icantgiveup Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 So It's been 3 months today ,nc the whole time and I'm feeling better and better. A couple weeks after me and my ex split I bumped into her best friend and we spoke for a few mins and it was all very friendly , she asked me how I was ect about the break and I said I missed my ex ect and probaly asked about my ex too much and said to have a word with her and try and get her to come back ,it was all said in a jokey way and we had both had a small drink .., then a few days after that i saw her again ! and I went up to her and said hi and I asked how my ex was ect and she didn't seem to want to talk too much ..... I feel I looked so weak asking about my ex a few times to her ,i feel looking back i was acting a bit weird and she would have obviously gone back and told her and to make matters worse I was on a date with a girl ..... This was months ago and I am still kicking myself about it and feel it will have pushed my ex away further .... Link to comment
Astrogirl Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Yes, it was probably best you didn't say anything at all or maybe have asked how she was and left it at that. That's hindsight. Next time don't mention her at all. You live and learn... Link to comment
Movingforward3 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 She probably spoke to your ex and she said no info. Sorry about your loss. Thinking it is down for now. Your best move is to keep living and moving forward. Link to comment
icantgiveup Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I just don't understand why of all things that is on my mind weeks after it happened ...... the first time I saw her it was ok because she initiated the conversation about it but the second time I must have look such a looser even tho the conversation only lasted about 2 mins Link to comment
Movingforward3 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 It is contact. It brings up feelings and churns up emotions. It is hard, especially when they totally cut you out of their life. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Try not to be so hard on yourself. Break ups are hard enough. Flogging yourself doesn't help. You now know better. Shake it off. You aren't this first person to do this and you won't be the last. It's pretty typical. Healing is never a straight line. Starts, stalls and spurts along the way. Be kind to yourself and let this go. Hang in there! Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Why are you dating? ( and asking someone about your Ex?) Obviously you are NOT over her or the break up yet. Why do you feel you need to start dating again?? Why don't you back off dating for another few months and get yourself back together? You need to stop worrying about your Ex and start worrying about yourself. It's been 3 mos. Of course you're not going to be over her yet. This takes time. Link to comment
icantgiveup Posted October 26, 2015 Author Share Posted October 26, 2015 Well I went on that date because in thought it would make me feel better , it didn't and I haven't dated since . I'm just over thinking everything and trying to find reasons she hasn't contacted me when the real resin she isn't interested ...... just sucks I wanted to feel better by now I said to her friend that I worry if she doesn't let go of her past she will be stuck in it forever which in hindsight wasn't a good thing to say ...... that's if she told my ex Link to comment
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