dark angel9 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I met this guy online and we had one date... It went really well and we clicked in many ways. He kept telling me how beautiful I am. At the end of the date he said that he would love to see me again. I agreed. When I got home I texted him that I had a nice time and he responded that he did too and will see me soon. Then EIGHT DAYS of silence. He didn't contact me at all and I didn't contact him. I pretty much forgot about it. Today, he texts me and asks me out for either Saturday or Sunday. He wants to take me to lunch and go to a film festival. Should I accept even though he pretty much ignored me for 8 days? I liked him but I am on the fence of what to do... Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 What do you have to loose? Go out one more time and mention to him that you were surprised he asked you back out again as you hadn't heard from him in over a week. Link to comment
sealharp Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 At least he isn't needy! (And let go of your pride) Put him off for a weekend and say "what about the following weekend". Show him you aren't too ready available for him and let him chase you. Film Festival is not really a place to get to know someone. Link to comment
Marie6133 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 If you got on like you say you did then I would go on a 2nd date. However I would make it clear to him that you were a little confused by the fact you didn't hear from him in so long. Perhaps he was just being careful not to come accross to keen? Or waiting to see whether you'd initiate conversation? Link to comment
lerenard Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 You just met, there is no need to text and call each other every five minutes! I will say go on with the dating. Link to comment
Jennifer89 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 If your really interested, take a chance. But mention to him that you hope the next date is planned a little bit sooner. He didn't contact you for 8 days, but, to be fair, you also didn't contact him for eight days. Next time if you want contact earlier, I suggest you contact him and see if he responds. Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Eight days probably gave you each some time to think on whether you 'want' to see each other again? Also, like many guys, he could very well be 'playing the field'. Don't expect you're the only one he's got an interest in, especially if he was found on a dating site. There's tons of 'em out there for his choosing. I guess it won't hurt to go out again? Get's you out to see him again,,see how it goes? Just don't jump into anything too fast. sounds like he's 'taking his time'.. Link to comment
Me82 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Yes, I don't see a problem. As long as he doesn't take another 8 days to contact you again. It's fine. Have fun! Link to comment
betterthan Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 8 days really isn't that long, especially if you are just dating. I am not a believer in the female being the aggressor in the relationship, but you could probably have said hey at least once over the 8 days. When (if) you do see him, make a joke of saying that you hope that he doesn't wait 8 days to catch up with you next time. Don't be to serious or he might think you are to clingy. If he does it again, then you have to choose if that is what you want right now or if you need more commitment. HTH Link to comment
Snow Bird Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I'm with those that said to go ahead and see him again, but on a weekend when YOU want it. Doing that will show him that you aren't the type to jump anytime he asks. At some point mention that it really surprised you that he asked you out again as you hadn't heard from him for days.. that will give him the hint that you would prefer if he did keep in touch. Link to comment
dark angel9 Posted August 9, 2013 Author Share Posted August 9, 2013 I don't think I could date someone that drops out of touch for 8 days but since it happened after the first meeting, I can see how the second one goes. At least he seems to have this date planned out and it's during day time so it's not a booty call. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Often it is those people who are texting constantly after a first date who are the ones you have to be wary of....full speed ahead from the get-go often results in things fizzling out just as quickly. Go on the date and see how it goes. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I'm not sure why anyone would see this as a problem. Nothing is etched in stone, nor is he obligated to contact you until he wants to take you out again, (of course if you're available, and interested in seeing him again.) I'm not saying you should wait around forever, but it seems as if you're setting your expectations too high, especially after one single date. Link to comment
dark angel9 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Share Posted August 13, 2013 Just an update: we had a great second date. We ended up spending a whole day together. Everything felt natural and flowed, like I have known him for years. He said he felt the same thing. Since then, he has been in regular contact and we are going out again on the weekend Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 When did u go out, Saturday? And you went to see a 'play'? Was he a 'gentleman' and not 'hit on you' too hard? Just be a bit cautious still okay? He may be 'at you now' because he's got some free time to (no other dates set up right now), especially since you met him on a 'date site'? Careful of those. MANY get right into it and have a few of the ladies lined up... Soon enough, you'll see what kind of guy they really are. Some just 'want a piece'. I suggest you be careful, i know of a few guys who've admitted using NO protection! (hence- easily spreading diseases), which still does happen. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Sounds good. Enjoy the moment and take things as they come. Link to comment
dark angel9 Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 When did u go out, Saturday? And you went to see a 'play'? Was he a 'gentleman' and not 'hit on you' too hard? Just be a bit cautious still okay? He may be 'at you now' because he's got some free time to (no other dates set up right now), especially since you met him on a 'date site'? Careful of those. MANY get right into it and have a few of the ladies lined up... Soon enough, you'll see what kind of guy they really are. Some just 'want a piece'. I suggest you be careful, i know of a few guys who've admitted using NO protection! (hence- easily spreading diseases), which still does happen. He didn't even kiss me, let alone anything else so I have no worries that way. And if he was multi-dating that's OK, I was too Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Oh, that's alright! Is he an older gent or younger? (Under 30?) If he's younger and that 'kind' i'm aimpressed Link to comment
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