waveseer Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 This is exactly what I said, along with the smiley: Actually my profile id is XYZ (i have mentioned it in the subject line of the email) If that is interpreted as me trying to prove her wrong or i have a chip on my shoulder then so be it. I deserve some other girl that has more sense than this. Have you asked yourself why you found it necessary to mention that you already told her instead of simply supplying the information again? Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 Have you asked yourself why you found it necessary to mention that you already told her instead of simply supplying the information again? No, I did not and I do not care any more. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 Did she see your picture at any point? Nope she did not... Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Yeah, but Gry - she did get your number right, so maybe that's what's really bothering you. She said you seemed like the type who wouldn't let things go, and she's 100% accurate about that. I mean, look at this thread? Over what? She made a judgement that you were incompatible based off limited communication. It should just be respected, and not challenged, because all you did, was prove her right in her decision not to meet by NOT letting it go with her. I'm sure if she saw this thread, she'd roll her eyes. Any other prospects that seem promising? I think this horse is long dead, no? Link to comment
waveseer Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 No, I did not and I do not care any more. Didn't you want to know what you did that sent her packing so you could change it? Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 Yeah, but Gry - she did get your number right, so maybe that's what's really bothering you. No, she did not get my number. She said you seemed like the type who wouldn't let things go, and she's 100% accurate about that. I mean, look at this thread? Over what? She made a judgement that you were incompatible based off limited communication. It should just be respected, and not challenged, because all you did, was prove her right in her decision not to meet by NOT letting it go with her. I'm sure if she saw this thread, she'd roll her eyes. Any other prospects that seem promising? I think this horse is long dead, no? I refuse to even make any comments about the rest of the post. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 Didn't you want to know what you did that sent her packing so you could change it? I did when I started this thread. I do not anymore. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Also, she mentioned that your email had no other details about yourself. Perhaps she was hoping that your response would contain some details about yourself...but it looks like you only responded with your ID#. Link to comment
waveseer Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 I did when I started this thread. I do not anymore. I understand and I won't mention it again. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 And the "not letting go" thing was what she perceived after receiving the second message from you, which is understandable. That does not seem to have anything to do with your profile though. I'd take it as, she saw your profile, read your emails, felt you were not a good match based on all of those things. Then she got annoyed when you emailed her the second time to ask for further clarification after she had declined to provide such details (declined by omission and by giving you a vague response). Link to comment
need2bme Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Holy crap! After everyone giving their 2 cents, which the OP asked for, it descends (at least for him and a couple of others) into "you guys gave your opinion, but I don't agree and I don't like it, so I am going to let you know this". Gimme a break. Why can't you deal with facts and not opinions or guesses? 1. She wrote that she wanted your profile ID, which BTW, she could have put that in there and NEVER noticed it was in the subject line...she realizes it and feels stupid...then you point this out to her. 2.You know (hopefully) as well as I do that texting (or in this case, emailing in the OLD world) rarely conveys emotion and when it does we may take it through wrong way. 3. She wasn't interested and when you found this out, you shouldn't have been either. I don't understand why someone cannot feel what they want. At any rate...how this got to 9 pages bewilders me (of course, here I am posting on the last page). Link to comment
LAYAAN Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I don't know... maybe its a cultural thing... I would make nothing out of what was written in the parenthesis. I would be like... oh okay... I guess I missed it last time... may be I wasn't paying attention, not a big deal! thanx for pointing it out! Its not the end of the world... I would be relaxed about it. Yes, what would bother me was his asking again for clarification or reasoning. That would make me feel uncomfortable b'coz then I've to give a real reason and I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. But I would not send a rude remark like that girl did. I would just not send anything. I would stop communicating. Link to comment
Timbone Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I've had something similar happen to me, Grym, so I don't understand it either. A girl expressed interest in me on a dating site that I had let the subscription lapse. I Winked back to see if she was still interested, then she wrote. I had to re-sign up to read the message, so I did. Wrote her back a nice, non-offending email, and then nothing. She's a real person, not some computer construct that was designed to get me to sign up again, so I can only discern that she was an art snob who didn't talk to digital artists (she was a traditional artist). Tried to initiate contact again a couple weeks later, still nothing. Wrote her off, but I was pissed since I had signed up to specifically talk to her. So yeah, I don't know why they do the things they do either. Just odd. I feel for ya, man. I do think that you should have some good pictures of yourself taken and put them up on your profile though. I'm no Adonis myself, but i don't want that feeling fo a girl bailing on me because I'm not good-looking enough for her. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 15, 2009 Author Share Posted September 15, 2009 Thanx man.. I saw the link about sexual harassment and wow... it was so funny bwahahahaha.... Link to comment
Timbone Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 oh yeah, a truer video was never filmed than that sexual harassment one. Glad I could help a bit! Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I think asking for a reason as to why she was no longer interested is what irritated her. I don't like when guys ask me why they are not my type. Not sure why she expressed an interest and then didn't bother - except maybe you were an 'ok' one that she was hovering on - and then when she looked back later decided you weren't really her type after all. I was hovering on a pic of a guy on POF today. He had decent hair (compared to the vast amount of bald guys that I am NOT into!) and face was ok so I was thinking 'well he's better than most of the guys on here' - but at the same time he didn't make me think 'wow' - so in the end I just left his page. But maybe she went the other way and expressed the interest and then just later decided she wasn't so keen after all. It happens. It IS really awkward having to explain 'well, I thought you were ok last week but I've decided you're not really cute enough'. what would have been better is if you had really, really needed to know, you'd have done it in a jokier or nicer way - like 'Awww, you've broken my heart! Haha. You not interested in a coffee?' - that way you're not interrogating her but at the same time you're still giving her the option of saying 'I'm afraid you're not my type' or something to that effect if she wanted. Link to comment
AnotherDude Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I agree with waveseer, the part in the brackets was unneccessary and a bit rude (ie. DUH I sent it already - even though you didn't say that, you insinuated that). That said I don't tend to judge someone based on one lil thing like that... and secondly even if I had gone off you, I wouldn't have sent the rude emails she sent. Oh well no big loss Gry, she seems very stuck up! Ammy I am sorry but if you find something so minor insulting, then I don't see how you can function in the world we live in. It wasn't unnecessary at all. Had she been paying even the slightest bit of attention to the subject of the message, she would have answered her own question. Do you really want to date a girl who makes a silly mistake like that, then rights you off just because you politely corrected her? Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 17, 2009 Author Share Posted September 17, 2009 Do you really want to date a girl who makes a silly mistake like that, then rights you off just because you politely corrected her? Nope. no way. I did not even bother to reply to her rude messages. I deserve someone better. Link to comment
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