soaking_wet Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I'm 21 years old, and I'll be 22 in about a week ... I'm freaking out!!! ... I feel like I'm soo old! haha I keep overthinking about it and I feel like I should be getting married or have a career already or something! ... I just don't know what being 22 means ... anyways, so I keep thinking, "what if I never get married or have kids or i'm too old before I get there?!" when I clearly know that I'm not ready for any of that yet cuz I still feel 19 ... advice?! Am I old?! Should I be committing?! Link to comment
CBG Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 This is a joke right? I have never heard of a 22 year old female that thinks she is old. There are some 30 something females on here that would probably like to have a word with you. Link to comment
knightingale Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Seriously? You're not old. I am 25 years old, graduating with my first Bachelors this Saturday, so therefore no career lined up quite yet. I am not married, though I am in a serious relationship. I am not ready to get married yet either. Are you feeling pressure because of friends or family? Do you have friends who are married or getting married and you feel like you are falling behind in life? You're too young, in my opinion, to settle down. You shouldn't rush things like this because it seems like what you should be doing. When it's time for you to commit to a career and a marriage, it will happen. Enjoy being single!! Link to comment
Clabs Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Hey there Soaking Wet. Are you old at 21??!! You sure are making me feel old - haha! You are still a baby - so take your time and enjoy your life. So many people rush into the marriage and kids thing at an early age just to see it all crash down because they haven't had a chance to really experience life. And then they have all that baggage to drag about behind them! Relax and think of all the wonderful years you have ahead of you! Mark Link to comment
lila... Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Lol I feel the exact same way as you, and I'm one year older. There's this one guy I talk to that's a big goof and likes joking around that always tells me how I'm getting old and the older I get the less attractive for marriage I'll be lol. Those kind of comments sometimes get to me, but, I think at this day and age early 20's is still very young and there's no need to rush things and settle down, especially when you're not ready. I'm far from ready. To reassure myself and feel better I just kind of made a timeline for myself, I think mid or late 20s for me would be a good time to consider committing because I don't want to be an old mom, and there's still plenty of time till then. From now until I'm in my late 20's I'd have done a ton of things. But who knows, you can't really plan your life and who's to say I won't get married and fall in love before that, or even later? I just try not to stress too much over it. I'd rather be older when I marry than young and unsure. Link to comment
soaking_wet Posted December 16, 2009 Author Share Posted December 16, 2009 haha that makes me feel a lil better It's just that many of my friends are only 18 to 20 ..and I feel soo much older than them lol and I also have a crush on this guy who's 18 hahah and I feel like I should move on from that crush cuz I'm OLD and he's a baby ](*,) .. haha I dunno i'm just very confused ...cuz then I also have friends who are 25 to 27 and they're married and settled ... and I'm the pig in the middle and I don't know what I should be doing! ahhh Link to comment
knightingale Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Like whoever you want (as long as it's legal)! My boyfriend is 23, and I have had my share crushes on younger guys. It happens. Just don't worry about it. Be as young as you feel! Link to comment
riley123 Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 and I don't know what I should be doing! ahhh You should be doing things that will make you happy. There is no specific age when you should get married, buy a house, have kids, etc. Everyone is different. Live your own life. Link to comment
lila... Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 haha that makes me feel a lil better It's just that many of my friends are only 18 to 20 ..and I feel soo much older than them lol and I also have a crush on this guy who's 18 hahah and I feel like I should move on from that crush cuz I'm OLD and he's a baby ](*,) .. haha I dunno i'm just very confused ...cuz then I also have friends who are 25 to 27 and they're married and settled ... and I'm the pig in the middle and I don't know what I should be doing! ahhh LOL you know, a BIG part of the reason I feel old is because I go to school with 18-20 year olds and I'm probably one of the oldest there. I also had an ex that was 3 years younger than me and when we broke up he said I was too old for him! So those things really made me stress out about my age. But when I hang out and talk to my friends around my age I feel at ease and don't feel old at all. So, just stop comparing yourself to others! Trust me, you're very young. When you're like 25 you're going to look back and think, What was I thinking? Enjoy your time right now and enjoy being young. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 This is a joke right? I have never heard of a 22 year old female that thinks she is old. There are some 30 something females on here that would probably like to have a word with you. I thought I was old and that age too. I'm 26 now and 22 seems so far away. Link to comment
lila... Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I thought I was old and that age too. I'm 26 now and 22 seems so far away. For some reason I always thought you were 22! Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 For some reason I always thought you were 22! I'm a mischievous 5 year old at heart. Probably always will be. Link to comment
lila... Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I'm a mischievous 5 year old at heart. Probably always will be. That's good, I have times when I bring out my 10 year-old me out also (probably not in a good way though Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 at least you still have most of your twenties left. I'm over the twenty-something hill here Link to comment
Dinka Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 If YOU'RE old, then I should be committed to a retirement home, and I'm 25. Don't compare yourself to people - friends or strangers - because you'll always feel like you're coming up short. ALWAYS. Instead, focus on YOU and your LIFE. If you're interested in having a relationship with someone, get out there and meet new people (or ask out this guy you have a crush on). See where it goes. Set career goals for yourself, if you want to do that. Goals are good. Expectations, not so much. Comparisons, definitely no. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 We are only as old as we think we are. I am 43 and most of the time I do not think of myself as old. You have LOTS of time to do all the things you want to do. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I felt way older at 25 than I do at 45. Link to comment
trezz Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 soaking_wet do i get an award for being the eldest? oh boy i remember being so young i thought anyone over 25 should be shot to put them out of their old age misery. i hated being 29 i was so old. at 30 i had my waist length hair cut off because i thought it was weird for an old lady to have long hair! now i'm old for real oh sigh truth is i have never felt so young! it is all in the mind, my hair is once again very long and slightly silver i like it. confidence and contentment with the person you are is the secret to happiness, let other people rule their lives not yours, once you are happy with the person you are and realise no one else is really all that interested in interfering in your life then life is great. anyone out there admit to having more life experience then me? Link to comment
LightbulbSun Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 I hate all you young whippersnappers! I'm going to go get my cane and smack you with it! Link to comment
Creative Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Age are relative. There are no such thing as a year, 12 months, 365 days, 24 hours. It's your biological clock that matters. Certainly, our body does wear and tear. But there are ways to keep 'fit' by regular exercise or having a youthful diet. 22 shouldn't mean much if you're "decaying" slowly. Link to comment
Lamour detruit Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 If being that age frightens you, then you have a lot of anxiety left to go every year if you get to be until your 80's, when you live to see that age, you're allowed to call yourself old. Don't worry about it so much. There are no set rules for what you can or cannot do as you get in your twenties or anything after that. Just because you hit the 22 doesn't mean anything has changed other than the little number that you identify your age with has gone up a little. Just be happy you are still around on this planet, live life the way you want it, take care of yourself, and hope for the best. that is all you can do. Link to comment
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