becomingkate Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Cadmiumblue: What really annoys me is that my experience should preclude even having to DO this crap. Nope, sorry! I was a retail manager for 12 years, and I was always looking for people who knew how to be a team player. If they presented themselves as such and got hired but weren't, they were weeded out by the end of their 90 day probation period. Having cashier experience is a start, but cashiering has an entirely different set of tasks and does not involve working within a team, which is vitally important in the clothing industry. A good job where you don't need a lot of customer service skills is package handling at a company like Puralotor, DHL or UPS. It pays about $15/hr in my area, and you work independently most of the time. Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 ...seriously? How does that help this discussion at all? I don't think any dog or cat could be as hurtful and rejecting as other humans are, so I disagree, but you're entitled to feel how you feel. And you are entitled to feel the way you feel. Hope you get the job. Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Becomingkate, I don't dislike working with others. Being a cashier is mostly independent, but you do need to communicate with others to get by in the job. Anyway, I can work with a team. It takes time for me to warm up to people, but once I do, I'm fine. I just wish someone would give me a chance. I need a job to get my life in order. I'm not sure where anyone got the idea that I'm this horrible person who can't be a team player and can't work with others. It's not true. Link to comment
penelope13 Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 I'm not sure where anyone got the idea that I'm this horrible person who can't be a team player and can't work with others. It's not true. Nobody called you a horrible person. As for the rest: I recommend you read all your OWN posts on the various threads and pretend they are from someone you have never met before and then you come back and tell us what the impression of that person is Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Sorry, I disagree. Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Sorry, I disagree. That isn't surprising. You have agreed w/ very little. But think -- no one on the site has met you in person. All we have to go by is what you have told us, and by what we "see" when you post. So, our impression of you is what it is...and I think it's fairly accurate. Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Okay. Well, that's how you feel. This isn't really a site for people to be social and impress people, it's a place where people are vulnerable. Why would I agree with someone presenting an unflattering self-image? I prefer to imagine myself as confident and getting along well with others. And quite often, I am. Thinking positive is better than thinking negative. If I listen to someone who says something unflattering about me, I'll spiral into negative thinking. That doesn't help me. Link to comment
penelope13 Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 I think there is some serious misconnect somewhere: people will always have impressions of people based on what they say, how they communicate, how they react - NOT how they would like to be seen, because nobody is a mind reader. Nobody can project one behavior, but expect to be regarded for a completely hidden/uncommunicated persona. Some more considerate people may try to look what is behind the persona that one projects - but if the person in question doesn't allow the other sides to be seen, one has only the ouvert behavior to base conclusions on. So, if you continuously project anger, negativity, disagreement - what do you think people are concluding? That you are really a sweet person? You still may be a sweet person, but nobody has seen that side yet. And it would be quite unhealthy for other people to not adjust their behavior according to what you share with them. Thus I can understand why some people are giving up and deciding to invest their time and energy into someone who seems more open to receiving advice/help Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Okay. Thank you for your thoughts. Link to comment
DieTeufelKatze Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Very well said. Bold parts are exactly my sentiments. Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 What this seems to be about is people getting frustrated when I don't respond exactly as they would like me to. I mean, the reason I bumped this thread was to say I got through this challenging situation, not to start another argument. Geez. Link to comment
penelope13 Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 You can respond however you like. It is not going to affect my life if you are open to any suggestions (from whoever) or if you want to just use this as a venting place. I wish you good luck in your endeavors. Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 This isn't about suggestions. I didn't bump this thread to start yet another argument. Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Okay. Well, that's how you feel. This isn't really a site for people to be social and impress people, it's a place where people are vulnerable. Why would I agree with someone presenting an unflattering self-image? I prefer to imagine myself as confident and getting along well with others. And quite often, I am. Thinking positive is better than thinking negative. If I listen to someone who says something unflattering about me, I'll spiral into negative thinking. That doesn't help me. You started this thread with a complaint about the group job interview, saying it was unfair, that you should be hired based on your experience. You said it wasn't fair for them to judge you based on the way you interacted with others. Here's a quote from your first post: I have an upcoming group interview at an Old Navy store. I wouldn't worry normally, but I'm anxious about the possibility of "team building" activities, which is code for forcing people who don't know each other to interact in ways that are uncomfortable, such as "getting to know you" games. You posted about forcing people to interact in ways that make you uncomfortable, and yet now you say that you're confident and get along well with others. How does that make sense? Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 Even outgoing people are not comfortable with team building activities, and many have said as much. It's awkward for all involved, no matter how confident you are. My point was that I don't want to be seen as this shy, pathetic, negative excuse for a person. Again, I didn't bump this thread to start this line of conversation. I was saying I got through it. That's all. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 I am glad you got through it! Now keeping going! Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 I am glad you got through it! Now keeping going! Thanks. It's been two days now. If I don't get a call in the next few days, I will assume it's not going to happen. Which is possible since I was shy and nervous at the interview, even though it was just girls sitting together eating cookies, drinking soda and doing things that a normal person would get through without any issues. I am thinking about redoing my resume to focus on my education and applying for jobs relevant to my college major. I know, what a revolutionary notion. In the meantime, though, I am considering just getting a job at a restaurant to make money quickly. I can't be picky. My mom is a problem though. Even though I'm decidedly a grown woman, she actually told me I couldn't take a job. I don't have my own car so I can't go to interviews without the shared car...which causes fights. But that's another issue entirely. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 What is your major in? Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 Comparative Literature. lol. I get so much crap when I tell people that, oh well. It actually isn't a useless major, but I have yet to take advantage of it. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Ok. Mine is in History and English. People told me the same. What it is it you hope to do with your major? Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 I think I mentioned already but I'd like to be a freelance writer. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Then work towards that! Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 Unfortunately, I can't wait to get those jobs while I live on nothing, so I have to get a crappy job for now to get by. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 That does not mean you can not work for your goal at the same time. Link to comment
cadmiumblue Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 This is true. Thank you. Link to comment
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