art vandaleigh Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Hi everyone. I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months and although I do really like her I know it's just not going to work. We broke up up 1 month ago and got back together after 2 weeks now I want to break up with her again. She is into drinking and drugs and she promised nit to do it anymore but it keeps coming back. We spoke about getting marries and I told her I love her. I do love her but I know in my heart of hearts she is. It for me. How do i do the beak up? Thank you in advance Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 It's really very simple. Just tell her the truth: "Sorry, but it's just not working for me. It's best we go our separate ways". No need for anything more than that. Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Right, be honest & mean it. After that do not give in to her begging, contact attempts, etc. That'll just hold you back & hurt more. Clean break is best. It'll take time to accept & heal. Do that. Give yourself some down time after the break before searching again. Link to comment
christwowheels Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 You can tell her that those issues are the reason for the split, and that could eventually help her when she's ready to face up to her problems. But be ready for her to make desperate pleas and claim that she will change for you. Ultimately, she will need to hit rock bottom to finally address her problems, but you can't be responsible for helping her through them...your responsibility is working towards your own happiness. Good luck. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Your return to her was conditional, and she broke those conditions, so you don't owe her some big formal breakup. You did that already. Next time she contacts you, I'd just respond by saying, "You didn't hold up your part of the bargain, and I'm done." Then I'd block her and work on my own healing. Link to comment
art vandaleigh Posted September 13, 2014 Author Share Posted September 13, 2014 Thank you everyone, I can't explain this but I'm really worried to do it even though I will because we spoke about marriage Link to comment
catfeeder Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Thank you everyone, I can't explain this but I'm really worried to do it even though I will because we spoke about marriage She invalidated that when she went back to the drugs. You envisioned a sober wife, didn't you? Link to comment
art vandaleigh Posted September 14, 2014 Author Share Posted September 14, 2014 I do, and I know deep down I hate drugs and clchole. I have some of her things, it's just going to be crap when I have to give them back, how do I do the break up? Link to comment
misssmithviii Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I do, and I know deep down I hate drugs and clchole. I have some of her things, it's just going to be crap when I have to give them back, how do I do the break up? The best way to go about this is already have her things gathered together for her in a box or something. That way you're not only finalizing things right then and there, but you're not giving her or yourself to opportunity to have to see each other again under awkward circumstances - and it helps you not cave in to begging because it'll all be done. Best wishes. You've gotten great advice - just be honest and go in to the situation KNOWING you will be single by the end of it. ... Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I can't explain this but I'm really worried to do it even though I will because we spoke about marriage Spoke about marriage? After only 6 short months of dating? That's still the getting to know you part of a relationship. Forget about the marriage talk you had - it's not working for you and that's all the reason you need to end it. Link to comment
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