hollyj]

You stay in this highly dysfunctional relationship because you work too much and don't have any other friends in the area. That's ridiculous!

 

Do you even like this woman? She is an addict and dramatic and, yet you find this better than being on your own. Wow!

 

If you have the time to spend with her, then you have the time to get out and meet new people. Stop making excuses.

[Wiseman2]

There is a wealth of people on dating apps to message and meet.

I am with her because, i do not have the chance to socialise, meet people etc. I text my friends a lot but there is no other options around to get my head out of here.

[bulletproof]

Losing her i am reduced into living at work with no friends to see to take my mind off it, nobody that i can go out to meet to move on with, just myself with not even an internet connection, my phone and thats it.

 

My guess is that she knows this and capitalizes on it.

 

Would you want someone to say that she was with you because she had no other options? I'd be kind of upset by that myself. Do you think these are healthy reasons to be in a relationship?

 

I agree with others that if you have the time to invest in this, then you have the time to find other people.

[Sportster2005]

Why won't you address why you stay in this obviously sick relationship?

 

My only guess is 1)the sex is so great that it's worth the garbage you have to put up with or 2)you love drama.

 

If it's either of those reasons, why complain? Either way you're getting what you want from this horrible woman.

 

3) A very skillful troll. That's what I'm leaning toward.

[boltnrun]

I propose you tell her that you're only with her because you have no friends and no way to meet anyone else, not because you love her.

 

See how that goes over.

 

Then, realize that being single is better than being abused.

[Ms Darcy]

3) A very skillful troll. That's what I'm leaning toward.

 

That's a good point. Real people aren't this ... illogical.

[boltnrun]

That's a good point. Real people aren't this ... illogical.

 

Well...yes, some are.

 

My ex's current girlfriend burned his house down because she thought he was cheating on her. One of his other exes tried to burn his house down and also broke the windshield of his car and broke windows in his house. His response? "Wow, I didn't realize she loved me so much!!!!" He said they loved him so darn much they just lost control of themselves. He said this with a proud grin on his face.

 

He then complained to me that since I never did any of those things he figured I must not really love him.

 

So yeah. They're out there.

[Tanzi]

Just like I said on the other thread .....

 

Another day, another drama!!

 

One day you will grow bored with it all. Then again ......

[Man with Dog]

Well...yes, some are.

 

My ex's current girlfriend burned his house down because she thought he was cheating on her. One of his other exes tried to burn his house down and also broke the windshield of his car and broke windows in his house. His response? "Wow, I didn't realize she loved me so much!!!!" He said they loved him so darn much they just lost control of themselves. He said this with a proud grin on his face.

 

He then complained to me that since I never did any of those things he figured I must not really love him.

 

So yeah. They're out there.

 

The trouble with us lot here is we try to apply logic to emotional matters, which is like applying relativity to quantum mechanics. Love or it's close relative "lurve" cause people to behave illogically and irrationally. It has certainly caused me to be stupid in the past. I have been blind to things going on and mourned break-ups from girls who a rational brain might never have even dated in the first place.