online dating and still logging in?

[ocman]

I met this lady on a dating website and we clicked right off the bat. I've seen her 3 times and we both really like each other.

 

Even though I get lots of messages from the website, I haven't been back.

 

My question is when do you stop logging into the website and/or when should you expect the other person to stop, if at all?

 

1) Not until there's a commitment?

 

2) If I don't want to login and she does, no harm no foul?

 

thanks!

[NorthDallas40]

As far as I'm concerned, until you've had a talk about exclusivity, anything goes.

 

That said, when I'm feeling like things are getting serious with a woman, I don't want to look at anyone else. So I disable my profile pre-emptively. Typically if the girl has also been serious, she'll stop logging in as well.

 

Even so, I don't call things exclusive until we've both discussed and agreed on it.

[ocman]

That makes total sense.

 

I basically let the subscription expire, but I haven't said anything to her because I don't want to influence her on whether she wants to disable her profile.

[annie24]

I would ask her - i know some people think it's moving fast, but me personally, i know after 3 dates whether i'd like to date a man exclusively or not.

[Ms Darcy]

For me personally I would not discuss the online profile until you were in a relationship.

[ocman]

I wouldn't feel bad, if she was still logging in, since we aren't exclusive.