zebragirl Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I am curious if this is something that is generally a turn off to guys and if it's typically not something done? I know it obviously varies from person to person. I've never had sex on my period and am slightly self conscious about doing so but as a woman, when I get my period it doesn't stop me from feeling "in the mood" . I just wonder if, most people wait till every spot of color is gone before they will have sex with someone or if it's something most people just don't really think that much about. I think it's obvious that if you were just starting to date someone or having a one night thing it might be more of a turn off than in a long term relationship but honestly I have no idea, so that's why I ask. I am feeling silly even asking to be honest. But the fact that I still get completely turned on even during that time of the month, makes me wonder how other people handle it. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 It all depends on the couple. When I was on the pill, I barely got a period so it was never much of an issue. Simply ask your.partner if they care one way or the other. Link to comment
zebragirl Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 I understand that everyone is different I just wondered if there are generally more people that don't care. My partner has always been kind of turned off I guess. I don't know if it's that or just the fact that he's afraid of the mess. So I don't push it obviously during that time , But it seriously cuts a lot of time out of the month for me since I'm not on the pill and I have several days of "spotting" that can never make up their mind of they are going to stay or go. Sorry tmi. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I've never cared. I'm not about to treat anything about my body as though it's dirty. Just put down a towel. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Male perspective...I've never been too bothered by it. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I understand that everyone is different I just wondered if there are generally more people that don't care. My partner has always been kind of turned off I guess. I don't know if it's that or just the fact that he's afraid of the mess. So I don't push it obviously during that time , But it seriously cuts a lot of time out of the month for me since I'm not on the pill and I have several days of "spotting" that can never make up their mind of they are going to stay or go. Sorry tmi. Well...then it won't matter if everyone else has no problem with it...because your.partner does! I agree...a towel solves the problems. Link to comment
and so it goes Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 (male) I've always found it a bit horrifying (blood all over one's penis etc) but most of the time I'm pretty much a complete horn dog so I get past it. Especially if it was with a long term relationship. Link to comment
zebragirl Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 Well...then it won't matter if everyone else has no problem with it...because your.partner does! I agree...a towel solves the problems. It still matters to me Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 My experience. . guys don't mind. For me. .day 1 or 2, probably not going to happen. 3,4,5. . game on! Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 If I didn't feel like someone had just rammed an AK47 up my vagina and pulled the trigger I would be good to go however ..... Link to comment
Denguin Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 In my last LTR, I always found that it was more of an issue for her than me (self-consciousness). We would never really do the deed in the first couple days unless we truly couldn't resist. While it's not pretty, I didn't really care about having blood on me - we'd just slip a towel under just in case. If your partner is really grossed out, I suppose using a condom would help a little. If you've been with someone for a long time, you've seen much worse things, believe me. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 It still matters to me Lol. Of course it matters to you! Or you wouldnt post. What I meant was even if you tell your bf "everyone else has no problem"...if he finds it horrifying, or it turns him off...he still won't do it. Link to comment
notalady Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I never used to want to do it on my period. My ex bf had no problem with it and actually wanted to, we compromised to do it on the last couple of days where it's just a bit of colour and wouldn't make a mess. But now that I'm used to it and comfortable with it, current bf doesn't like the idea haha... He too find the idea of being covered in blood horrifying. But he compromised and will do it on the last couple of days where there's just a bit of colour, he said he just wont look down and it's fine lol! I find it less than ideal (and childish lol) that he's not comfortable with even just a bit of colour, but I'm not too bothered since he compromised. Does your bf refuse to do it even with just a bit of colour? Afterall it's not like full on bleeding! Try ask him just not to look down haha... Link to comment
user27 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I know exactly what you mean. I was in that position once, but may I suggest trying something different? Something you and your boyfriend have never done before? Link to comment
sheiscourtney Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 My boyfriend of 4.5 years absolutely hates it. Even if I was at the end of my period, he still gets grossed out. It just depends on your SO. I don't seem to mind it though. Link to comment
Denguin Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 The question I have is, does sex feel any different when you're on your period (i.e. does it provide some sort of therapeutic effect if you usually get painful cramps)? There are rumours out there it does for some... Just curious, is all. Link to comment
zebragirl Posted February 14, 2015 Author Share Posted February 14, 2015 I have wondered if it might provide some therapeutic effects too.. If not in regards to the cycle it would at least so my mood some good , LOL I will ask him and see how he feels and if it really grosses him out, maybe toward the end would be better. Link to comment
1Love1 Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 shower sex is great for that. And if it's the sight of it that would bother him, then shower sex with the lights off Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 Some of the women I been with seemed more randy during their period. I never been with any that wanted to do the nasty on a heavy day, light days I don't mind. But I'll say no to deep sea diving though. Link to comment
ChewyC Posted February 17, 2015 Share Posted February 17, 2015 As a guy, I can honestly say it doesn't bother me one way or the other. The only times it has bothered me are times when I didn't know until afterwards, and I'm sure you can understand why... I can also say as a guy with a lot of promiscuous male friends who like to talk, I appear to be in the minority, I appear to be the only one in my group of friends that is totally not bothered by it. Link to comment
WithLove Posted February 17, 2015 Share Posted February 17, 2015 The question I have is, does sex feel any different when you're on your period (i.e. does it provide some sort of therapeutic effect if you usually get painful cramps)? There are rumours out there it does for some... Just curious, is all. It does. It's more lubricated. Everything seems to "gel" just a little bit better than normal. I won't do it on the first day or two. Afterwards is fine, if he's really wanting it. (In my case, though, (may be TMI) it happened once when I wasn't expecting a period, at all, and during intercourse I just started gushing blood (so it seemed). It got EVERYWHERE. I was horrified. I jumped into the shower immediately, passed a huge blood clot, freaked out more, got hysterical, all the while he had been scrubbing the mattress (it GUSHED); when he heard me crying, he jumped into the shower with me and just held me. I am still scarred by the experience!!) I pray that doesn't happen to my worst enemy. Link to comment
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