What is wrong with this girl?!

[Rose21]

I was really just posting it to show that she was smiling and had her arms around me in the photo, and how now her behavior totaly goes against that.

[annie24]

ah ha. well, there you go. she is an odd one. if i have kids, i won't home school them.

[Rose21]

Yeah I know ugh.

 

The girl that I was friends with last semester that was also slightly weird and OBSESSED to the absolute max with her boyfriend, wasn't home schooled but she went to private schools all her life.

 

But we defriended eachother the natural way. Just lost contact, fell out of touch. distance, etc.

 

This girl, I don't care if you don't like someone, it's RUDE to SAY it to them. Expec if you already basically said they were your best friend.

 

Seems backwards to me.

[annie24]

and just like my friend who told me she would be lying on her couch on a saturday night 4 months in the future. some people are just freaking weird.

[Rose21]

Yeah what the hell??

 

It would be one thing if it came to THAT day and something had happened and she said that.

 

I would still be mad either way, but saying "I am certain that 4 months from now I will be hanging out on my couch. Because that is more exciting then hanging out with you."

 

Is just plain RUDE! And weird.

[annie24]

yeah, i could never decide if it was more rude than weird, or weird than rude. oh well, i've just accepted that she is like that. and i don't invite her out anymore. now we just see each other at school, and that's that.

[Llama Dancer]

Some people just make you go 'huh.' Been there, done that. I found myself in a similar situation once as well. And you know what? It's your 'friend's' loss, not yours.

 

Strange behavior indeed.

[Rose21]

Yeah, but I HATE loosing friends!

 

And what's worse, is I have to deal with her first period 3 days a week=(

[annie24]

oh well, that's adulthood for you. some people are great friends, then they stab you in the back. there you go. or then they turn into total freaks. life goes on, be greatful you do have at least some normal people in your life.

[lost1607307474]

Maybe after getting to know you she just decided you were not her type of person. It happens.

 

Agreed these things happen. People change, move apart, don't be friends anymore, do strange things. No point stressing about it.

[Rose21]

You say adulthood, but this girl is just 17.

 

My best friends are far from normal, but as am I and my boyfriend. But we arn't weird. We're individuals, which I perfer to be friends with vs. Straightlace "normal" people. I like individuals, but not bipolar weird ones.

[annie24]

i mean you rose. as you become an adult, you'll find you won't always have the same friendships you had earlier. different people serve different functions in your life, and her time is over.

[lady00]

You didn't lose a friend, at least not a true friend.

[Llama Dancer]

People will always move in and out of your life. As you get older, your circle of friends will likely become smaller. It hurts to lose a friend, especially when you've done nothing to deserve the loss -- but life is certainly not always fair. Hold out for a better friend who will appreciate you for the unique person you are.

 

You deserve more.

[Rose21]

So apparently this girl does not know how to communicate! I walked up to her after class and said we needed to talk. She seemed all happy, like nothing was wrong. And then I asked her what was up with those messages.

 

She said she didn't mean to be rude, but she was trying to tell me I was somethering her. When she was the one always following me at school.

 

apparently she thought a text message a few times a week was smothering. That's what friends do?

 

I'm constantly texting everyday, my boyfriend, friends, everyone.

 

And apparently she is so anti-social that the only person she ever texts on a regular basis is her boyfriend. And anyone else is automatically smothering her if they text her more then once a week. Um okaay.

 

And I said that was really weird, and there was a dozen of different ways she could of told me Vs saying flat out, "I don't like you. I wont reply to your messages. I just don't like you." Um hello? That does NOT tell someone to lay off on the texting.

 

 

Yet she still considers us friends?

 

Um this girl has totaly turned me off from being friends. I think I'm going to leave it as is and take a page out of Annie's page and keep it as JUST school friends.

 

I don't want to further any other kind of friendship with this girl outside of school. I'll socialize with "social" people lol.

 

 

What is your guys' take on this?

[JadedStar]

I think she is a very straightforward person who likely did what others wish they could do on certain occasions but just don't. She doesn't want to keep up the pretense of friendship and was pretty blunt about it. Just let it go. Better to do that than do what some people do and pretend to be friends and gossip when the person leaves. For that she probably deserves a bit of credit.

[lost1607307474]

My take on this is that everybody socialises and interacts with others in different ways, so you don't need to go paying this girl out and saying "what is wrong with her" and "she is so anti-social." If you don't like the way she interacts with you or other friends, don't be friends with her. If it is really stressing you out just ignore her and move on.

[Rose21]

It is really stressing me out. I can't stop dwelling and I can't understand why.

 

I can't predict her bi-polar antics and it's just weird, because at first she was so open and social with me.

 

And now she's just lost interest...

 

Worse then a guy.

 

And I can't understand it. I was happy to of thought to make a new friend, and now that's not the case.

 

Something felt a little too good to be true.

[JadedStar]

Just because she said she no longer wanted to be friends does not make her bi polar.

[Rose21]

I didn't say she was bipolar because of that.

 

Her moods are just all over the place, one day she's best friends, the next she wants nothing to do with me.

 

She's simply not consistent.

 

And I mean that in only the most literal of terms.

[Isha]

I think she is a very straightforward person who likely did what others wish they could do on certain occasions but just don't. She doesn't want to keep up the pretense of friendship and was pretty blunt about it. Just let it go. Better to do that than do what some people do and pretend to be friends and gossip when the person leaves. For that she probably deserves a bit of credit.

 

 

I agree with this.

[Rose21]

I don't think that's it.

 

I just think she lacks certain social functions.

 

There is better ways to do such a thing.

 

Her actions dont make due with her words.

[Isha]

Juts because you didn't like how she dealt with this situation, doesn't make her wrong or lacking social skills. She was honest and blunt, some people just have that kind of personality.

 

Stressing and obsessing about it isn't going to make her like you or 'improve' her social skills to your standards. Be polite if you see her, but let it go.

[Peppermint_P]

Hi Annie,

 

I don't think your friend was being anti-social so much as she was just being honest. Some people are just very, very particular about what social events interest them or not.

 

I mean really... there are some social events that sound so boring that I would rather stay home and stare at the ceiling or get a root canal than actually attend.

 

In such cases I've had to lie and say I have "other plans" and make up a story about my "plans."

 

I only wish I could be as honest as your friend as I get tired of making up stories ... and trying to remember them, lol.

 

Anyway... kudos to your friend for having the guts to speak her mind even if it did ruffle your feathers.

 

Peppermint Patty

 

 

 

i remember i once asked a friend of mine to attend a show i was going to be in (the show was on a saturday night, 4 months in the future). my friend told me she would not be there, because she was tired, and preferred to spend her saturday nights staring at a ceiling and relaxing. i was so pissed at her. ok, it's one thing if she's not into dance recitals, she could have just looked at her calendar and told me she had other plans (like what a normal person would say!) obviously, telling someone that you'll be asleep on your sofa 4 months from now on a saturday night is really rude and anti-social. it took me a good 6 months before i would speak to her again.

[JadedStar]

Hi Annie,

 

I don't think your friend was being anti-social so much as she was just being honest. Some people are just very, very particular about what social events interest them or not.

 

I mean really... there are some social events that sound so boring that I would rather stay home and stare at the ceiling or get a root canal than actually attend.

 

In such cases I've had to lie and say I have "other plans" and make up a story about my "plans."

 

I only wish I could be as honest as your friend as I get tired of making up stories ... and trying to remember them, lol.

 

Anyway... kudos to your friend for having the guts to speak her mind even if it did ruffle your feathers.

 

Peppermint Patty

 

 

I really agree. I admit that there are some saturdays that all i want to do is vegetate at home and not really want to go to some event or function.

I don't think it is necessarily better to lie to a person and make up some other activity when all you want to do is be home and relax after a grueling work week. So i also don't think the friend in question was being rude or anti social, just honest.