Keyman Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 ring... Okay, so with so much fuss going on in the thread about proposing before getting an engagement ring... I ask you ladies, would you buy him an engagement ring if he desired a symbol of your commitment? Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I provided all the rings in my most recent marriage. Does a table saw count? Link to comment
yeawutever Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 If he wants it and it meant a lot to him ok. Though it's not the ring that matters, but the relationship and commitment, love you shared with your SO. Rings can be given and what about when you're not with them no more, then what, you wasted money on it. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Yup. I've toyed with the idea, he would like an equal symbol of engagement, but said he the only ring he wants is a wedding band..but has expressed he wished there was an equal symbol of engagement for a man. I will probably do something else for him, in terms of jewelry. Replace his existing yellow gold chain to white gold, as that will be the colour of our rings. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I provided all the rings in my most recent marriage. Does a table saw count? hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa good one! I love you R2H...lol...thanks for the laugh I am in tears..hahaha Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I didn't buy my fiance a ring I did however buy him a necklace that he had been wanting for some time. Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa good one! I love you R2H...lol...thanks for the laugh I am in tears..hahaha I love you too, dw. Glad I could instigate your laughter. Link to comment
Alezia Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I would be totally up for it if he wanted one. As much as material stuff doesn't count, I love to spoil him =) He's still wondering if he wants to wear his deceased dad's (not a good death....) ring or not though. Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I bought my husband a very nice watch & had it inscribed with something sentimental right after we got engaged. If he had wanted a ring, sure. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 The stuff I gave my ex would have been suitable for 10 weddings. I wouldn't buy him a wedding ring, but I would buy him a nice pricey watch, or something he really needed and wanted. I have know many many people to buy these big fancy rings only be in divorce court before the thing was paid off. Honestly, I don't even see the need in a big fancy wedding, feeding dozens of folks you never met or visited you...but I surely would want my honeymoon to be somewhere exotic...I think it would be great for me to go to Australia....as a matter of fact if I ever have the $$ to go on a trip out of the country for the first time I would like it to be in the land down under....I love their accent too. Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 An engagement ring for a man? No way. I'm don't consider myself a traditional person but, when it comes to this, I guess I am. Seriously though...are there men who want engagement rings? The thought of that makes me mad. Engagement rings are one of the few things that women get to accept without being expected to give something in return. I've looked forward to having one given to me, since I was a little girl. I can't imagine a man proposing to me, putting the ring on my finger and then saying, "now I want one too". Wow...not cool. P.S. I'm really shocked that I'm the only one who has had this reaction. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 An engagement ring for a man? No way. I'm don't consider myself a traditional person but, when it comes to this, I guess I am. Seriously though...are there man who want engagement rings? The thought of that makes me mad. Engagement rings are one of the few things that women get to accept without being expected to give something in return. I've looked forward to having one given to me, since I was a little girl. I can't imagine a man proposing to me, putting the ring on my finger and then saying, "now I want one too". Wow...not cool. P.S. I'm really shocked that I'm the only one who has had this reaction. Well it goes back to the other post breaking away from tradition of having an engagement ring when proposing, so many people are okay with it.. This is the same thing, while it isn't "traditional" to give a man an engagement ring neither is not having a ring when proposing. Most people think you buy the ring and then propose. These days it isn't that way anymore so many more people are being more acceptable of not doing it the traditional way (and that includes buying a man an engagement ring) Link to comment
COtuner Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Probably not. I don't even want a ring for myself (not really into jewelry and rings drive me to fits). Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 An engagement ring for a man? No way. I'm don't consider myself a traditional person but, when it comes to this, I guess I am. Seriously though...are there men who want engagement rings? The thought of that makes me mad. Engagement rings are one of the few things that women get to accept without being expected to give something in return. I've looked forward to having one given to me, since I was a little girl. I can't imagine a man proposing to me, putting the ring on my finger and then saying, "now I want one too". Wow...not cool. P.S. I'm really shocked that I'm the only one who has had this reaction. Its sad that a man wishes to have a symbol of commitment? I don't think so. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Engagement rings are one of the few things that women get to accept without being expected to give something in return. I've looked forward to having one given to me, since I was a little girl. I can't imagine a man proposing to me, putting the ring on my finger and then saying, "now I want one too". what do guys have that they can accept with their woman not expecting anything in return? I really can't think of anything. To me, It's only fair that if a female expects a ring without giving anything in return , a man can expect one as well. Link to comment
Keyman Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 It's actually traditional in Italy for the woman to give the man a ring as well. It is then replaced with the wedding band on the wedding day. Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 what do guys have that they can accept with their woman not expecting anything in return? I really can't think of anything. To me, It's only fair that if a female expects a ring without giving anything in return , a man can expect one as well. Okay...I'll list a few off the top of my head. It's socially acceptable for a women to do all of these things for a man without expecting anything in return: cook meals clear the table clean the house do the dishes do the laundy give-up their last name shop for clothes for their husbands arrange appointments give-up their job for man's job Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Okay...I'll list a few off the top of my head. It's socially acceptable for a women to do all of these things for a man without expecting anything in return: cook meals clear the table clean the house do the dishes do the laundy give-up their last name shop for clothes for their husbands arrange appointments give-up their job for man's job Okay so all of that should be done in return for an expensive engagement ring... Oooook where I come from, both women AND men do all of the things you list so as for it being "socially acceptable" if you want to argue that I still say it's perfectly acceptable for a man to expect an engagement 'gift' as well. Oh and btw, I expect my fiance to help out with all of the things you listed so yes, MOST women expect something from the things you listed. The guy also is usually the one who is the main bread winner in the family (that is done in return for the woman doing all the things you list as well). Invalid argument. Link to comment
Keyman Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 Okay...I'll list a few off the top of my head. It's socially acceptable for a women to do all of these things for a man without expecting anything in return: cook meals clear the table clean the house do the dishes do the laundy give-up their last name shop for clothes for their husbands arrange appointments give-up their job for man's job Wow, what society do you live in that accepts this? This was the case pre 1960's sure, but in 2009? I live in a fairly equal and sharing society. I know guys that do all of the above while their wives follow the career, including looking after the kids. I even have a malefriend who recently got married and give us HIS last name and took hers... Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Its sad that a man wishes to have a symbol of commitment? I don't think so. No. I wouldn't say that. I just think it's wonderful that our society has kept a piece of tradition alive that doesn't exist at a woman's expense...like most other traditional values do. Does that makes sense? Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No. I wouldn't say that. I just think it's wonderful that our society has kept a piece of tradition alive that doesn't exist at a woman's expense...like most other traditional values do. Does that makes sense? What traditional values do guys have left in their favor? Seriously? Link to comment
Keyman Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 We get to pee with the toilet seat up! But wait! You want to take that away from us too!!! Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 No. I wouldn't say that. I just think it's wonderful that our society has kept a piece of tradition alive that doesn't exist at a woman's expense...like most other traditional values do. Does that makes sense? Sure, but I think it doesn't need to be so female centered. To me, WE are getting engaged, and if he would love to share this phase of our relationship with a symbol that he gets to wear that represents him being engaged, and he wants that excitment as well..then I'm for it. It's just as much about him getting engaged as well..not just me getting a pretty ring...he's also engaged..if a guy wants a symbol that represents it, then why not? Link to comment
yellowcal Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 We get to pee with the toilet seat up! But wait! You want to take that away from us too!!! LOL just remember to put it down.. Link to comment
Keyman Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 LOL just remember to put it down.. Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Link to comment
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