BronzedSkin123 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 I met a guy a few days ago when I was out. The next day he called me, but I didn't pick up the phone. He called me again the following day. Eventually, I call him back. I figured let me just put myself out there, you never know what will happen. He is a nice guy, outgoing, and we get to talking. We decide to meet up for a date, right before we get off the phone he makes a comment for me to remind him what I look like. I was so insulted and my self esteem hit the floor. I couldn't believe that he forgot what I looked like, yet he remembered to call me. I said, "wow you can't remember what I look like. what a low blow." then he says, "I meet a 1,000 people a day. just remind me". What is that saying about this guy? I really don't even feel attractive anymore. I'm not even sure if I am cut out for this dating mess Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 i meet a ton of girls when i'm out. i get phone numbers. yeah, so. sometimes it's foggy out. or so the beer says. what is the big deal? it's not like you met up with him 100 times and he knows you really well. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 It's a little weird for him to say that. If I were you I'd tell him that he can be reminded on the date. I don't think him asking that question means that you are somehow unattractive- so don't take it that way. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Some people don't remember faces that well - just a general impression of *fancying* someone. It's not an insult, just a little bit 'off' when he's phoning you. I would meet up with him once, and see how it goes. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Not a smooth move on his part but, not a big deal either. If you like him get past it and eventually he wont forget. When I talk to girls I forget their names and where they are from all the time. Its not that I am not listening or paying attention, my short term is pretty bad. One reminder is enough. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 I don't think it's uncommon to forget what someone looks like if you only met once- I think it's a little socially weird that he came right out and said it (whereas most people probably would not) but maybe he is just really honest.... Link to comment
Antimonic Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 personally, if someone said that to me i would take it as "you are just as insignificant as the other 1000 people i see everyday." dont let this get to you, this is just a bad dating experience, there will be better ones in the future!!! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 personally, if someone said that to me i would take it as "you are just as insignificant as the other 1000 people i see everyday." dont let this get to you, this is just a bad dating experience, there will be better ones in the future!!! but aren't you one of the other 1000 i meet? Link to comment
Antimonic Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 yeah but dont tell me that! thats bound to make someone feel insignificant and un-special dontcha think? Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted May 21, 2008 Author Share Posted May 21, 2008 I take it that I am not that pretty enough to remember): Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 I take it that I am not that pretty enough to remember): Or you can say that he was too dumb to remember how pretty you are. You need to change your view of the world. lol (Okay my view about him being dumb is not too nice so I don't necessarily think you should take my advice either lol) Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 yeah but dont tell me that! thats bound to make someone feel insignificant and un-special dontcha think? i met you for 5 minutes, we had a great conversation, we exchanged phone numbers. that's the most i've seen you. what is the big deal? i'll admit, i have met girls and forgot exactly what they looked like. but i have never gotten a number from a girl who i didn't find attractive. so i will meet up anyways. i'll usually ask what they are wearing so i can find them easier though when i get to our destination. I take it that I am not that pretty enough to remember) seriously? you guys really think you are that special after one quick chat and number exchange? i don't even know you yet. you are just another face so far. seriously, that's all you are at that point. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted May 21, 2008 Author Share Posted May 21, 2008 Yes, I like to feel that I am special, and at least pretty enough to remember. It makes me feel so unpretty. Also, I made plans to go over to his apartment. Was this a good idea? He lives in my neighborhood. I thought I'd just stop by for a second Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 i'll admit, i have met girls and forgot exactly what they looked like. but i have never gotten a number from a girl who i didn't find attractive. so i will meet up anyways. Excellent point! Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Also, I made plans to go over to his apartment. Was this a good idea? He lives in my neighborhood. I thought I'd just stop by for a second If you barely know him- I don't think that is a good idea. Go on a date in a public place. Link to comment
servedcold Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Well he could have said, "were you the one with the green top, the one with the tattoo, or the one with the nose ring?" Kidding aside, I've had this problem so many times net dating. It doesn't reflect on you in the least. It takes me several times seeing someone to place a face with a name if we haven't spent much time together, and that's if 100% sober. Doesn't say anything about the impression you made on him. Don't bring it up when you meet or seem to be fishing for compliments, as guys find that annoying. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 i would be pretty offended...why wouldn't he just wait till you guys met up and then refresh his memory...i just think the guy is a moron for saying it and that is why you shouldn't see him again... Link to comment
lila... Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 seriously? you guys really think you are that special after one quick chat and number exchange? i don't even know you yet. you are just another face so far. seriously, that's all you are at that point. Whoa ghost...way to make a girl feel down! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Whoa ghost...way to make a girl feel down! well, it's the truth. do you remember a face of some attractive guy you saw one day passing by? no. but if you saw him again, you'd remember. i have no idea why you guys think a quick first meeting is so special. get over it. Link to comment
servedcold Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 i would be pretty offended...why wouldn't he just wait till you guys met up and then refresh his memory...i just think the guy is a moron for saying it and that is why you shouldn't see him again... Eh this too, he is kind of a nebbish for even bringing it up... Link to comment
lila... Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Even if it was true that a guy couldn't remember a girl's face, he should never say it! It's their job to make them feel special and unforgettable lol. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 Eh this too, he is kind of a nebbish for even bringing it up... i do agree he's an idiot. but i don't think it's that big of a deal. Link to comment
lila... Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 I wouldn't remember a guy's face if I had met him months ago maybe, but a few days ago? And we even chatted? Unforgivable! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 I wouldn't remember a guy's face if I had met him months ago maybe, but a few days ago? And we even chatted? Unforgivable! and u were drunk? Link to comment
lila... Posted May 21, 2008 Share Posted May 21, 2008 and u were drunk? What do you mean? Would I remember him if I was drunk? Link to comment
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