Can't stay hard in bed

[Joeyg123]

So I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year now. We are madly in love with each other. This is my first girlfriend so I used to watch a lot of porn and masterbate, when we first started dating we tried having sex and I couldn't stay hard enough to actually have sex. Spoke to a guy at a supplement shop and he gave me a natural testosterone booster and it seemed to work for a couple months. About a month to two months ago I stopped taking them and everything was fine I was having sex like a champ. Last week I did watch porn and masterbate again for the first time in a while. A couple days ago I got drunk off beer and tried to have sex and couldn't because I was drunk I guess. Yesterday and today I tried having sex and couldn't get hard enough to have sex but grinding and kissing I'm hard. I tried steroids about a year and a half ago and stopped randomly, I was thinking that was it but like I said I was having sex no problem. I don't know what to do and I get really frustrated that I am not man enough and get afraid my girlfriend is going to leave me. Please help, thank you guys.

[reinventmyself]

Have you seen a doctor about this?

The on again and off again, supplements and steroids I think add to anxiety.

The only way to know for sure is to get tested. At least you can eliminate the physical aspect of this equation or treat it.

[Joeyg123]

Maybe I will speak to my doctor. I do have major anxiety problems since middle school and I am now 19.

[Krankor]

It could be physical, it could be psychological, or it could be a combination of the two. The good news is that this is a very treatable problem, so I would talk to your doctor.

 

Are you on any medications for anxiety? ED can be one of the side effects.

[Rmbrmelover]

Probably psychological man. Once those thoughts get into your head both of them don't work. do you masturbate a lot?

That could also help kill a rise in bed.

[Wiseman2]

Yeah, shifting from porn and doing it yourself can be an adjustment. Steroids shrink your testicles. Steer clear of all that stuff. And too much drinking will lower the flag. Maybe save some horniness up a while before you see her rather than release it yourself.

This is my first girlfriend so I used to watch a lot of porn and masterbate. Yesterday and today I tried having sex and couldn't get hard enough to have sex but grinding and kissing I'm hard. I get really frustrated that I am not man enough and get afraid my girlfriend is going to leave me. Please help, thank you guys.

[Johnny Anony]

It's all in your head young man. Just relax, enjoy time with your girlfriend. Get to know here more, let sex happen. Head to the Dr to ensure nothing physically is wrong with you. Just relax and enjoy being young.

[blurredcontour]

Weight, blood pressure, cholesterol and other health issues can play a role. However erections are also a mind game. If your brain isn't in the right spot... Age is less of an issue than the health/mental.

[JamesT2]

There's obviously an impact taking some meds, or masturbating too much in order for a man to get an erection. I've talked to quite a lot of docs and they agree that theres no reason for a young man like you to be incapable to get it up for the lady he's interested and attracted to. So yes it can be psychological. Physical I'm dubious unless you really spend too much time watching porn.

 

Telling you to chill out is easier said than done but work on the foreplay with her, take your time and ultimately you are going to finally have intercourse.

[mravg2u]

When you start taking certain steroids they can start to suppress the male body's natural testosterone production. If that is what you were taking see a doctor soon. Tell them what you took and for how long. Steroids can ruin your reproductive system. The sooner you can see a doc the better. The best doc for this is a endocholgist but it maybe good to see a urologist.