I am just...tired of being alone....

[brokenhearted1]

So after ending a second attempt at a relationship with my ex...I know I do miss him but I am also just tired of being alone. I split from my ex husband six years ago, and since then I have been single for most of those years. A lot of it is because I just didn't want to settle. Being in a relationship again...just felt nice. It was nice having someone in bed by me again...someone to go to lunch with and watch movies with.

 

There are times where I wanna go back but I know that it won't work. He turned his back on me when I needed him the most. It's just hard not having someone...again...

 

I don't really have a question, just needed to vent.

[SooSad33]

Understandable.. totally!

Do yo think you are healed enough with everything of your past? Do you feel ready to date again?

Some can feel they just can't do it. Or dont want to.

It's just not in them anymore.. the yearning or fears of commitment again.

 

As long as you know why he is your ex and you have that strength NOT to give in.. good for you.

Get some rest- tomorrow is a new day.

 

Keep taking care of YOU...

[Marcy2011]

Prayer. Patience. Perseverence. Write down all the things you want in your next relationship. Put it in a special place, say it out loud every day and LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU ARE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP ALREADY. It will allow you to enjoy and remember how great you are on your own and help you to identify/filter the proper kind of man when he appears. Be the kind of person that makes you happy - until and after the special one arrives. You are not alone.

[brokenhearted1]

Thank you sad I wrote a list as to why we are not getting back together...it hasn't been all too long since we split so I am taking it slow on the dating thing.

 

Part of me feels I am ready...part of me says no...

[Tinkie9901]

It is hard once you get in to a settled routine of having that person there to then switch to being alone. You miss the company, the physical presence of another person. The hug at the end of a crap day. It's hard I know xx

[brokenhearted1]

Prayer. Patience. Perseverence. Write down all the things you want in your next relationship. Put it in a special place, say it out loud every day and LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU ARE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP ALREADY. It will allow you to enjoy and remember how great you are on your own and help you to identify/filter the proper kind of man when he appears. Be the kind of person that makes you happy - until and after the special one arrives. You are not alone. you I have accepted how to be alone...I believe what frustrates me is a lack of successful relationships...

[ChellyV]

I have been single for a while now too. While it hits me on weekends, I do love the freedom and the "un" stress.

I can understand the need for companionship. Why not spend regular girl night with your girlfriends?

 

What I would do is keep a constant schedule alternately with different sets of friends on weekends. On weekends when it is inevitably me myself and I, I read books or watch DVD's. Other times I would take a 3 mile walk and just be plain tired at night that I do not have time to think. A good friend had also resurrected in my life and I feel that God put her back at this time so I can stop seeking what is He can't give me yet..

[brokenhearted1]

I have been single for a while now too. While it hits me on weekends, I do love the freedom and the "un" stress.

I can understand the need for companionship. Why not spend regular girl night with your girlfriends?

 

What I would do is keep a constant schedule alternately with different sets of friends on weekends. On weekends when it is inevitably me myself and I, I read books or watch DVD's. Other times I would take a 3 mile walk and just be plain tired at night that I do not have time to think. A good friend had also resurrected in my life and I feel that God put her back at this time so I can stop seeking what is He can't give me yet..

That is a good idea...most of the time I do fine with things...I have kids so most of the time I am not alone, but then they go to school or a friends and I have those hit me moments...

[LovesMusic]

are you writing in refrence to your "ex" husband or "ex" guy you dated after your husband

[brokenhearted1]

are you writing in refrence to your "ex" husband or "ex" guy you dated after your husband

Ex boyfriend...ex husband and I have been split up for a long time...over that.

[Melting]

I totally hear you.... I have one unsuccessful relationship after another.

 

Very tiring... and all I want is Mr Right to come home to every night

[Lambert]

I totally hear you.... I have one unsuccessful relationship after another.

 

Very tiring... and all I want is Mr Right to come home to every night

 

That's me, too. I just keep on keeping on, there's not much else that can be done.

[brokenhearted1]

That's me, too. I just keep on keeping on, there's not much else that can be done.

I have been too...everyone tells me maybe I need to spend some time on my own...heck I have. A LOT OF TIME.

[JTP1994]

I feel you. Not in the same sense but I understand how being lonely feels.

 

Sometimes its just better off staying single though, depending on how healed you feel.

 

Like lately I just can't help but think about just chilling with someone and having someone to be with. But then I just find other things to do to try and comfort myself, without eating excessive amounts of food, haha.

 

Do you sometimes feel like you won't find someone else? I dont feel too much like that but I could understand. My issues lie with being unable to connect to other girls. I really struggle with it... That's probably why I feel so alone.

 

Hope you're okay though in reference to your post. You'll be fine sooner or later! Time heals everything and there is always something good around the corner, just depends whether you look around it or not!

[brokenhearted1]

@JTP...yes I do often feel like I won't find anyone. It was nice having someone after not for so long. I always take the being single road because I have a hard time connecting with men too. So when I do connect with someone it's special. I think my ex may be seeing someone too.

 

It's just hard being right back in the same place again.

[Tinkie9901]

It is hard, and as much as I am ok with being alone, I do also worry that I won't find someone I 'click' with as well as my ex. I'm an introvert by nature, but he was someone I could talk to for hours and never felt self-conscious with. And I have days were I really miss the small stuff like him holding my hand, stuff you just can't have being single.

[JTP1994]

@JTP...yes I do often feel like I won't find anyone. It was nice having someone after not for so long. I always take the being single road because I have a hard time connecting with men too. So when I do connect with someone it's special. I think my ex may be seeing someone too.

 

It's just hard being right back in the same place again.

 

This is my feeling exactly at the moment. I talk to other girls but feel like there is no real connection so I want to cut it off normally. I think ill be on the single road for a while too. People can say that just because im so young it should be that way anyway, but once you've been in love properly its hard to want to just go back to being single and accepting it.

 

Tbh when your ex gets with someone else I always think it means nothing. I assume and know my ex still loves me but I have no idea what is going through her head anymore and I don't really want to unless she comes clean with me at all, out of the blue.

 

And Tinkie im the same sort of, I can handle it... But that doesn't mean I like it. Its probably a bit opposite with me, being a guy, but I miss coming home from work and chilling out with mu ex, having someone to share my thoughts with without being scared of what I say, the love we shared and finally the sex (always felt like it was worth doing it with my ex), hah. Some things you just can't have.

[Snow2tears]

What did you guys do to not feel lonely?

[JTP1994]

What did you guys do to not feel lonely?

 

I don't know how the ladies above me deal with it, but honestly the best thing you can do is socialise in some way, with other people.

 

And do something you enjoy, whether it be the gym or even going for a brisk walk. I personally either go to the gym now or just play video games, whilst on Skype with my friends to help with it. Otherwise I'm just sat here doing nothing and feel sorry for myself.

[TheNewGuy]

Being alone does get old after awhile I agree, but it sure beats being with someone and still being/feeling alone, ya know. That's something I hope to never have to experience again.

[JTP1994]

Being alone does get old after awhile I agree, but it sure beats being with someone and still being/feeling alone, ya know. That's something I hope to never have to experience again.

 

I like your concept. This is exactly why I don't like to talk to girls at the moment... If I don't connect with them there is no point. Thus making me feel uncomfortable and eventually lonely.

[Kimcwell]

It is hard, and as much as I am ok with being alone, I do also worry that I won't find someone I 'click' with as well as my ex. I'm an introvert by nature, but he was someone I could talk to for hours and never felt self-conscious with. And I have days were I really miss the small stuff like him holding my hand, stuff you just can't have being single.

 

My greatest fear is that I'll never find someone that I click with again. I am 45 and divorced, and never bonded with someone like I did to my ex. I hope it's not just a "once in a lifetime" thing, but it sure feels that way.

 

In 9 months I still haven't learned to deal with the loneliness because I don't want just anyone to fill that space that he left in my life. Ugh, it was a bad weekend!

[JTP1994]

My greatest fear is that I'll never find someone that I click with again. I am 45 and divorced, and never bonded with someone like I did to my ex. I hope it's not just a "once in a lifetime" thing, but it sure feels that way.

 

In 9 months I still haven't learned to deal with the loneliness because I don't want just anyone to fill that space that he left in my life. Ugh, it was a bad weekend!

 

that sucks but even at my age I can tell you life goes on and im sure you'll find someone else. If its in your heart to want someone to 'click' with then it is sure to happen again one day.

 

You need to accept it also. There's a thread on here about love addiction which I'd suggest you read, its really good but I can't remember who wrote it.

[brokenhearted1]

Being alone does get old after awhile I agree, but it sure beats being with someone and still being/feeling alone, ya know. That's something I hope to never have to experience again.

Very true...there are ppl who can make you feel very alone.

[Tinkie9901]

My greatest fear is that I'll never find someone that I click with again. I am 45 and divorced, and never bonded with someone like I did to my ex. I hope it's not just a "once in a lifetime" thing, but it sure feels that way.

 

After I broke up with my ex husband it was amazing to find a person I clicked with so well. I'd spent the last few years of my marriage feeling terribly alone and ignored and to find someone I could talk to about anything, that I was never self-conscious or embarrassed with was such a revelation to me. I think that was the part that was hardest to let go of when that relationship ended. And I do worry I'll never find that again, and I don't want to settle for less than that connection. Maybe I won't truly move on from my ex until I find that connection with someone else, but for now being alone is ok. I'm not lonely, I have many great things in my life, but yes there are sad days where I would do anything to be able to have those kinds of conversations with someone special again.