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  1. Thank you ... It will be hard but I will.
  2. Maybe I have my own issues of insecurity I guess.. probably expect so little in a partner as I've been hurt a lot in the past... but that's no excuse. You're right . Thank you all for your advice. I intend to do something about this. I may seem naive... But the reality is I'm a soft hearted person and the thoughts of me being the reason a baby gets taken away from his mother makes me feel horrible... But the babies safety is much more important x
  3. You're 100% right. It's not just her issues. He needs to man up and sort this out. I think I was more focused on her because she's the one with the drug issue. I definitely will have to do something for the poor babies sake. It's not fair on the poor innocent child .
  4. Thanks for the response. I'm awake right now thinking about it. I'm definitely not going to turn a blind eye to it.
  5. There's no need to be mean. I'm just looking for advice to help a situation. If I didn't care, I wouldn't have posted And to answer your question, no, I do not. I just found all this out last night. I haven't been dating this guy for a month knowing all this. Which is why I came here to ask " what would you do"?. I knew she had parties. Me and the guy I'm dating were all good ... no signs of red flags, Until I found all this out last night when she arrived home out of her face on pills. So no, I didn't even know I was in this dramatic situation.
  6. No, I never said that anywhere in my comments. That would be the least of my concerns. I also never said I didn't want to to cps. As I mentioned in previous comments.. I'm looking into it. You have to understand that this is tough for me to do.
  7. You're right. And my concern is the baby. It's just such a tough situation to be in. I appreciate all your comments. It's up to him to get the baby out of that hell hole. It's not my place but I'm gonna talk to him . I just can't believe someone with a child would do drugs around them 😔 I just checked the Child social services web site. It said it can't garentee being annomonius. I completely hear all you are saying... I've just never been in this situation before. I advised him he needs to move out .. away from her. I don't like running people down, but she is not a good mother. Her child should come first... Not her drugs
  8. Thanks for the reply. Not sure why you put " killing me" in inverted commas. It is 😔 I feel so sorry for the baby. If I were to call social services, will the baby get taken away from his father too?
  9. I don't know what I can do to help in this situation. Any input would be great. I'm dating this guy just over a month. We have become really close quickly. It's a weird situation- he's been friends with this girl for 14 years. They have a 4 month old baby together. It's just one of those things that happened. He choose to live with her to help bring up the baby. There is nothing romantic there 💯. They sleep in separate rooms. So although this might seem like my problem... It's strangely not. It's a weird situation but I'm ok with it. All his money goes to the baby. He's such a great dad and such a sweet and lovely person. He does his best. He loves his son and he really is a good guy. So here's the problem. She's a party girl. She's always bringing people back to the house to throw parties. They wreak the house. Sniffing coke And doing pills while the baby is upstairs . God Forgive me cos I live in no palace myself but it's a dump. Cans everywhere, cigarettes, dirt, mould. I don't mind mess, but this house is un heigienic for a little baby. The guy I'm seeing cleans all the time but she just has more parties and wreaks the place. I don't mind mess. I'm not stuck up, but I'll say it how it is, the house is a filthy dump. She's into drugs ( he is not) . She's always bringing back random guys. He told me she done this even while pregnant . he gave her money the other day, she spent it on pills and coke. I stayed there last night. She came home at 6am out of her face. He was after been taking care of the baby all night. Feeding him, changing him. She took the baby at this stage. I'm disgusted at the fact she took the baby when she was out of her face. The guy I'm seeing went upstairs to give her the baby blankets. Next of all I heard a loud bang like something fell and her screaming the house down. Because I was worried something happened the baby, I ran upstairs ( as did his room mate) to see what was wrong. We walked in to witness her punching him and slapping and pretty much beating him. All because she was out of her face and earlier he had nicely asked her if she could keep the noise down as he was trying to sleep. He didn't touch her. He walked away. This guy wouldn't hurt a fly. His arms were covered in her nail scrapes and his lip was cut. He said this isn't the first time it's happened. She gets high and goes crazy. My heart broke for him. He really is a sweet heart... And when she goes crazy she then accuses him of hitting HER. He's stuck. He knows he needs to move out away from her but she's using the baby against him. He's afraid he will lose his son. It's not my business and I'm not getting involved. But what do I do to help him?? It's killing me knowing this poor little baby is being brought up with a mother who behaves this way. What if something were to happen the baby when she's on drugs? It's just not a good atmosphere for the child. What would you do? 😔 Who am I to say she's not fit to be a mom, but I'm sorry, she is not.
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