thefireisoutanyway Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 1. A women I met from an on-line dating site. She told me that 'we should definitely meet over the weekend and watch a movie or something.' When I called her, she didn't answer. Instead, she e-mailed me back, saying that she didn't really feel any connection. 2. A woman I know gave me her number, telling me to call her if I'm ever bored. Up to date, she has never picked up the phone when I called. 3. A girl who is a friend of mine told me that we should hang out more often, and said she'd call me. I invited her out a few times, but she's never come. And no, she's never called me. Yes, I am having a bit of a temper tantrum right now, because it's been bubbling up a bit for the past few days. I wasn't begging these people to spend time with me. But they offered, and so I called, just to get shot down? Why? Is it fun toying with other people's feelings? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 1. she was truthful 2. she blew you off already with the call her when your bored statement 3. this doesn't sound like a friend it's only 3 girls. there are like 2.5 billion women on the planet. so 2,499,999,997 more chances for this crap. lol jk. but don't base all your stuff on 3 girls. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I do not think that is a female issue only. Link to comment
Phedre Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 It's not only women. It's a question of personality. I am bit different, albeit not better, I'd rather shut up than saying something I don't mean. The best case would be to just speak your mind, but it's not always appropriate and definitely the hardest option. Link to comment
Truth317 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Some women have a tendency of doing these kind of things. I think sometimes they're just trying to be nice and it's not meant to be taken seriously. Also, a lot of times, women are interested but they may play a lot of mind games to see how far you're willing to reach out for them. Some ladies live off of the cat & mouse. They love to see a man break his neck to reach for their heart. And usually with these situations, the game is over when YOU decide it's over. Link to comment
ApplePeace Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 yup not all woman do that, same thing with guys..but dont take it personal. Link to comment
Truth317 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 it's only 3 girls. there are like 2.5 billion women on the planet. so 2,499,999,997 more chances for this crap. lol jk. but don't base all your stuff on 3 girls. hahahaha damn true. Link to comment
KLJJ Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Women are trained to be polite from birth. Polite translates into "little white lies" in order to let people down gently. Women know this about one another so if my female friend says, "We are definitely hanging out this weekend" I take it with a grain a salt. I say stuff like this all the time myself. Any of the following might be said purely to be polite, there may not be any actual sincerity behind it: "We need to hang out soon." "Call me." "I'll call you." "Let's hang out next weekend." Etc., etc. And anything with a "maybe" means no. Such as, "Maybe we'll get dinner tomorrow or something." When a woman really likes a guy, she's giddy and hyper about it. Even the most restrained woman can rarely help herself from smiling constantly and blushing with the mere thought of the guy. So, if a woman really likes you, it really should be pretty obvious and she will definitely not blow of phone call or plans you try to make. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I know men that have said the same thing. In fact my husband says all kind of things I know he has no intention of doing........it is merely said to keep someone off your back without being rude. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 This is also very true. We train our female children to be far more polite. Link to comment
Truth317 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Women are trained to be polite from birth. Polite translates into "little white lies" in order to let people down gently. Women know this about one another so if my female friend says, "We are definitely hanging out this weekend" I take it with a grain a salt. I say stuff like this all the time myself. Any of the following might be said purely to be polite, there may not be any actual sincerity behind it: "We need to hang out soon." "Call me." "I'll call you." "Let's hang out next weekend." Etc., etc. And anything with a "maybe" means no. Such as, "Maybe we'll get dinner tomorrow or something." That's why you gals are all focked up now! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Not really.....LOL.....we have what WE want you are the ones complaining....lol Link to comment
mfan Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Sorry for your recent group of bad experiences, but there are good friends out there too. Im my opinion: Only the first girl's actions surprise me. She sounded like she liked you and I can't explain what happened to her. #2: Stay away from any woman who uses the word "bored". If a woman wants to hang out with you because *she's* "bored", then it means (a) your job will be to entertain her and you won't get anything out of it yourself except the "wonderful" feeling of having kept someone from being bored, and (b) if something better comes along she will do that instead; meanwhile of course you got your hopes up. And if you call her because *you're* bored, well obviously that means you have nothing to do so that's kind of lame in her opinion, right? When you hear the word "Bored", get away. #3. I have some friends like #3. They're really sweet people, it's just that they make way too many commitments. They're always hypothetically planning stuff and never actually do it. Despite the flakiness, they are truly fun to be around, and, as long as I don't invest emotionally in it, I've learned to live with this rather silly behavior of theirs. I don't consider them true friends because I can't count on them. But they are still friends. #3 likes you. She's probably just not able to handle her commitments. Sounds like you'd like a girl who's sweet, not just in words but in deeds, and who says what she means. There are really lots of girls like that. Really! Good luck. Link to comment
girl68 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I'd like to know why men say things they don't mean. They say they'll call but don't. They say they like you but don't act like it. Why do PEOPLE say things they don't mean? Easy, they don't want to hurt your feelings. They are 'too nice' to say no. They found someone/something better. They never liked you in the first place and used you as a confidence booster. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 That's why I rarely take women seriously and I know it's not their fault the way they are because they may have been treated the same way by a Guy but I just don't put a lot of stock into what women say in 2008 and after. Link to comment
grymoire Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 That's why I rarely take women seriously and I know it's not their fault the way they are because they may have been treated the same way by a Guy but I just don't put a lot of stock into what women say in 2008 and after. you are hilarious dude Link to comment
madmarten Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 This needs to be bumped again. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 you are hilarious dude I been stood up and down all year and thought I was going out on a 2nd date in August so I know you can't take MOST women seriosuly Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I think women say stuff like this because they are trying to be nice. If they tell it like it is then they are a b*tch...so really we can't win... Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I think women say stuff like this because they are trying to be nice. If they tell it like it is then they are a b*tch...so really we can't win... I don't have respect for women who try to be nice Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 I don't have respect for women who try to be nice i would love to know what kind of woman you do have respect for CD seems to be few and far between... Link to comment
lady00 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 People change their minds, meet someone else, get back together with an ex. The list goes on. Lots of things can happen between someone saying they'd like to hang out and them saying something different when to making concrete plans. As for saying something that a person already knows they will not do: It's funny because this is something that so many people have commented on in books, tv, and movies. People often say things they have no intent on following though on them, just because we are so used to doing it that it turns into a habit. It's so easy to say something and sometimes it seems like the right thing to say, even when you feel like you won't follow through. Link to comment
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