blue69 Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Some women will like bigger some smaller. To each there own. Why worry about something like this? Find someone you are compatible with. Physically and emotionally. Lots of qualities, lots of choices. We (men) are all different for a reason. Because each woman is different in what she desires. Big ones, fat ones, skinny ones, little ones, curved ones and straight ones. And admit it we are all shallow to a degree. We have preferences. We make initial judgements. Now if a woman meets a man, sees his smaller package and then goes. STOP. No sex. We can't continue, that is her choice. But many women have been surprised after being with a smaller man. Just as many men have been surprised that they enjoyed sex with a larger woman. We all have preferences. And not all men with LARGE packages know how to use them. There is more to sexuality than the size of a penis. Link to comment
thistime Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 True but some women have very loose hairy axe wounds and they get looked at negatively for that reason. What guy wants to have sex with someone when it feels like your throwing a hot dog down a hallway? This is true also...Men arent the only ones who have size issues. Women are scrutinized for the size...or lack thereof...of their breasts, and i have several male friends, who have made comments about how a woman is 'so loose" it's like screwing a bucket of water. So I guess it is true, that the 'fit" of a couple is unique to the couple itself. I'm sorry if I offended anyone who has been made to feel inadequate. Link to comment
george237 Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 This is true also...Men arent the only ones who have size issues. Women are scrutinized for the size...or lack thereof...of their breasts, and i have several male friends, who have made comments about how a woman is 'so loose" it's like screwing a bucket of water. So I guess it is true, that the 'fit" of a couple is unique to the couple itself. I'm sorry if I offended anyone who has been made to feel inadequate. I think the guy just needs to realize that everyone has abnormalities its just he got stuck with this one. There is nothing you can do about it and you have to make it work to your advantage. Link to comment
Nutz Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 my first husband had a 3" penis...not kidding! honestly, I was young and I thought sex wasnt as important as connecting as people, but the sex was NOT satisfying. My second husband was 'average"...about 5-6" and sex was good. He was just kind of a jerk...but the current BF is very well endowed, and the sex is great. However, I do agree that if a man really knows what he is doing in bed, you can still be very satisfied, and over time, if you have a connection to him, the sex will be more emotional then physical. You said you saw that he was smaller then normal...was he erect? There can be ALOT of difference in size between fully erect, and normally flacid (guys are you with me?) The main question is ...is he good in bed? So in other words.... all things being equal the bigger ones are just purely more enjoyable from a physical perspective (up to a point). Only then does the emotional aspects kick in to increase or decrease the "connection" and overall emotional fulfillment of doing the act. That actually jives with what I've found to be true in past discussions on the topic over the years. Just thought I'd rephrase it so it's obvious to others what you seemed to be getting at. And after reading this thread start to finish, something struck me as odd. Why would anyone talking about sex take a virgin's advice with anything more than a grain of salt? Debaser has some pretty strong opinions on the matter for never experiencing the act. It reminds me of a saying I once heard about never trusting a bald barber to cut your hair. Link to comment
george237 Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 So in other words.... all things being equal the bigger ones are just purely more enjoyable from a physical perspective (up to a point). Only then does the emotional aspects kick in to increase or decrease the "connection" and overall emotional fulfillment of doing the act. That actually jives with what I've found to be true in past discussions on the topic over the years. Just thought I'd rephrase it so it's obvious to others what you seemed to be getting at. And after reading this thread start to finish, something struck me as odd. Why would anyone talking about sex take a virgin's advice with anything more than a grain of salt? Debaser has some pretty strong opinions on the matter for never experiencing the act. It reminds me of a saying I once heard about never trusting a bald barber to cut your hair. Hey my barber is bald. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Hey my barber is bald. Not much different than a male gynocologist is it? LOL Link to comment
liquer Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Yes, I have also become very aware that in their flacid state, penises can be very small...but change considerably when erect. anyone remember that episode of Seinfeld where George went swimming and had "shrinkage?" I never saw that episode but it does happen, mother nature has a great snese of humour. Link to comment
liquer Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 i think thats why guys have a different idea of "average'. Yes I would say men in porn are above average....WAY above average. Thats why they are in porn. Ok here is MY opinion...dont draw the firing squad on me...It's based on what I have expirienced. (erect) 3-4" I consider small. 5-7" average, and 8" or 9", above average. Over 9" ...well, I hope you look good on film, cuz you probably should be. But again, just my opinion.... Thanks for sharing your opinion but I think whatever you've got, from a button mushrroom to being hung like a donkey, just accept it and have fun with what you've got. Link to comment
sff123 Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 yup, you're really shallow for posting this Link to comment
liquer Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Before I open this, what is it off? Link to comment
liquer Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Big or small just accept it and be happy! LOL - always makes me laugh the nick-names they have for tiddlers! rosebuds, acorns, button mushrooms, shrivelled prunes. Very descriptive. Link to comment
ezellohar Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 I'd give him more than one chance. Great sex on the first try is just plain unrealistic. Sex is something you can learn from each other as every person has different needs during sex. Well, the first time with my fiance' was great, but that's probably just because I'm so good Seriously though, did the OP ever respond as to the state of her bf's erection? Semi, totally, etc? I didn't read all the way through. I consider myself tiny when flaccid, but I'm six inches or so erect, so average. And I do mean tiny *shrugs* Link to comment
zenbabyk Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 My ex boyfriend had the smallest junk ever. EVER. He asked me if he was small one day, and then I told him the story of Goldielocks and the 3 bears. You will eventually find a position that works for you... it will take awhile but for real... it's not about the size, it's about how they use it! Link to comment
Nutz Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Before I open this, what is it off? Just a funny cartoon. Link to comment
liquer Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 My ex boyfriend had the smallest junk ever. EVER. He asked me if he was small one day, and then I told him the story of Goldielocks and the 3 bears. You will eventually find a position that works for you... it will take awhile but for real... it's not about the size, it's about how they use it! Lovely! I only wish there were more women out there like you! Link to comment
My Advice Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 I probably sound completely shallow posting this but i've been dating this guy for 3 weeks and yesterday i saw him naked for the first time while we were fooling around. His "parts" are alot smaller then what i'm used to and i feel really ashamed of myself for letting it bother me. But it really does bother me So how can i overcome this? Is it something i just have to get used to? I really like this guy alot, but i can't get over the fact of how small it is ](*,) If you aren't able to be sexually satisfied with him because he has a small dingle ling then you should probably quit now before he gets any more attached to you. However, remember that you could feel no bitterness if a guy dumped you because he decided afterward your fun bags are too small. Link to comment
liquer Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 Mind you I'd hate to hung like an acorn! Link to comment
Tia2012 Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 You're not shallow! I've had experiences of both sides of the coin. Personally, really big is too big and vice versa. I went from someone quite well endowed to someone who was average and I thought 'oh my god, what am I going to do with this?'. However, the average guy won hands down, purely because he was patient, did what I asked him to do without being selfish of his own needs, and orgasms followed! Likewise, funnily, with a guy who's penis bent to the left! (As for the virgin, take it easy, enjoy each other, kiss, cuddle and get turned on. No matter what the size it'll fit. Us girls give birth don't forget!) Link to comment
annalisa84 Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 I prefer it bigger as well But I would not leave my bf cos he has a smaller one. But if it's not "smaller" anymore, but rather it's "really really small" and makes having sex difficult, I wouldn't be able to overcome it. Link to comment
Organs Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 There's a good ten pages or so of comments I didn't read, so I run the risk of repeating a point. To those women who claim it's all about the size of the penis, lemme ask you: If you were going out with a guy who had a big (but not too big) phallus but treated you like crap, would you mind? Like you're just there for sex and making him a sandwich, and if you argue with him, he beats the snot out of you? That's an extreme, I know, but if all you care about is sex and nothing about the guy's personality or financial standing has any meaning to you, then I'd venture to say you're a...well, it's hard to use words without being censored....to say you're a harem girl minus the income. Then again, if you're in your 40s and are tired of relationships, go ahead and make the rounds. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 I once remember reading an interview from an actress that said that if a guy is bigger, then she was willing to put up with a little more than she would with a guy that wasn't. Pretty rediculous. Tho why the bump for this? It was already 21 pages long. Link to comment
Sparkley Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 I agree with you johnny and fell sorry for the women that think like that, the guy it is attached to is more important than the size and most women don't put a lot of stock in size and those that do need thier heads examined!!!!! Link to comment
jonny15 Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 I agree with you johnny and fell sorry for the women that think like that, the guy it is attached to is more important than the size and most women don't put a lot of stock in size and those that do need thier heads examined!!!!! Yea....It doesn't make sense that someone would do that. They could always just buy a big dildo and not have to put up with crap. Some people are extremely shallow. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 ^^^ that's definitely a good suggestion! kegel exercises! why does she have to do kegel exercises for a guy she has only been dating for 3 weeks? I honestly would move on unless I really really liked him. Link to comment
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