gaiabee

I think, for now, you're getting a little ahead of yourself. Why not let things unfold slowly and just go with the flow? At this point, the two of you haven't made anything official. Maybe you should just keep things casual for a bit until you are both ready to move on to the next level. To be honest, I get jealous when I hear that someone's signigicant other is only 2 hours away.... 2 hours seems like nothing to me (I can't even get to my bf in a 2 hour plane ride!). However, everything is relative...so what seems close to me is a million miles for the next guy. Anyway, if it eventually turns into something special, the distance will definitely have an affect, but it won't stop the both of you. For now, my advice to you is to slow down a bit. Oh, and don't be afraid of getting hurt...nothing can guarantee that. I'm not trying to be pessimistic, but she could be living next door to you and still hurt you... relationships are always about taking risks.

I'm confused about this part: i sometimes believe our problems that we faced in the past with her trusting me makes her feel like she shouldn't be all affectionate since maybe something like THAT might happen again. What does "THAT" mean? Did you cheat or get insanely jealous or something? Anyway... yes, you should talk to her about it. I mean, of COURSE you should talk to her about it. It's a relationship... you are SUPPOSED to tell each other how you feel. When you are in a long distance relationship ALL YOU HAVE IS COMMUNICATION... so if that is lacking you're not going to get very far. Maybe you are both in two different places with how you feel, maybe you're not... the only people who can figure that out are you and her. If you feel that she's insensitive or that you're too needy and jealous you need to try to fix that and come up with a compromise. If they are not fixable, then you will always have these problems... and I don't mean just in this relationship, but in others as well. You will soon see (as you already have) that unresolved relatioship problems have an uncanny tendency to repeat themselves in any relationship you get into.

I'm not a guy, but I'll offer you advice anyway... First of all, you had every right to confront him on his conflicting behavior. Maybe you went about it the wrong way, but you have every right to tell him how you feel. You've been dealing with this guy who's been messing with your head for however long the relationship has been, but one outburst from you and he starts avoiding you?! Something is not right here. Another warning is that he hasn't once had a serious relationship, which means... he doesn't know how to have a serious relationship. When I date a guy I like to know he's had at least ONE major relationship in his life because past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.... and, of course, relationships take practice. I agree with letting him go...if he comes back, so be it... just make sure he knows what he wants.

From what you write, you seem to want an open, honest relationship with someone. Unfortunately, the woman you want this with doesn't seem ready for the same. She may be a wonderful person, but is in a messy period in her life right now and probably shouldn't be dating anybody... especially somebody who wants a committment. It would be easier for you to back off and find someone with a little less baggage (we all have some baggage...but this is too much). If you still REALLY want to be with her, tell her to call you after the divorce is final. Maybe at that point she could truly date you rather than treat you like someone she's cheating on her husband with.

Yes, you should be making a big deal about this.... especially since it upsets you so much. This is not going to just go away. Your relationship is turning into one of mistrust, sneakiness, jealousy and sadness. Honestly, I don't know your situation... but if it were me I would give him an ultimatum... if he didn't stop, I'd leave. I wouldn't want to live like that because I'd consider it cheating too. But you need to do what you feel is right for you. Good Luck

When you are in a long distance relationship, ALL YOU HAVE IS COMMUNICATION... so if something is bothering you, you MUST tell him. I'm not telling you to get in a huge fight over this, just calmly tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. You must be open to his reasoning - and realize that in ANY relationship the beginning is often the most exciting. I mean, who really has TIME to call 5 times an hour every single day... life happens and you must try not to be so upset about this. On the other hand, it IS important to maintain some of the initial spark for each other, it feels great when he sends you little messages to know that he's thinking of you... so maybe if you explain this to him you two can come up with a compromise. Just talk to him.