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  1. Thank you. Yes, I'm very careful about what I post. It's just that now I'm suspecting certain "friends" more than those attempting to become online friends (although suggestions are closely linked to such "friends"). Thank you for your advice. 🙂
  2. Hey everyone, I'm just posting this for general advice and to see what everyone's take is on cyber-stalking/monitoring/social media friends order. Most of us are aware it exists to some degree, but is it possible for people we rarely-to-never interact with on social media to appear as our top online friends? I realise many social media platforms never disclose the analytics of who has viewed our profiles, but has anyone ever felt something suspicious was going on regarding the order of online friends? For instance, a person appears as the first online friend on the messaging app, but
  3. It is phone calls as well, as I explained above. I think I invested too much time in helping this man, when his intentions towards me are not as good. I feel I have learned a lesson and have decided to back away without becoming hostile or compromising my own good character.
  4. I totally take on board what you are saying. I've informed my closest to only access me through one means only, for the time being. Then I can get along with whatever interests me, and I no longer invest in negativity. Thank you for your advice. I
  5. I have decided to steer clear of social media as much as possible. I do have lots of interests I can get back to grips with. This man needed help, I gave it, and now I feel emotionally drained and perhaps used for something I never intended. I do appreciate all advice given, but please do not read I am investing in it because I am crushing on him. This man has a bit of a past, and not the type of man anyone would want to take home to meet their parents. All I did was invest in a friendship. Something feels very off now.
  6. I realise my actions may be aggravating the situation. I know I am not helping myself by becoming involved with someone who may have mental and emotional complications. I can tell you that my intentions for befriending him were all done out of good intentions. Please do not read into the fact I am enjoying it. Trust me: I enjoyed our friendship when things were normal. I can accept when people can't message. It is my instincts that are telling me he is now taking advantage of the friendship and playing me.
  7. Wiseman, I do find that a very unnecessary thing to say. We are working on our marriage and things are going good between us. My husband actually does know this person on a better scale than myself. He too wanted to take him in as a friend and pick him up off the ground. We both agree our friend has begun to act off and maybe got caught up with some bad people. While we wish to support him, we don't agree with his sudden strange moods. I am willing to continue being his friend, but I do feel he is playing games. This post is about a toxic friendship not my marriage.
  8. He doesn't swear. It's just his language has gone from classy to cheap and slang. Sorry if I can't explain it more. I don't speak like that myself so not sure what the terminology is for slang and street talk.
  9. We actually accepted this man's friendship as he has gone through bad experiences. That is why me and SO have taken this man on board. He really needed friends. At first, he did not know I was taken. Then he accepted it with grace and was respectful. Then overnight his attitude had changed. I don't think I've made it clear enough: my problem isn't him messaging me like he used to do. I am grown up enough to live without someone sending me messages. That isn't the problem. The problem is that when he doesn't message so I have no reason to message him, he then begins to bombard me and like
  10. He's gone from classy to tacky and slang words. My SO says we should back away.
  11. we became friends earlier this year. Yes, like a brother as in he confided in me and trusts me. I've never broken the trust. No, I do not have a crush on him. I just feel something is off. My SO also feels the same. He has also become off with my SO, like he doesn't react to him anymore if my SO posts photos.
  12. Andrina, In his defence he didn't know I was married. He seemed to accept that. My SO has also become his friend, and is aware of his behaviour.
  13. Batya33 and LikeWater: I hear what you say. It's not healthy for any of us. I do thinks he's playing and I've allowed it. I really liked him as a friend and considered him as a brother. I forgot to mention he evens calls me during early hours, on occasions. I do need take control of myself as this situation is weighing me down.
  14. greendots and Likewater: I did make it clear to him early on I was out of bounds. I can't say any other friends likes ALL of my photos, apart from a certain few I'm close to anyway. It's only recently my new friend has acted odd with me.
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