victorianrose Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 So this guy and I are getting along really well, and I wanted to spice things up a bit. So I was thinking about sending the guy I like a casual picture of me in my new bikini, he hasn't asked for pictures like that, this is entirely my idea to add a little attraction spark in the mix, and he knows I am . I am overage and have no hangups about people seeing me in a bikini, especially since im not making an overtly sexual picture, so even if he did show other people I wouldn't really mind. I just wonder what guys opinions about this are? Yay or nay? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I think it will give him the impression that you are focused on what you look like. If that is the impression you want to make then go for it. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 So this guy and I are getting along really well, and I wanted to spice things up a bit. So I was thinking about sending the guy I like a casual picture of me in my new bikini, he hasn't asked for pictures like that, this is entirely my idea to add a little attraction spark in the mix, and he knows I am . I am overage and have no hangups about people seeing me in a bikini, especially since im not making an overtly sexual picture, so even if he did show other people I wouldn't really mind. I just wonder what guys opinions about this are? Yay or nay? Pictures don't do justice. Just go see him in person in it. You don't want to end up sending to the wrong person or him forwarding a bunch of pictures of you to his guy friends. Link to comment
victorianrose Posted May 28, 2012 Author Share Posted May 28, 2012 I want to go see him, but because of circumstances we can't at the moment... so I am stuck in the meantime. If he did forward it I don't really care, since I don't have a problem with being seen in a bikini in public, but I really don't think he's the type who would. Either way is irrelevant I just wanna make an impression Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I want to go see him, but because of circumstances we can't at the moment... so I am stuck in the meantime. If he did forward it I don't really care, since I don't have a problem with being seen in a bikini in public, but I really don't think he's the type who would. Either way is irrelevant I just wanna make an impression what are the circumstances? silly, only do that for your man not some total potential stranger. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Sure, send it. Just so long as you don't mind them being posted all over the internet in a year or two. Link to comment
victorianrose Posted May 28, 2012 Author Share Posted May 28, 2012 what are the circumstances? silly, only do that for your man not some total potential stranger. We want to hang out, but his truck engine is blown out (he's getting it fixed though, just gotta get the money up for it) and I am not the kind who goes around picking up guys (it never worked for me in the past), and he's not a stranger, we have been friends since high school just fell out of contact for a while because he was in Japan in the airforce and I was in Venezuela in a dysfunctional relationship. And now we are both back in our hometown together again Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 We want to hang out, but his truck engine is blown out (he's getting it fixed though, just gotta get the money up for it) and I am not the kind who goes around picking up guys (it never worked for me in the past), and he's not a stranger, we have been friends since high school just fell out of contact for a while because he was in Japan in the airforce and I was in Venezuela in a dysfunctional relationship. And now we are both back in our hometown together again Oh yea I remembered now. Yeah, don't bother sending it. Hanging out doesn't mean you both are interested in each other. If you are on a date that's a different story. As for sending picture, he ain't your man yet. Another thing, you are trying to hard to impress and you're going to end up like all the pictures he see on the internet. Another part of his gallery in his mind. Link to comment
victorianrose Posted May 28, 2012 Author Share Posted May 28, 2012 Oh yea I remembered now. Yeah, don't bother sending it. Hanging out doesn't mean you both are interested in each other. If you are on a date that's a different story. As for sending picture, he ain't your man yet. Another thing, you are trying to hard to impress and you're going to end up like all the pictures he see on the internet. Another part of his gallery in his mind. We both are interested in each other, we just want to build a foundation before jumping into a relationship and dating. That is his idea and mine, and I haven't seen him in person since he graduated from high school (different countries, not much opportunity). How do you suggest I impress him then? Men are visual creatures, they like what they see, thought that sending pictures like that would a bold, daring (I'm just that kind of woman) move but would be worth it if I could grab his attention even more. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 We both are interested in each other, we just want to build a foundation before jumping into a relationship and dating. That is his idea and mine, and I haven't seen him in person since he graduated from high school (different countries, not much opportunity). How do you suggest I impress him then? Men are visual creatures, they like what they see, thought that sending pictures like that would a bold, daring (I'm just that kind of woman) move but would be worth it if I could grab his attention even more. I told you. Meet him up for a hangout/date/whatever. Don't impress him with a picture like some sort of magazine. You are not a magazine. You are a person. Show him with your personality while wearing a BIKINI in person when you guys are on the beach or whatever. That's how you can impress him. Link to comment
Natasha24 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Since you haven't hung out with him since high school, no, don't send it. It gives him the wrong idea. I understand you're comfortable with people seeing the pic because you wear a bikini in public too - but what is the point of sending it to him? Why do you want to impress him with your body? If he asks for a picture (which some guys do, just a regular picture so they can see your face when they want to), send him a fully clothed one. Until then, I don't think you should. To me, it sounds like "You like what you see here? Next time we meet up, you can have some" Link to comment
victorianrose Posted May 28, 2012 Author Share Posted May 28, 2012 I told you. Meet him up for a hangout/date/whatever. Don't impress him with a picture like some sort of magazine. You are not a magazine. You are a person. Show him with your personality while wearing a BIKINI in person when you guys are on the beach or whatever. That's how you can impress him. Just wait until then? Works for me Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 victoriana - when you're not dating, it's not a casual pic of you in a bikini. It sends the impression that the next picture will be naked. Also, you then have no control over who he passes the picture to. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 ^ I agree with Agent. The major red flag is he's requesting these pics, yet continues to make excuses regarding meeting you in person. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Just wait until then? Works for me Uh yea.... You're acting like a fast food burger instead of a filet mignon. I'm hungry. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 ^ I agree with Agent. The major red flag is he's requesting these pics, yet continues to make excuses regarding meeting you in person. I didn't he was requesting pictures from her. Hahaha nice catch! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Sending pictures of yourself scantily clad won't "create a foundation". Link to comment
RedDress Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I am actually quite surprised that people are all up in arms over a bikini pic. I mean... people go to the beach in bikinis. They post bikini pics on Facebook (frolicking on the beach or whatever). They hug their grandma in a bikini. I don't see this the same as a naked pic at all (and wonder why people would be worried about distribution of that?) I also think it's a GREAT alternative to the naked pics many people like to send... To each their own, I guess... That being said, I DO agree that sending him one this early in the relationship will send the wrong message... Have you added him to FB yet? How about just going to the beach with some friends, genuinely frolicking with them and posting your "day at the beach" pics on FB. You'll know right there if they are appropriate or sexualized... if you aren't comfortable with them on FB, they are probably not appropriate... Link to comment
Donovan79 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I went on a few dates with a girl who claimed to be some Miss Blah Blah 2004 model whatever. Without asking she sent her modelling pics, and while her body was tight, the whole thing just reeked of "trying too hard". If you really must have him see you, do Skype. Way classier and you can flirt/ show as little/much as you want. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Yes, it is more what the picture says than the picture it's self. Wearing a bikini is not bad but sending those pics when not in a relationship kind of says, " I'm easy." Link to comment
Tom1990 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Uh yea.... You're acting like a fast food burger instead of a filet mignon. I'm hungry. This made me lol. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 If the OP was going to be at the beach and just happened to be wearing one in a picuture he saw... that would be different. Context is king. Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 This made me lol. ;] I'm glad I could entertain you with some amusement, Tom. That means I got my swagger going on and ready to go have some fun with the summer boys! Link to comment
superfan Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I don't really know why it is such a bad idea personally. If she is comfortable with herself in the bikini and wants to send a flirty pic then why not? I don't think it necessarily says "I'm easy". Depends on how the text is sent. If he texts her and says something like "what are you up to?" And she responds with "just got back from the beach" and then sends it, why not? If she were to send it with a caption that read "come and get it" maybe that would be different. I think if you want to send it, send it. It's not a naked picture and if you don't care what happens to it, then go for it Link to comment
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