SuperDave71 Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 All, This is a list I found a while back and I changed it to fit my own personal needs. The list below is my personal version. If you find the following list useful (as I did), I suggest you change what you want in order to fit your particular goals and life situation. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be better looking, someone will always be smarter, more talented but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?” Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate you! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying only burns you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing. Do what you can on a daily basis to start changing the things you want to change...soon you will start to feel the clouds lift and you will start feeling better. I guarantee it. Be patient and put forward the effort it takes to change. "Rome was not built in a day" Life is what you make it...enjoy! Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
secondchance67 Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 As always, another truly inspirational post from you once again....Thank you sir ! Link to comment
FreeFallFeelin Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Fantastic words to live by. Great post. Link to comment
Thisisnotme Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Wonderful and needed - thank you! Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 Life is way to short NOT to be enjoyed and shared with people that DO care about you. Do what you can NOT to play the victim card. I was guilty of this years ago. I hope my experiences can continue to help others with their current situation. Remember: Things will always get better Take care and thank you all, SuperDave71 :single_eye: Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Nice post Dave. Very positive as always. We all forget from time to time that life is the ultimate gift given to us. A gift we need to be grateful for daily. I'll print this one out so I can read it when I 'forget' how precious life is. Link to comment
ghengisT Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Excellent advice! I'll be reviewing daily for mental notes. Link to comment
neofinch Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 thankyou for this! very true & positive post Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Wow, this is one of the best posts yet, SuperDave. Thank you for this. With a few exceptions, my thinking lately has been much more positive and reflective of this post and guess what? Pretty much everything in my life (with the exception of a recent dating experience) has taken a turn for the better in the last week or so.. a few areas dramatically so. And I know what isn't there yet will get there eventually. Now just need to get outside and enjoy the weather as the winter fades away! Link to comment
NANNYSTUDENT Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 This made me cry. In a good way. I just need a hug... and I need to realize that I need to be the one to give myself that hug. And that's hard. Thank you so much for these words... they found me at a low moment. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 Nanny, If I were there, I would not only hug you, we would go find a park and swing. I know this maysound silly but NOTHING in the world take me back to my childhood when everything was so much simpler than finding a park and jumping on a swing. Silly....yes.....does it work? You have no idea until you try it (It has ALWAYS worked for me) Keep your chin up. I know things are difficult right now but I assure you, LIFE is going to give you a HUGE hug soon enough. Let go of negative thinking and motivate yourself to take small steps forward. I'll be here if you need me. -SuperDave71 Link to comment
duke nukem Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Very good advice, Dave. Your posts were some of the first things I read here and like usual you're helping me out. Thumbs up man! Link to comment
MissieP Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Thank you Superdave You words are very inspirational! I love that avatar. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 Thank you all! Dolorsa..I believe I am blushing. HAHA -SuperDave71 Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted March 14, 2012 Author Share Posted March 14, 2012 One Bump for the newbies. -SuperDave71 Link to comment
Live-N-Learn Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 SuperDave...your a legend on this site. You have helped so many people including myself! Just wanted to say thank you. Link to comment
italiannmf24 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Wow, I'm so surprised to see another post by SuperDave! Great work, man. Really. It's a pleasure to see that you're still doing well in life and that things do get better at some point or another. Link to comment
SarahRose Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 always love your posts xxx group hugs Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 Thank you all. I really appreciate all the positive comments. Your Friend, -SuperDave71 Link to comment
Zero71 Posted August 11, 2012 Share Posted August 11, 2012 Good post I will probably review it whenever I feel down. Link to comment
overthemoon86 Posted April 13, 2014 Share Posted April 13, 2014 Great post, thank you!! Link to comment
erklat Posted April 13, 2014 Share Posted April 13, 2014 Wonderful advice. I'm so sad Super Dave doesn't post more. Link to comment
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