Troyalan1996 Posted June 16, 2014 Author Share Posted June 16, 2014 I just dont get why ahe says she loves me but still is talking to him. She texted me i have to back off a little in order for her to get overhim. Havent texted her since Link to comment
sharky988 Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 I just dont get why ahe says she loves me but still is talking to him. OMG................. because SHE'S PLAYING YOU!!! Because she's probably playing HIM!!!! Because she's not that into EITHER ONE OF YOU!!!! Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 16, 2014 Author Share Posted June 16, 2014 Just gonna give her space she got her phone taken so theres nothing i can do Link to comment
3Tears Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 How you keep knowing everything about her life? Oh wait... its cus you haven't stopped contacting her, I don't want to sound like a douchebag but c'mon man... This is just sad now, not even I would go that far and I've been hurting really bad. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 She told me today thats how i know weve been talking so hey everything happens for a reason Link to comment
Shane Falco Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 She told me today thats how i know weve been talking so hey everything happens for a reason You shouldn't be talking to her. All you are doing is being a crutch for her to rest on until she decides to find someone else. I mean, it's not rocket science -- stop being there and answering every piece of contact from her. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 He's not even a crutch because she's not broken. He's a free drink at the bar... The thing about a girl who treats guys like 'free drinks," one is never enough and there's always going to be someone else offering another up. Get away from her. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 She told me she doesnt know what she wants i gave her the choice between us and she said she needs time to think about things and said she really hasnt missed me or im not letting her so whatever. Im giving her a chance Link to comment
3Tears Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 This girl is literally telling you what to do and you're not LISTENING, to her or us. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 I am. We talked about it today. I told her the only way is for me to go and realize what youve done pretty much. Weew gonna be in school next year together so will see eachother everyday. She said shes not over him witch is hilarious but shes grounded for the summer and has no phone till whenever her dad gives it back but its quite obvious that she missed me and this will happen again and now im prepared for it Link to comment
3Tears Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Missing someone is not "loving" someone, she might miss the hell out of you during the summer but that does not mean she'll want to get back together with you. Missing and loving are completely different things. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 Yesterday i texted her back and said " i am on the same page as you, taking things slow is the best route, i apologize for my mistakes" she sends back " i love you troy". We went to lunch and she says to me its not that i was in love with him i loved him, im just not over it. I told her thats holding her back from what she really wants to feel. Link to comment
Shane Falco Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 There is some sort of weird communication breakdown going on between us and you. Do you not understand what people are saying to you? Because you keep doing everything the opposite of what everyone is telling you. I mean, do you need it to be explained further? Because for some reason, it's not registering for you. Link to comment
CovertCactus Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 SHE'S PLAYING YOU LIKE A VIOLEN! Stop talking to her. Don't text, talk, email, send smoke signals, or have any other forms of communications with this girl. You're completely ignoring everyone's advice. You're her Plan B guy. She doesn't love you. She's playing you and her other guy. I don't get why you're having so much trouble understanding this. Leave her alone. Do not respond to anything she says. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Folks, he is hearing us -- he's just not taking the advice. As I mentioned in a previous post, he's quite young. How many of us, at 18 or 19, were on board with advice that didn't square with what we *knew* was true, especially if it was about a boyfriend/girlfriend/ex? Troy, something you will learn -- I hope sooner than later -- is that someone who has to "decide" between you and someone else isn't a good person for you to be involved with, even as a friend. Most likely, she doesn't really want either of you -- she's just keeping her options open. You may have to learn this the hard way, I'm afraid. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 Well theres no form of contact for us and i told her its probably best we stay without contact till school or for a while. So ive been using everyones advice she came to me Link to comment
Shane Falco Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Well theres no form of contact for us and i told her its probably best we stay without contact till school or for a while. So ive been using everyones advice she came to me Once again, there seems to be a communication breakdown. When she comes to you, YOU AREN'T SUPPOSED TO ANSWER. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 So your telling me if this happens again ignore her?? Link to comment
Shane Falco Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 So your telling me if this happens again ignore her?? That's what everyone has been telling you in every one of your threads. No Contact means not talking to her at all. I mean, that's been clearly stated to you a ton on this site. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 Well i was no contact and then she contacted me. I wouldve thought if she came to me that means see what shes all about you know? Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Well i was no contact and then she contacted me. I wouldve thought if she came to me that means see what shes all about you know? It's too soon for her to be coming back, especially since she's been with someone else almost the whole time. This soon after a breakup, especially with someone else involved, it's HIGHLY unlikely she wants to reconcile -- or that she even has any idea what she wants. No contact literally means that you don't respond when the person contacts you -- that counts as contact. All you're doing is making yourself available to her so that she can have you on a shelf for later while she dates other people and figures out what she wants. Trust the people on here who are talking to you about this. I'm old enough to be your mother, and I've been through ALL of this. So have most people posting here. Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 I understand. Im just going to keep doing me for now and when see what happens in the months to come. Theres nothing i can do Link to comment
Troyalan1996 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Share Posted June 18, 2014 Is it possible for someone to bring past feelings and hurt intoa new relationship? Just curious Link to comment
autumnsun Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 You should stop focusing on these questions about possibilities and focus on healing yourself. So many people have given you great advice here; start using it to heal yourself and move on. Link to comment
3Tears Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Is it possible for someone to bring past feelings and hurt intoa new relationship? Just curious Listen man, the only way for you to get her back is to move on, when you have moved on completely and she hasn't heard from you in MONTHS, not just 30 days THEN she'll start doubting herself and might want to come back with you IF and only IF she still was interested in you, but until then theres no way in hell shes coming back, plain n' simple. Link to comment
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