I'm 24, nearly 25, he's 20, nearly 21

[SpongeCake23]

Is this too big an age gap?

I've never dated anyone younger than me before...we get on very, very well and are on the same wavelength about everything.

Lots of similar tastes and he makes me laugh.

I know it's only 4 years but every time he says he's going to be celebrating his 21st birthday soon, I get a little wave of anxiety. Am I just being silly?

[Furbys]

I see no problem with it. It is only a few years.

[laney1979]

I see no problem either. im 34, my ex was 27 and i never thought much about the age gap. if your are happy, go for it

[blueidealist24]

That's not too much of an age difference. If you were a guy and him a girl no one would bat an eye.

[SpongeCake23]

That's not too much of an age difference. If you were a guy and him a girl no one would bat an eye.

 

That's exactly it...I'm worried people will think it's odd because I'm older.

[beaton]

The only people who would think its odd would be people who are insecure about the idea if it were them, so who cares?. If you guys are on the same page lifestage-wise, go for it!

[Ms Darcy]

Are you in the same place? If you are looking for marriage, is he also?

[shes2smart]

That's exactly it...I'm worried people will think it's odd because I'm older.

 

I'm 11 years older than my husband. Last guy I dated before I met him was 18 years older than me.

 

Really, if you're at all concerned about what other people think about the age difference, you've got some stuff to work on. Like making the following realizations:

 

1. Most people are so wrapped up in their own dramas, they barely notice anyone else's....including yours.

 

2. Those that do take the time to notice and make the effort to formulate/express an opinion need to realize it's very likely none of their business. The exception being if they have logical reason to believe someone is being abused. If the intent is to try to help someone and get them out of harm's way, that's very different than making a judgment about something that they simply do not like or do not understand or would not choose for themselves.

 

3. You have the right to ignore other people's opinions and do what you feel is in your best interest. As long as you're not intentionally harming the person or property of another, you're probably alright and should simply go about your business as you see fit.

[mhowe]

How will anyone know about the age difference?

[laney1979]

I Have learnt that sometimes we too too much about what others think. As i said, im 34 and my ex was 27. As long as you are happy then dont mind what others think there is 10 years between my mum and dad

[lerenard]

I have a friend, she is 48 now, her husband is 33, they have a child, and when they started dating she was 44 and he was 29.

The only person who was somehow bothered about their age gap was her ex)) So I say go for it!

[Zanetka]

That's not a big deal as long as you're close maturity-wise. My good friend starting dating a girl when he was 17 and she was 21, that was 4 years ago... now they are engaged. It seemed to work for them! Four years is not a big issue.

[Kiki89]

Haha. It's more common than you think, my fiancé is also 4 years younger than me (20/24) and he's a great, loving guy that's experienced a lot of life for someone so young.

 

Get 'em while they're young and fresh I say